Reading Review: Take the essence (1) "Man comes from Mars , and woman comes from Venus" John Gray
Usually, men and women will mistakenly think: If the other party really loves me, then he (she) should be as good to me as he or she is. When Martians and Venus were together, they forgot that they came from different planets and forgot to tolerate each other's differences, so the conflict between them gradually arises.
Men like to fight alone and be self-reliant. When they encounter problems, they are used to carrying on their own. The career is like a man's life. Only when they succeed in their careers can they feel that they have realized their self-worth. When others ask them questions, they will regard it as supreme glory. They do not need women's fingers because they prefer to play an expert in one aspect.
women learn from experience and learn from each other by getting along with others and communicating with each other. They believe that only by helping others can their existence be considered valuable, and only by handling interpersonal relationships can they be considered successful. Most women's endless and full of complaints only require someone to listen, not so-called suggestions.
What men need to understand is that women need to decompress by confession. Listening helps to forget the troubles of the day, and at the same time brings great satisfaction to their lover. Women need to understand that men's avoidance and indulgence in hobbies are also their way to relieve stress. You need to adjust your state, find something else to do, and don't make a big deal to make trouble for yourself.
Women can enjoy men's care with peace of mind. You need to understand that you are worthy of being loved, rather than worrying about please, let alone giving hard work. A man's care for his beloved can better reflect his value and sense of existence. Even if a man does not know how to give at the beginning, then a woman guides with a tolerant heart and learns to set boundaries, so that she can better accept and enjoy the other person's love and help.
Good communication between men and women comes from their speaking different languages. Women will not express their requirements directly. They are good at using embellished and dramatic language. I hope men can guess what they think. Men are accustomed to using words to convey information and express facts. If they understand women's language literally, quarrels are easily about to break out.
So women should not communicate with men with criticism and complaints, respect men's silence, and men do not like to be preached or attempted to be transformed. They feel that this offends their dignity and feel that they are not trusted. Of course, men should also give women timely comfort and promises to let women know that you will not leave her.
Author of this article: Shang Yulan
