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people are old. There are many things we don’t want to face but have to face. For example, we must consider, what should we do if one day my wife takes one step first and leave herself alone? How will the rest of your life be spent? Should I live with my children or choose to live alone?
Or, the person who left first was himself, leaving his wife alone in the world. Can he handle his relationship with his children? Can you face those unknown changes in life? Can you take good care of yourself and not worry about it?
These questions are extremely worried when you think about them.
In fact, having such concerns is not an unreasonable worry, but rather a long-term plan.
Because everything is planned, and if it is not planned, it is useless. Only if you make certain preparations in advance can you avoid being at a loss when something really happens. This is a kind of vision.
people reach old age and if their wife leaves first, then there are three things that we can't do. Even if there is only one person in the rest of your life, you must live a good life and don’t let your wife worry in heaven.
1: Don’t waste your body and life, still love yourself, and still keep passionate about life
Some people can’t accept the blow of their partner’s sudden departure, so they give up on themselves, thinking about just following them. But have you ever thought about it from the perspective of others? If the person who left first was you, would you hope that your partner would also go with you?
You won't know, because you love him and you care about him.
You hope that even without you, he can still live a good life in the world alone, so that he can rest assured.
It is the same as others. Why do we have to let ourselves be willful and erratic? Even if you don’t think about yourself, you have to think about your children. They have lost their father or mother. Do you want them to lose them with their parents? No one can bear this kind of blow.
My wife takes the first step. The first thing we can’t do is to waste our body and life. Only by continuing to love yourself and continue to love life can those who leave feel at ease.
2: Don’t just find someone to make do with your life because of fear of loneliness. There are risks in love or remarriage at dusk
There are also some elderly people who gradually calm down and have accepted the fact that their partner has left, and their lives are slowly getting on track, but at this time, their hearts begin to get restless. They feel that life alone is too lonely and helpless, and they really want someone to be with them and be able to take care of themselves.
So, they began to think about having a love affair in the evening, or simply find someone to spend the rest of their lives. Just like Su Daqiang in the TV series " is good ", they insisted on marrying the nanny.
In fact, this idea is unnecessary and full of certain risks.
After all, remarriage for the elderly is very realistic. Many people are not simple in their minds, they are plotting everywhere and traps everywhere. If you are not careful, your old age will be difficult.
3: Don’t make a relationship with your children because of impulse. They may be the guarantee of our old age.
The elderly remarriage is full of risks, so we must be cautious. Compared to finding someone to make do with their lives, we should have the ability to take care of ourselves, so that even if we don’t rely on anyone, we can live a smooth life.
But remember that the later you are, the more you cannot have a quarrel with your children.
Even if you don’t completely expect your children to support you, you should have a good relationship with your children, because it is very likely that they will be your biggest retreat and guarantee in the future.
After all, raising children to prevent old age, and the wife is gone. In this world, the closest and most relied on are children except themselves.
So don’t be so stubborn, don’t make a relationship with them, keep a distance appropriately, but at the same time, it’s also very close, so that you can have more choices and more support in your later years.
at the end:
Life is vast. Don’t deny all the possibilities of your life just because of someone’s sudden departure. This negative thought will only make those who love us worry.
When you get old, no matter who you and your wife leave first, the person you stay must live a good life and keep your love and expectation for life as always.
Only by living better with the other party’s hope can you be considered a solid life.
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