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A few days ago, a female reader came to me and said that she and her boyfriend were in the tugging stage. She said she didn’t love her. She felt that the other party still cared about her, but she said she loved her. Many times, she couldn’t find evidence that the other party loved her, so she was pulled in this state of being inseparable and not being separated and not being separated and being very painful.
Listen to her narrative, I could feel her entanglement and sadness, and this is exactly the state of many women in their relationship. They know that the other party does not love them, but they always want to find some reason for themselves and the other party. They know that this is really not possible, but they just dare not move forward.
Actually, I used to be the same, especially when I met someone I liked very much, I especially liked to deceive myself. But what in the end? Apart from being covered in bruises and finding nothing, the other party left me, and my state during that period also cost me half of my life.
It was probably from that time that I began to become rational when facing emotional problems. I would not trust men easily, nor would I give too much casually, because I know that only by staying rational at all times and only by keeping myself strong can I manage my relationships and protect myself.
So, I want to share some small experience with my sisters. I hope all women can work hard to do these three things, not be consumed in their relationship, be able to love bravely and dare to leave at any time, and become women who others dare not bully at will.
Can bravely admit that men don’t love you
The reason why most women are hurt in their relationship is that they dare not admit that men don’t love themselves anymore. He knew that this man didn't want to spend money or time on him, but he still found a reason to be busy. He knew that this man was so violent to him that he wanted to separate, but he still found an excuse for himself that he would wait a little longer. The result of this is to make the other party unscrupulous, because he sees your weakness and knows that no matter how you do it, you will not leave, and knows that your bottom line can be reduced infinitely.
In such a relationship, you can only keep giving in, because you have already abandoned your pride and dignity, and naturally you will not get any respect from the other party.
I know that it is difficult to admit that the other person does not love you, but this is the courage that a woman has trained after a lifetime of death. The braver you are, the more afraid the other person will dare to hurt you. The more decisive you are, the more able you can protect yourself.
Don’t be lucky. You can waste too much time on a man who doesn’t love you, and don’t repeat the same mistakes when the other person turns back. This will only be in vain and there is no need.
Learn to look forward and be more ruthless to yourself and the other party. Only in this way can you gradually become stronger and find the relationship that truly suits you.
Don’t force men to tell the "truth"
I always meet some women. They know that the other party doesn’t love me anymore, but they have to force the other party to say it out. There are also some women who like to test the other party wildly to prove that the other party loves him.
Dear, the person who loves you does not need you to work so hard or entangled will make you feel that he loves you, and the person who doesn’t love you no matter how hard you try, it will only ultimately prove that the other person does not love you.
As a woman, she should be proud in love. If you can feel love, then manage and enjoy it well. If you can’t feel it, then leave decisively. There are so many good men in this world, do you really lack this one?
Moreover, there is no truth in love. Your question will never get the answer you want, and will only make yourself a laughing stock for others. This is really not worth it.
Continuously strengthen yourself, constantly experience and move forward, become mature in your relationship, and give yourself more power to choose freely.
I believe that every woman will encounter her own happiness. Don’t be obsessed with everything that does not belong to you. Don’t give the other party a chance to consume you. You deserve to be loved, rather than being hurt again and again.
Don't imagine that the prodigal son can turn back
prodigal son will never turn back because he only loves himself. I really hope that all women can remember this truth.
Every woman will meet some right people in this life, and naturally they will meet some wrong people. If we cannot be together because of emotional discord or other objective reasons, it is actually nothing. It is just a life experience, and it will be fine in the past.
The most terrifying thing is to meet a prodigal man. He obviously doesn't love you, but he just consumes you. Most women find it difficult to get out of this kind of consumption. They are particularly prone to fall into the trap of men and are willing to become the other party's plaything and spare tire.
In order not to make themselves such a pathetic existence, I suggest that women must have independent and firm cores, know what kind of person they are, and know what they want, so that they will not be easily PUAdded by the other party.
For example, the other party always says that you like something, and you are not that kind of woman. At this time, don’t look for problems with yourself, and don’t imagine that you can become what the other party wants.
You should know that if the other party loves you, your shortcomings are also advantages, and if the other party does not love you, your advantages are also disadvantages.
try to guide the other party to appreciate you, and do what you should do. If the other party can change for you, then be together well, but if you can't, you must leave decisively and never worry or look back, otherwise you will fall into the other party's trap.
I have seen many women. The more they abused themselves, the more they loved each other, and lost themselves. They always thought that if they worked hard, they would get the feelings they wanted, but they ended up making themselves miserable. There was really no need.
Love yourself well, wait until the person who truly loves you, don’t let the other party consume you, but get better with the other party. This is what a smart woman should do.
For women, feelings are a very important part of life, but you must remember that love is really just a part, and you cannot devote yourself to everything.
Because when you lose yourself, the other party will no longer cherish you, because only if you have yourself completely can you become the controller of love.
Love is a game. The number of chips you hold in your hands determines how much initiative you have in love. Therefore, whether a woman can be happy depends on yourself. If you always let yourself down in the dust, don't blame the scumbag for always like to abuse you.
hope that all women can continue to strengthen themselves, and then meet the right person, see the beauty of this world through the right relationship, instead of being consumed blindly, nor becoming a victim of love.
I believe that as long as we work hard enough, we can continue to be strong, as long as we are rational enough, we can control our feelings, and as long as we are firm enough, we can protect our happiness and keep going.
I am Xiyan, a columnist, an older girl who is neither old nor old. She likes to write warm words and do emotional programs. She has published "The Rest of Your Life is About Me". If you have a story, remember to come to me.
