01
Writer Liu Yu once said: "As a person for a lifetime, character should be the foundation."
It is true that if people are in society, the better their character, the further they go.
But, how to judge a person’s character?
"The Three Kingdoms: Book of Wei" says: "Observe your words and observe your actions, and good and evil will be revealed."
When dealing with people, listen to a few more words, and the good and evil of human nature will not be hidden.
02
People who dare to speak out are open-minded.
Politician Lu Buwei said: "If you speak the most, you will be angry, and if you are angry, you will be in danger. Who is not a wise man willing to be in danger?"
Speak straightforwardly, it is easy to offend others and make others uncomfortable. But if you think about it from the perspective of others, you will understand that how could someone who is not really helping you, deliberately anger you?
can't hide his words in his heart and can't help but say a few words. It's basically "heart-to-heart" and does not consider the consequences. Therefore, good character can be seen at a glance.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, King Wen of Chu took the hunting dog and bow and arrow, and lived in a place called Yunmengze for three consecutive months, making a living by hunting.
One day, he passed by Danyang , met a woman he liked, and took it back to the palace. Therefore, he had not attended court for a year and was mostly in the harem to eat, drink and have fun.
Minister Tai Baoshen said, "According to the rules set by the previous kings, if you don't attend court for so long, you should be punished for whipping."
King Wen of Chu suddenly woke up and said, "Okay, I accept the whipping." After that, he lay down and Tai Baoshen whipped him in the back.
Later, King Wen of Chu worked hard to govern, and more than 30 small countries came to surrender.
In the workplace, subordinates strictly discipline their bosses, which is unusual, and it is obviously "being the following is wrong". However, from the perspective of work promotion, if you encounter a boss who is not virtuous enough and your subordinates blindly flatter you, your work will be ruined and the unit will not be able to develop.
In the family, parents are at fault, but their children are unwilling to point out and still obey, so their parents will do whatever they want.
Friends get along with friends, but never tells anyone’s fault. Then the interaction between friends is meaningless.
People with real good character can't bear the mistakes of others and always think about saying them out. This is the true manifestation of "faithful words are good for action".
03
A person who is taciturn can understand people.
"Zengguang Xianwen" says: "Good words are not to say more, and reasonable things are not to speak loudly."
is by our side, and there are many silent people. It’s not that they have nothing to say, but that they don’t want to say and cannot say it.
For example, at the unit, everyone sat together for a meeting. The boss assigns a certain job. Some subordinates found that the work arrangements were not reasonable enough, but he did not say it. After all, "the subordinates have a duty - obedience." If you want to point out unreasonable things, it is best to communicate with the two people alone after the meeting.
If the subordinate refutes his boss’s work arrangements on the spot, it will obviously make the boss lose his majesty and even cause everyone’s dissatisfaction.
Know the truth of the matter and understand what you want to do. This is one thing; what you have done and whether you want to say it out is another thing. When speaking, all aspects must be taken into account.
If you are dealing with a few smart people, you can click until you click and you will understand it as soon as you open your mouth. If you say a few more words, it will be redundant.
04
People who speak in a circle have no intention.
Many things cannot be explained clearly in just a few words. If a person always explains, he seems to have a bad character, it is better to use actions to prove "verbal". Therefore, if you take a turn, you will truly understand it.
Spring and Autumn , the famous craftsman Luban went to Chu State and helped the King of Chu build a ladder.
The King of Chu believes that with these cloud ladders , you can break through any city. He is going to attack Song State .
thinker Mozi After hearing about this, he rushed from Lu to Chu. He said to the King of Chu: "Lu Ban is very skilled, but the ladder is not the key to victory.If you don’t believe it, I will send someone to attack the city with a ladder. I will defend the city. The winner will be determined by your own mistake. "
After some tests, Mozi successfully defended the city. The King of Chu gave up the idea of attacking the State of Song.
It is true that practice can produce true knowledge.
Any new thing cannot be improved without practice test, and it does not know its specific usage and function. Therefore, we cannot talk about it on paper.
Mozi persuaded the King of Chu, and if he repeatedly talked about the great principles, it would not work. Therefore, he used "one experiment" to prove his judgment, thus "persuading" the King of Chu.
In life, many people like to explain, argue, and emphasize, but the other party cannot recognize it. The more you speak, it reflects your own clumsiness. If you can turn and reflect your true intentions, it reflects your wisdom and also shows that your words are sincere.
As long as the facts prove that there is no harm to others in your words, then taking a few turns will still reflect good character.
05
People who speak nonsense harm others and themselves.
There is a saying that goes: "If you use your own way, you can treat your person's body. "
What a person said will invisibly return to himself and will also be heard in the ears of the person involved.
Those people with bad character always think that they are talking nonsense behind their backs, sow discord in person, and create things that are made out of nothing. They are very happy to see others fighting in the nest. They have not figured out that a person's inner dark side will eventually hurt themselves, which is "force and reaction force" Truth.
For example, at a dinner party, you try hard to persuade people to drink, hoping that others will get drunk and make a fool of themselves. For this reason, you also drank a lot of alcohol. After the dinner party is over, if the drunk person encounters trouble, you will not be able to get out of touch. The most tragic thing is that your malice is remembered by everyone at the dinner party.
has a word called "people's words are fearful." If you make others afraid, then your character will be very despicable. Over time, you will be isolated. After all, everyone needs to seek profit and avoid harm.
06
Someone said: "Where there is a gap, there will be light and the spring breeze will blow by. "
What a person said is the gap in the heart. Therefore, we should give others more light and warmth, and don't make people feel sad. The water that is splashed out cannot be collected. It is best to think about it first, then speak, and if you don't understand it, you will not say anything.
criticize and suggest, speak out in a blunt way; it is better to say less without being clear; the words are not clear, and the actions are proved; evil words hurt people, it is absolutely not allowed.
May you and me have light in your heart and goodwill.
Author: Common people and coarse food.
Follow my article and enter your heart.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
