My cousin is 30 years old this year and is from Heilongjiang. When I was a child, my cousin and I lived in the same village. There are more than 200 households in our village, scattered on three mountain bags. And our three groups have only 40 households. The village is full of relatives, and my uncle, uncle, grandpa, third grandpa, my grandpa and my third grandpa all live here. My cousin's family has planted more than 40 acres of land, but the income is not high.
was spoiled since childhood and dropped out of school after graduation
My grandfather has 2 sons and 3 daughters, and my father is the eldest. My cousin is the only child of my second uncle's family and the only male in our generation. The idea of favoring boys over girls is particularly serious in my grandparents. Grandma left all the delicious food at home to Brother Tang and would not give it to me and my sister. My cousin was naughty when he was a child and beat my sister. Grandpa just smiled but didn't say anything and never blamed him.
My cousin has not liked to study since he was a child, and his academic performance is the lowest in the class. My second uncle and second aunt didn't care about him, thinking that studying was useless. My second uncle has a catchphrase: Long live 60 points, one more point is a waste. Every time I get a high score and my dad shows off, my second uncle will say this catchphrase. In my second uncle's opinion, learning is a matter of learning if you want to learn, but not learning. No one urged my cousin to study. My cousin fished for three days and had two days of drying the net, and often couldn't even reach 60 points. He finished elementary school only after the teacher found his home many times.
got married at a young age and divorced 2 years later
In 2011, when I was working in Guangdong, my cousin's child Xiaobao was born. My sister-in-law is one year younger than my cousin, she is pretty and tall. However, good times did not last long. Two years later, my cousin divorced, and the cause was that it was an Apple phone.
At that time, Apple phones cost more than 5,000 yuan each, and my brother thought it was too expensive and didn't buy it for her. And my sister-in-law feels that I have never asked you to buy anything for me all year round. Now that I have sold food in the autumn, I want a mobile phone, you won’t buy it for me? My cousin said she was a prodigal girl and pushed my sister-in-law down. In addition, my second uncle and second aunt said that they saw the takeaway lunch box called by my sister-in-law in the trash can, and felt that my sister-in-law would not live, so they added fuel to the fire. The conflict continued to escalate and finally had to divorce.
works everywhere, and after all the hard work
The bride price in the northeast is about 100,000 yuan, and my brother spent 110,000 yuan. In addition, the house I bought in the county town cost another 250,000 yuan, so my second uncle's family was in debt. My cousin has a bad temper, but is not lazy. He has been wandering around to work in recent years and has suffered a lot.
initially went to Chengdu to sell cakes. He got up at around 3 am every morning and worked hard until after 11 pm. It was very popular when it first opened and earned tens of thousands of dollars a month. But later, the landlord saw that he had a good business and raised his rent very high, so he had to change his place. However, the new places have fewer traffic, and their business is getting worse day by day. In the end, I had to give up my business and return to my hometown.
Home salary is very low. He joined the road construction team, which cost only 80 yuan a day, and the people who are exposed to the heat. I worked as a waiter in the restaurant and I spent 1,800 yuan a month on food and accommodation, and I was tired and earned little. He went to Sanjiang to farm and worked as a long-term worker for a person who had been booked 100 yuan for a long time. He is the only one who can talk to ten thousand acres of land. The neck and face are all bitten by mosquitoes, and the mosquitoes can even bite through their clothes. But I can only earn 30,000 yuan a year, and the boss still owes his salary and it took me more than a year to get back. At last thought, he decided to work in a big city.
Because he has no education, the security guards do the most. The Northeastern man is big and thick, and he shaves a flat head, which looks very scary at first glance. When he was in Chengdu, the local gangsters who came to collect protection fees were scared away by him. Anyone who wants to apply for a security guard is willing to ask for him.
Recently, he went to Beijing to work and worked as a security guard at an isolation point, and became a "big white". The salary is 4,000 yuan per month, whether to provide housing or not. The cooling fell a few days ago, and he said that Beijing is so cold, even colder than Northeast China. It should be because he has been standing and has little activity. Yesterday I saw the supper he posted on his Moments. It was a pot of noodles, not even a vegetable, which made people feel distressed. In the past, my cousin was at home and was a person who didn’t even eat the rest of the meal. Nowadays, I have lost all my temper by life.
Xiaobao studied well, and did not have parents to accompany
After my cousin divorced, the child followed his father.My sister-in-law went to a flight attendant at a high-speed rail station in another place. Xiaobao followed his grandparents and lived at the teacher's house most of the time. When I returned to my hometown this summer, I stayed with Xiaobao for a week. The child is very smart and knows all the English words in the textbook. My cousin also pays great attention to the children's learning and enrolled Xiaobao in several cram schools. He said that the thing he regrets the most now is that he didn't study hard at the beginning.
Xiaobao told his grandfather: I want to study hard. When I grow up and make money, you won’t have to farm. Children are good children, but it’s a pity that they don’t have parents to accompany them.
My second aunt often says now that my sister-in-law is a good person and doesn’t say anything about her children. But you only realize what the use is. They have been away for several years, and it is impossible to remarry again. If you persuaded it at that time instead of adding fuel to the fire, your sister-in-law might not leave, and Xiaobao would not have been with her parents.
Uncle now often says that no matter how many difficulties you have, you must let Xiaobao finish reading. But this is also the understanding that my cousin has earned through personal practice. If you thought so earlier, would my cousin have lived a better life in the first half of his life?
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