Zhang Ailing once said:
"You can use whatever method you can get love, but maintaining love requires wisdom."
is indeed the case. When the relationship begins, the freshness makes both parties wear filters in their eyes, which makes them fascinated by each other. However, as time goes by, the initial freshness gradually fades away, and the filter of love slowly disappears, and the relationship is easily greatly reduced.
If there is no wisdom to pull it in it, then love will wither sooner or later.
In fact, it is impossible to keep love at its original passion. Any long-lasting relationship is just because both parties can maintain their charm and fascinate each other during the process.
and are easy to keep men fascinated.
01: Understand
There is a saying on the Internet:
"The beautiful skin is the same, and the interesting soul is one in a million."
In the vast sea of people, who doesn't want to meet his soul mate, but in fact, no one in this world is born to be his soul mate. After all, the so-called soul mate is the person who can share the same frequency with him, the person who can understand himself.
Understanding is a kind of ability, a kind of ability to manage feelings.
In the love between Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu , we can find that understanding is the key to making that love last longer.
There is a clip like this:
When Yang Jiang was in confinement after giving birth, Qian Zhongshu was still messed up. The ink dyed the landlord's tablecloth and the desk lamp was broken by him. He could only admit his mistake to Yang Jiang like a child. Yang Jiang's reply was always: "It doesn't matter, I'll repair it."
Yang Jiang understood that Qian Zhongshu had the idea of helping that he tolerated the mistakes he made. Yang Jiang's understanding also made Qian Zhongshu cherish this relationship more.
In any relationship, time will dilute the initial passion, and what really remains is actually the heart of mutual understanding and tolerance.
Life is composed of all kinds of trivial things. A man may be moved by a momentary passion, but what can really make him continue to fascinate must be the one who understands himself.
02: Respect
Zhou Guoping wrote in "Confetti in the Wind":
"Good love is the free and easy way of both parties taking freedom as the highest gift, and the cherishment of never abuse this freedom."
In the TV series " Knows ", the relationship between Mr. Qi and Mr. Qi has become a regret in the hearts of many people, and after he got married, he still failed to let go of Minglan completely, leaving the token of love between the two, hiding that unwilling relationship.
Once, when his wife discovered the token of love between the two, she wanted to get his explanation, but he kept silent.
The wife has some knowledge of the inside story, but she did not make a noise and chose to respect her husband's past.
It was not until later that the young master finally saw his wife's kindness and cared about her that he took the initiative to explain the past to his wife.
No matter how vigorous the initial love is, what can truly leave a deep impression on the years must be respect for each other.
Only by respecting each other can a relationship become comfortable, and a comfortable relationship can make people think of it. Therefore, what can make men continue to fascinate is the woman who respects themselves.
03: Self-love
In the book " Madame Bofari ", Emma was a little girl who longed for romantic love when she was not married, but the reality was not satisfactory. At the age of marriage, the man she married was just an ordinary and vulgar man, and there was no connection with romantic love at all.
The unsatisfactory marriage began to make her fall into self-indulgence. She met Leon and Rodolph one after another. In them, she really felt love.
However, when she was enthusiastic about those two relationships, the two men just regarded that encounter as a game, so that after Emma squandered her property, the two men immediately turned against each other.
Whether it is Leon or Rodolph, they were indeed addicted to Emma's beauty at the beginning of their acquaintance, but their favorability based on their appearance was too easy to fade away. In addition, Emma has long been a wife, so it is even more impossible for the two of them to be fascinated by Emma.
In fact, the person who can truly make men continue to fascinate is the kind of self-loved woman.
Even if they don’t have a beautiful appearance, they have a temperament that transcends appearance, will to be unyielding to fate, optimism to move forward, etc., which are enough to fascinate men.
To put it bluntly, if a woman knows how to love herself, a man will cherish her efforts and sincerity more.
days later, I hope you and me can become a person who continues to fascinate.
I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!
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