Introduction:
says that you should not marry a family with two brothers, because when you meet a family with two brothers, you may encounter a biased parent, or you have to keep helping the younger brother or brother who is not doing well.
Yao Qin is like this. She married a family with two brothers. Her husband is the eldest brother. When she married her husband, her husband had no money to pay brides, nor did she have a house or a car. She and her husband started from scratch.
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Although my husband is the eldest son, his father-in-law and mother-in-law are more partial to his younger brother. The husband stopped studying very early. In order to provide better education for his husband's younger brother, the in-laws asked his husband to use the money he earned from his work to support his younger brother's schooling. This caused the husband to be married and could not afford to get married. The in-laws said, "You are the eldest son, you are not young anymore, you are not a child anymore. If you want to get married, you should think of your own way."
Because my husband is the eldest son, my parents-in-law are very strict with him. He asks his husband to do everything by himself and has no help to his husband. But to his husband's younger brother, they often say, "He is a younger brother, younger than you, and it is appropriate for his brother to take care of his younger brother." In fact, in Yao Qin's opinion, it is because his parents are partial to his parents. Whoever says that his brother should take care of his younger brother. His brother was once a child, and he also needs the care and love of his parents. However, his parents gave most of the care and love to his younger brother, but always asked his brother to be strong and sensible.
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Yao Qin actually felt sorry for her husband as an elder brother, and she had to give her younger brother, but her husband said that they were all family members, so there was no need to care too much. Her husband was unwilling to care about it. Her parents-in-law felt more and more that her husband should give her all the time, so she asked her husband to continue to help her younger brother's family. This is what Yao Qin couldn't accept. How could his parents favor his younger brother before they got married? Yao Qin didn't want to care about it anymore, but after they got married, the two brothers were separated. There was no need to care about everything before, and in the future, everyone will live on their own abilities, and it is impossible for them to help without any bottom line.
If the husband's parents stop after the husband gets married and no longer ask the husband to help his younger brother without any bottom line, perhaps Yao Qin is willing to give everyone some thin face on the surface and get along well with them. But in the end, Yao Qin didn't even want to maintain the superficial peace because she was too tired. If she continued to maintain the superficial peace and did not know how to refuse, her husband's parents would continue to ask Yao Qin and her husband to continue to contribute money and work for her younger brother's family.
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Many things are often like this. The child who is favored has no ability when he grows up and is not able to support his own family. Although Yao Qin and her husband have never received help from their parents-in-law, after years of hard work, the couple now have a house and a car. Everyone lives by their own ability. Life is good or bad, anyway, it is their own luck, so no one else can blame.
Others live a good life, and they cannot always ask others to help themselves endlessly. However, parents-in-law do not understand such a simple truth, and husband's younger brother does not understand. Perhaps they know that their husbands have no obligation to help them all the time, but they still want to kidnap their husbands must always give their efforts.
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Over the years, Yao Qin and her husband have made money, but in fact they have not said that they can’t pay a penny to their younger brother. Although they complain about their parents-in-law’s bias towards their younger brother, they are two brothers at least. When the younger brother needs help, their husbands can help. When my younger brother got married, my parents-in-law said that my husband should pay for his brother to buy a wedding house, and my husband immediately paid 150,000 yuan. Yao Qin was actually never stingy. Not only did she pay 150,000 yuan to buy a wedding house, but later her husband made money, and her husband also gave her an old car to her younger brother to drive.
has already helped this. Yao Qin feels that her husband has done enough. As a wife, she is already generous enough and has never stopped her husband from helping her younger brother like this. But her in-laws think it is not enough and thinks that her husband is capable and not only needs to help her younger brother, but also needs to help the next generation.My parents-in-law often brings my nephew to Yao Qin's house. Every time my nephew comes, my parents-in-law will open a menu for Yao Qin and ask her to buy a lot of high-end food and imported fruits. Usually, my nephew can't eat such good things at home. His parents-in-law don't have the ability to buy it for him. My parents-in-law think that the eldest son is capable, so the younger nephew should enjoy the happiness with his eldest son.
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Yao Qin thinks her parents-in-law is unreasonable. The younger son is incompetent. They want their husbands to help their younger son forever. Now even their younger son’s children and nephews need them to take care of them. When will such help be the end? Originally, my parents-in-law would bring their nephew to Yao Qin's house to eat and drink freely. Yao Qin wanted to refuse, but then she thought about it and said that it was only two or three times a month, and she would have to endure it.
But Yao Qin completely underestimated her in-laws' determination to always help her nephew. Her nephew is already at school, and her in-laws are whimsical and want her to board Yao Qin's house. Because they knew that if their nephew lives in Yao Qin's house, the food and clothing will definitely be better than at their own home. The parents-in-law thought that as long as they say hello to Yao Qin, the daughter-in-law, the nephew's residence will be settled. The parents-in-law felt that the eldest son and daughter-in-law were easy to talk to, and they would definitely not refuse.
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But Yao Qin feels it is really tiring to help her without any bottom line all the time, as if her younger brother’s life is the life of her husband, as if her nephew is Yao Qin’s biological son, why should the couple take care of their lives? If they keep helping each other, they will never grow up and will never be able to stand on their own. The reason why Yao Qin and her husband were able to start from scratch and achieve the results of their struggle today was not because they had no one to help them at the time, or because they knew that no one would help them, so they had to work hard to be strong.
In the past, Yao Qin and her husband have been good old people. This time, Yao Qin decided to be an ordinary person who respects her heart. When the mother-in-law said to her, "Daughter-in-law, my nephew is going to school to board your home, so you have to take good care of her." Yao Qin bravely expressed her thoughts: "Sorry, I can't take care of her. My nephew is not my biological child. It's still not suitable to board in my house. If something happens to him in my house, I can't explain to his parents. Since his parents have given birth to him, they should take good care of him."
Conclusion:
Faced with the rejection of his daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law went to find her eldest son again, but this time the eldest son also said, "My nephew is not my biological son, so it is really not suitable to let him stay in my house." Although he was very angry, he had no choice but to feel helpless. This time, Yao Qin and her husband felt much more relaxed. Maybe they should have done this long ago. They have been kidnapped by morality. After spending a long time, they are actually very tired. Now they finally know how to refuse and don't have to live so tired anymore.
