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"House and wife are birds in the same forest, but when the disaster comes, they go their separate ways." This is the conclusion drawn by the painful experiences of many couples. In this world, not all couples share weal and woe, and are in the same boat through thick and thin.
Disaster is also a touchstone for marriage. Some couples look pretty good and love each other, because they have never experienced major things. If a major disaster falls on them, they may turn their backs on every minute.
So when looking for a partner, you need to find someone with good character. Only those with good character will bravely take responsibility. When a girl gets married, she not only marrys a man, but also marrys her family, so the character of her in-laws is also very important.
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Daughter-in-law had an abortion when she was three months pregnant. The mother-in-law was worried that her daughter-in-law would not be able to have children from now on, so she quietly told her son to hold the money tightly and ask her daughter-in-law's family to pay. When my daughter-in-law went for an examination, she felt so heartbroken after hearing this.
This happened to Huang Dandan. After she recovered from her illness, she insisted on divorceing her husband, and her parents also supported her very much. Let's listen to what she has experienced.
Self-reporter: Huang Dandan
Age: 31 years old
Occupation: clerk
City: Jingjiang
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My husband and I met on blind dates. He is one year older than me. Because we are older, both parents are urging us to hurry, so we saw that we are almost the same and we dated. After dating for half a year, I got married. In fact, I didn’t have much emotional foundation.
It was only the third month after marriage that my mother-in-law started giving birth to a child, saying that we were old and we should have a child as soon as possible. I also want to have a child soon, but the more anxious I am, the less I can't get pregnant. After not getting pregnant for half a year, my mother-in-law asked me to go to the hospital for a check-up. She suspected that there was something wrong with my health.
What my mother-in-law said is very ugly, as if it must be my problem. But I think having a baby is not my own business, so why is it necessarily my problem? I asked my husband to go for a check-up with me, but my husband was afraid of embarrassment and was unwilling to go.
My mother-in-law kept forcing me to go to the hospital. I had no choice but to force my husband and I to go to the hospital. Later, my husband finally agreed to go to the hospital with me. After the examination, the doctor said that my husband and I were fine, which may be caused by too much psychological pressure. The doctor told us to relax and take our time, and we will definitely get pregnant.
After I got home, I showed the report to my mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law stopped talking. Because my mother-in-law stopped saying anything, my husband and I relaxed. After four months, I became pregnant.
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After I got pregnant, of course I was very careful, but my mother-in-law and husband didn't take it seriously. They think it is normal for women to get pregnant and have children, and they are not sick, so they do not need to be taken care of by others.
When I was three months pregnant, one day my mother-in-law insisted on moving a cabinet, but she couldn't move it alone, so she asked me to help her carry it. I told her that when my husband and father-in-law come back, they will be strong when they ask their men to carry them. But my mother-in-law insisted on raising her now. She said that this little thing is not necessary to bother men.
I don’t want to lift it, for fear of affecting the fetus, so my mother-in-law scolded me for being spoiled and said nothing more. She said I was useless, I just lifted the cabinet or did some heavy physical work. I relied on my pregnancy and did nothing, saying that I was lazy and ate...
Later, I had no choice but to help my mother-in-law carry the cabinet. My mother-in-law didn't work hard, it all depends on me. I felt a little uncomfortable at that time, but my mother-in-law insisted on lifting it, so I had to lift it. By the afternoon, I felt my stomach hurt and my lower body was bleeding.
At the beginning, my mother-in-law and husband didn’t agree with it, as if I was pretending. At night, I had heavy bleeding and my husband took me to the hospital, but the doctor said I had an abortion. And other problems were found, and the doctor said he would have to be hospitalized for a while, and the problem was a bit serious.
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When my mother-in-law heard about my situation, her face looked ugly. She immediately chased the doctor and asked, "Do I not be pregnant in the future?" The doctor said this is not necessarily the case, it depends on the next treatment situation, and they cannot guarantee whether I can get pregnant again.
My mother-in-law's face looked even more ugly, as if I was sentenced to death with . She didn't take care of me anymore, so she either chatted with patients next to the hospital bed or went around outside the ward. Because my husband had to go to work and had no time to accompany me, my mother and mother-in-law took turns to accompany me.
When I was hospitalized on the fourth day, my mother-in-law should have been with me, but my mother-in-law was wandering around outside the ward again. When the doctor notified me to have a test, I called my mother-in-law, but if my mother-in-law didn't answer the phone, I could only do it by myself.
If my mother-in-law is there, she can push me with a wheelchair. The wheelchair in the hospital is placed in the corridor, which is used by everyone. But there was no figure in my mother-in-law, and it was like this when it was her turn to take care of me.
After I walked from the fourth floor to the bottom floor, I saw my mother-in-law and husband around the corner of the corridor. It was obvious that my husband had just arrived at the hospital, so I walked towards them. The two of them were talking to me, so they didn't see me walking towards them.
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After I approached them, I heard my mother-in-law saying, "When I was hospitalized on the first day, I used up the 5,000 deposit you paid, and now I have to pay the money again, don't pay it! If you want her parents to pay, you hold the money tightly!"
My husband said, "Mom, this is not good! If we are married, it seems that it is unreasonable to let our parents-in-law pay?"
"What's wrong with it? They will feel sorry for their daughter. If you don't pay it, they will naturally pay it, and they will never watch their daughter die." The mother-in-law said confidently.
What else does my husband want to say, but my mother-in-law said again: "I don't know what her current condition is? If she can't get pregnant in the future, you will definitely have to divorce. What should I do if you spend all your money? You have to hold the money in your own hands and spend her 5,000 yuan."
I never dreamed that my mother-in-law would say such words, and I was so heartbroken. Later, I didn't call them, but went for a check-up quietly. After the examination, when I returned to the ward, my husband and mother-in-law were already in the ward.
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I pretended not to know what they said, and still asked my husband to pay the money, but my husband stammered and refused to go. I insisted that he pay the money, and after he yelled at me a few times, he went home. Later, it was my parents who really went to pay the money, so I transferred the money in my hand to my mother.
Three months later, I recovered from health. The doctor said I recovered well and there would be no problem with getting pregnant in the future. My husband and mother-in-law were relieved, but I filed for divorce. They were puzzled and asked me why? I didn't say what I heard that day, but just insisted on getting a divorce, and I didn't want to explain it to them anymore.
My husband doesn’t want to get a divorce, so he repeatedly begged me not to get a divorce. My mother-in-law felt that after my son divorced me, their family would marry a daughter-in-law again and spend money. She felt sorry for the money, so she begged me not to divorce. But I insisted on a divorce and there was no room for negotiation.
After my parents knew the real reason for my divorce, they supported me very much and did not advise me not to divorce. Later, with my insistence, my husband and I divorced, and I did not regret the divorce at all.
Conclusion:
Since the moment of getting married, couples should be tied together and naturally face them together when encountering difficulties. People like Huang Dandan’s ex-husband’s family are so selfish. If Huang Dandan is good, they want it; if Huang Dandan is bad, they will kick it.
Huang Dandan is not a serious illness that is critical to her life. She is going to be like this for her ex-husband’s family. She will not pay after paying 5,000 yuan. If it is a life-threatening disease, they will definitely withdraw immediately and will not pay a penny. Such people are too selfish and only think about themselves and not others.
People are ordinary people who eat grains and grains. Everyone will be sick and couples should take care of each other.If Huang Dandan and her ex-husband do not divorce, she will still kick her when something happens in the future. Huang Dandan realized this and felt that her ex-husband was not someone who could be entrusted to her for life, so she insisted on divorce.
Huang Dandan's ex-mother-in-law is too calculating and is unwilling to suffer losses. As a result, she lost her son's marriage and suffered a huge loss. Therefore, in this life, people cannot take money too seriously. Money is something outside of their body. They will not be brought in life or death. The more you value money, the less money you often have.
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