Everyone encounters different problems at different stages of their lives.
correspondingly, the human mind will also grow, and at different stages of life, the way you solve problems will be different.
When encountering problems, these 4 different solutions also determine a person's life state.
01 Immersed in the problem, the body and mind are tortured
Sometimes, we ourselves are easily immersed in the problem, and have a lot of ideas that are out of nothing, even making ourselves unable to extricate ourselves.
Especially when you first entered society, many things need to be faced independently by one person, and you will find it difficult to adapt to it to yourself.
Once you encounter a problem, you will feel at a loss. I don’t know how to adjust the emotions that arise. It always makes you think randomly and then creates more problems.
encountered problems that cannot be solved and blindly immersed in the problems, my body and mind were also tortured. The state of is often also called internal consumption.
However, with my existing cognition, I not only do not realize it, but I will be led by problems, and I don’t know how to deal with these problems.
02 When encountering problems, you always like to escape
It is human nature to seek benefits and avoid harm, and it is also an instinct for self-protection. However, escaping from problems is also a way to procrastinate.
When you encounter a problem, you don’t know how to solve it. However, even though I knew that these problems needed to be solved, I was unwilling to face them.
or even use your imagination to rationalize the problems you encounter. thinks that it avoids the conflict caused by the problem, and these problems will automatically disappear.
This is just a self-deception. Those problems that are covered up by themselves and have not been solved will return to themselves in another form. And it appears repeatedly, haunting yourself until you learn to deal with it.
In a popular saying, "What you can't learn, God will let you experience it again and again until you learn it."
escaping is never a way to solve problems. It can avoid temporary pain, but long-term habits of escaping will only bring more problems to yourself.
03 Perseverance in solving problems
There is also such a type of people who encounter problems and fight to the end, and they do not allow the existence of problems at all. This shows that such people have strong execution ability, but at the same time, is also an obsession.
Sometimes, I am too anxious to get a satisfactory result, and I always feel that only by solving the problem can my life be perfect.
But in fact, various problems will always occur in life. Too persistent in solving problems will also keep yourself in the state of "unfinished problems". This will make you feel very tired after a long time.
Excessive obsession will only increase pressure on yourself, and the obstacles this obsession will also exceed the problem itself.
04 When encountering problems, face them calmly and accept them happily
In fact, not all problems need to be solved. In this world, there are always problems that you cannot solve and things that you cannot control.
Many problems in life, are not to find the truth, but to give yourself a satisfactory answer.
Sometimes, when you encounter problems that cannot be solved, let yourself take a turn or look at them from a different perspective. After a while, you may have a satisfactory answer.
When you see the essence of the problem clearly, accepting is actually the best way to solve the problem.
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I am Yi Feiyu, a free writer who retires to the countryside.
copywriter who has been drifting in Beijing for ten years.
Focus on self-growth and accompany you to meet a better self.
