Psychologist Zotova believes that psychological security refers to a person being able to meet the basic needs of self-protection (such as food, water and shelter) and feeling psychologically sheltered (supported and seen). It is related to family relationships, intimacy outside the family (friendship, peer, sexual partnership, etc.). ), career, hobbies, life philosophy.
So, how does a person with security behave?
1. Having a better sense of self-awareness and other people's abilities can provide others with a stronger sense of emotional security;
2. Having a positive self-image and a positive image of others means that they have a sense of self-worth and look forward to the acceptance and response of others. Believe that your partner or friend is dedicated, interested, and capable of listening and understanding yourself;
3. Be able to enjoy intimate relationships. When entering an intimate relationship, he feels relaxed and his vigilance is reduced; when he faces setbacks and failures, he has better psychological resilience, that is, after experiencing negative emotions, he can get out of it;
4. Be willing to seek social support and share his feelings with others;
5. Pay attention to interpersonal relationships and believe that interpersonal relationships have a positive impact on himself;
7. After experiencing trauma events, he can describe trauma coherently, look at it from multiple angles, and understand why he was like this at that time and why others were like this.
8. During adult attachment interviews, they showed a willingness to recall and discuss attachment relationships. Moreover, when describing past attachment objects (such as parents and relatives), the whole body shows objectivity (neither idealized nor distorted).
