When you make a friend, what is the most concerned thing about?
Maybe it's how your friend is doing now? Maybe it’s out of comparison, maybe it’s out of curiosity, or maybe it’s also to use this as a basis and basis to judge whether a friend is worth dating. Anyway, how are your friends doing, is it good or bad? Is it high or low? These are things that we care about and pay great attention to in interpersonal communication.
However, even if the friends are doing poorly, several people are willing to show it. In interpersonal communication, people learn to disguise. Pretending to be elegant, wearing a few luxury brands, driving a luxury car borrowed from others, to support the scene for your humility and disconfidence.
Some people seem to be doing very well on the surface, but in fact, they are all bluffing and pretending to behave. This situation is really shocking.
How can you tell whether your friends are doing well at a glance? Then we must first understand what people are?
Everyone is an information body. His words, behavior, dress, etc. are all superficial information, and it is also the easiest to disguise and pretend and confuse the public. Only by mastering the in-depth information of each person can you see what this person looks like:
01 5 routine 01: Look at his residence
A person's residence can best see how a person is now doing.
Every city, no matter big or small, first-tier, second-tier or third-tier, has central locations and central areas. These areas often gather the wealthiest people in the city and the most development potential.
If your friend lives in such a place, it means that he has a certain financial strength, and it also means that he has a certain investment vision and can see that this central area has a certain appreciation space.
However, there are people like this who seem to be doing well on the surface, and they often talk about how rich they are. But his residence is an old house in a remote suburb. What would you think?
1. The hard work and simplicity of the rich? But how could a person who likes to show off his wealth buy such a remote house for himself?
2. Pretending to be low-key in front of friends? Not to mention, he is not a low-key person at all.
only has one answer: in fact, he is not doing well. For the sake of face, just brag about yourself in front of your friends.
02 5 routine 02: Look at how he is idle
There is a very classic and insightful sentence:
The appearance of a person when he is idle determines a person's pattern.
I agree with this sentence very much, the reason is very simple. When we are busy, everyone is busy and running hard, and there is basically no big difference. Because people are struggling.
How did the difference between people occur? Why do two people who entered the company at the same time and did the same job together, after many years, some were employees, while others were high-ranking managers?
There is only one answer: it is what you look like when you are idle.
When I was idle, one person was looking at the phone and the other was reading a book. The final development would definitely be different.
is the same for your friends. If a person is very successful, then when he is free, he will probably spend his time investing in himself. Either read books, study, or communicate and interact with people who are higher than you. In short, it is to use the free time to improve yourself.
But if a friend is in a normal state or is in a down-and-out position, he is likely to be working part-time, working overtime, or drinking with some friends to relieve his worries.
Some people may ask:
Some of my friends are doing well now, but when they are free, they are just entertainment and eating and spending time. Friends like
are just doing well in the moment, so in the near future, perhaps, they will slowly sink.Because a person who will not improve his value will be gradually overtaken in the future. Such a person just seems to be doing better now. Over time, the judgment will be made immediately.
03 routine 03: Look at his social circle
Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups.
Your friend may lie to you: he is doing well himself. However, his frequent contact with friends or his circle of friends will not lie. Because, what level a person is at, he will contact with what kind of people he will do.
The small employees of the company will not become true friends with the boss. If you really become friends, you will not be a clerk.
If you really want to know your friend, don’t listen to what he says, don’t care too much about what brand he wears or what kind of car he drives, but learn about his circle of friends.
04 5 routine 04: See where his child goes to school
As parents, everyone attaches importance to the education issues of their children.
If your friend’s child is studying in a top-ranked elementary school in the local area, it is not just because he values his children’s education. Behind this, it also shows that he can afford the school district house affiliated with primary school. The price of school district housing is often higher than that of ordinary residential buildings in central areas, and is several places. Friends like
not only have a certain degree of financial strength, but also his willingness to invest in children's education issues, which also shows that he has a visionary and development vision.
