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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional instructor, who writes heart-wrenching emotional texts, hoping to bring you some spiritual comfort with warm words.
Lin Yutang said: "There is nothing that can be done without failure. We should treat marriage as food and love as snacks."
In reality, many women do not understand this truth and always fantasize about beautiful love, but ignore the dullness of marriage, so that they have an extramarital affair. This is a pity.
Whether a marriage is good or not does not depend on whether there is love, but on whether there is responsibility and whether you can restrain your inner emotions.
If you blindly pursue the so-called love, ignore the responsibilities on your body, and break through the bottom line of loyalty, your marriage will definitely fall apart.
Some women are too blind in their relationships and always feel that the love outside is beautiful, so they ignore the people around them and end up paying a heavy price.
In fact, love outside of marriage may not be true love. Most of them are the dew-like joy they need, and they cannot withstand the test of reality at all.
When a woman is blindly immersed in this kind of relationship, she is easy to ignore marriage and family, and she will become more indifferent and repulsive to her husband. This is the root cause of the collapse of the relationship. A woman like
, no longer accepts her husband and refuses any form of contact, has long lost herself.
After all, most women who have "extramarital affair" will not be "close" with their husbands. The reason is very realistic:
1. No longer love their husbands, they develop physiological disgust. Once women enter extramarital affair, they are easily immersed in the romance of love and are reluctant to wake up.
In their opinion, the sweetness brought by romantic love is what is lacking in ordinary life, making it difficult for them to pursue blindly and escape unstoppable.
So, they chose to believe in the so-called true love, regard the man outside of marriage as their own support, and fantasize about having a bright future.
In this case, when they return home, they will only dislike their husbands even more. They will dislike him everywhere and will criticize him at any time to express their inner dissatisfaction.
They often compare their husbands with others. No matter how they look at them, they feel that their husbands fail, which creates a sense of rejection.
Whenever their husbands come over, they will be disgusted, either lose their temper or find excuses to leave, and they don’t want to be with their husbands anyway.
A woman like this already has a physiological disgust for her husband and will refuse all forms of intimate contact.
Just like her colleague Xiaojie, she and her husband have been married for twelve years, and their lives were stable and their relationships were harmonious.
However, I went out to study by chance and met a senior whom I had a crush on before. The two of them had not seen each other for many years and were both very excited.
At that time, the two of them agreed to have a meal together, recalling the good times before while eating, and gradually a certain feeling grew.
That's it. Xiaojie and her seniors often contacted each other. They went out to have dinner and chat whenever they had time. They got along very well and soon became close.
Less than half a year after dating, the senior asked her to go out for a long trip. She felt that they were all classmates and had nothing to worry about, so she went there alone and went out with the senior.
At that time, the two of them were together all the time and an intimate relationship unexpectedly occurred.
From then on, Xiaojie was obviously cold to her husband when she came back. She felt that she had found true love and was very repulsive to her husband. She never had any intimacy with him again. The marriage was in name but not real.
So, when a woman suddenly meets love outside of marriage, it is easy to get deeply trapped in it. They gradually change their minds and will have a great sense of disgust for their husbands, thus rejecting any intimate behavior.
2. No longer interested in husbands, want to seek the stimulation of extramarital affairs
In love, it is not only men who want to seek freshness and stimulation, but women are the same. Once they have extramarital feelings, they will feel very exciting and sweet.
In extramarital affairs, women can receive the love, care and meticulous care of their lovers, which makes them mistakenly think that this is true love.
However, they didn't know that these were deliberately created by men, with the purpose of catching up as soon as possible.
More importantly, in extramarital affairs, men and women do not need to consider three meals a day, nor do they need to face trivial matters in life. Both of them are carefree and naturally they will not be under pressure.
In this case, both parties only talk about love and do not touch the reality of life, and will naturally feel very beautiful.
However, many women cannot be awake. Once they enter an extramarital affair, they will feel it is fresh, beautiful, and even exciting.
It’s like this. They blindly pursue extramarital relationships, have long ignored their family, lost their responsibilities, and have no interest in their husbands. They are particularly indifferent.
colleague Ms. Xu is like this. She and her husband have been married for more than ten years and have lived a dull and stable life.
However, at a unit party, she and a male colleague who could chat with her, and had a drink, gradually grew ambiguous feelings. Before
, the two of them were friends of the opposite sex who could talk about everything. Now, under the influence of an ambiguous atmosphere, they feel that there is a different kind of emotion, which is very exciting and romantic.
It was like this. After the party ended, the two of them made an appointment to go out for a walk, but in the end they could not control their emotions and unexpectedly had an intimate relationship.
Since then, Miss Xu has put all her thoughts outside. She feels very fresh and looks forward to this kind of relationship.
As long as she has time, she will go out. She doesn’t want to care about everything at home, and she loses interest in her husband. She is very disgusted when she sees it.
Whenever she comes back, she doesn't want to talk to her husband, but just takes a shower and rests. There is no substantial contact between the couple, and it is like a stranger.
So, those women who have extramarital affairs basically blindly pursue fresh and romantic love. Their minds are outside, so they naturally have no interest in their husbands and gradually ignore everything in marriage .
I have to say that this is a kind of tragedy, because love outside of marriage is not true love. They will sooner or later be disappointed and hurt, and eventually pay a heavy price.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
In summary, most women who have "extramarital affair" will not be "close" with their husbands. There are two reasons:
no longer loves their husbands, and develops physiological disgust; they are no longer interested in their husbands, and want to seek the stimulation of extramarital affair.
It can be seen that once women enter into extramarital love, they will no longer love their husbands, and will only become more and more repulsive and disgusted.
Although some women feel guilty and will accept their husbands appropriately, that is no longer for the purpose of loving him, but an emotional compensation. Marriages like
have lost their foundation. Once the relationship is exposed, the couple will fall apart in an instant.
So, I would like to remind some women not to immerse themselves in extramarital relationships and cannot extricate themselves. If you blindly pursue romantic love, you will eventually be hurt.
At any time, women must adhere to the bottom line of loyalty, take the initiative to keep a distance from other opposite sexes, and manage their marriage with care. This is the responsibility and duty of a wife.
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