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Many girls get married and go to get along well with their husband-in-law.
So when many girls first arrived at their husband’s house, they were simple and kind, and treated all the people in their husband’s house as their own family members, and treated all the things in their husband’s house as their own business, and did their best to complete them.
However, after a long time, I found that such a daughter-in-law is a sucker in the eyes of her in-laws. It is natural for people to do more and do well. If you do something wrong, people will dislike you and complain about you, and will push all the mistakes on you.
So many women become more and more distant from their in-laws after getting married for a few years, and only focus on their own small family. Because they realized that their daughter-in-law's identity was the one who took the blame in the family. Therefore, no matter how kind the daughter-in-law is, she should not help the in-laws’ family. Not only will she not be grateful but also complain.
Don’t take your own initiative to help your husband’s family say that the mediation
Marriage is a major event in life, and it is also a major event that involves a lifetime of several families. Many women are enthusiastic and like to be matchmakers, and they match one-on-one pairs of young people. They are very happy to see the two of them who are in charge of success.
I think if I really have resources, I really want to be addicted to a matchmaker. I would rather match relatives who are far away. Don’t force yourself to match the husband’s family, especially the younger sister-in-law and older sister-in-law. You are kind enough to match, even if you just introduce them to each other, they will get married by themselves.
It is because people have their own vision. If you don’t have a good life, just wait, and you will be complained every few days. If a couple gets divorced, even you, a matchmaker, will be hated, resulting in everyone in the in-laws having any objection to you, and then there will be no one inside or outside.
Don’t help with money in the family
In life, there are always times when big things happen. Every family has difficulties, and they inevitably need to borrow money to turn over. Borrowing money is the most likely thing to cause family disputes. See how many relatives around you end up breaking off contact because of borrowing money. The closer people are, the more likely they are to have disputes due to financial transactions.
As a daughter-in-law, she takes good care of her own family after marriage, and she will not support her parents' family without any bottom line, nor will she not targeted poverty alleviation in-laws' family. As the saying goes, "Thank you for emergency treatment but not for poverty." If your husband is in trouble for a while, you can help your husband overcome the difficulties with your husband. This way your husband will be grateful, which is more conducive to the management of the relationship between husband and wife.
But don’t get involved in money dealings with my husband’s family, let alone help. Listening to my in-laws crying in front of you, I foolishly took out my savings to help my in-laws. The consequence of doing this is not only that the money is wasted, but more importantly, the in-laws also believe that the daughter-in-law is scheming and calculating, and secretly hides private money on her back. It’s really because I spent my own money, and I can’t make any money.
Don’t be stupid and go to your parents’ home to borrow money for the sake of your in-laws’ family. This behavior is too stupid. It not only hurts the mother's family's money and interests, but also may create a gap between the mother's family and make everyone feel uneasy.
So women must be more careful after marriage, manage their own small family well, and don’t interfere with the affairs of their parents’ family, otherwise they will be offended by both sides in the end.
[Topic Discussion: As a daughter-in-law, have you ever suffered losses in this regard? 】
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