Recently, a few young ladies talked to me about their longing for family, and they were somewhat anxious about choosing a spouse.
Except for some of my married relatives and friends, other sisters I know, whether they are single or divorced, whether they are 20+, 30+, or 40+, most of them have good personal abilities. There are sisters from first-tier cities, Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, and there are young ladies working alone in second- and third-tier cities. Many people buy houses and cars independently, and even buy multiple houses. The annual income is also high, they have money and good looks, but they cannot find a suitable male partner.
Now many articles advocate that life alone is beautiful, but in fact, most people still don’t want to be alone until old.
Some online articles promote women's independence and praise the sister-brother relationships of many female celebrities. There are often many 35+ girls, and you can also find "high-quality human men" like tall, rich, handsome, and even princes and rich people. However, for women, the current situation of choosing a spouse in life is not so optimistic.
In fact, the best age for women to choose a mate is between 20 and 25 years old, and the next best age is between 25 and 30 years old. Once it exceeds 30, the chances of encountering good matches in the secular sense will be reduced, and usually after the age of 35, the conditions and quality of optional mate choices will be greatly reduced.
Here is just talking about social reality and there is no meaning of judgment. If you think I am wrong, just take a look.
Nowadays, blind dates or marriages must be put forward in various conditions, such as family background, education, work, car room, income, age, personality, etc.
For many men, the first factor to consider is age and appearance, and then look at other conditions. Men actually have a relatively wide range of age when choosing a spouse. Men aged 25 can choose girls aged 20-25, men aged 30 can choose girls aged 20-30, and men aged 35 can also choose women aged 20-35...
A heart-wrenching fact is that if men aged 30 have a good image and income, if their family or their own abilities are sufficient, they can prepare RV , and their personality will not be too extreme. Basically, colleagues, relatives and friends around will pay attention to introducing the female resources. It is relatively easy for the man to choose the right and favorite marriage from it. Therefore, many leftover men are no more than 30 years old.
30+ Men are not married yet, either they have major shortcomings in some aspects, or they are not economically advantageous, or their personalities cannot be accepted by ordinary people, and there is some perfectionism. Men with slightly better conditions are basically less than 30 years old.
. Girls usually graduate from college until they are 22 years old. If they finish graduate school and doctoral studies, they will be 25 or 28 years old. According to traditional concepts, girls generally tend to choose a man older than themselves. If you don’t solve your lifelong affairs on campus, you will have very few men at this age. After wasting time for a while, many women were left.
Moreover, women choose a spouse not only to compete with their peers, but also to add a large number of girls younger than themselves. However, when choosing a partner for men, they can be backward compatible. Even if a man is 40, he can still find women in his 20s. Therefore, the degree of "curtain" for women to choose a spouse is far higher than that of men.
Many people may think that this is completely advocating anxiety about choosing a partner. In fact, it is not. These are the current situation.
Although there are more men and fewer women in the overall number of , in the actual marriage and love market, many women feel the fact that there are more women and fewer men.
Many people say that women are picking now and have high vision. Is this true? It's also true. However, many families have cultivated their daughters or girls to develop themselves, and have reached a certain level of material and spirituality. Why do they have to commit themselves to men who are inferior to themselves? To put it bluntly, there are really not as many good men who enter the marriage and love market in as good women.
From this perspective, if a girl can determine her life partner in college, it is actually an excellent period. However, most students during this period have not yet figured out the direction of their lives!
When you are in the workplace, you are 20-25, 25-30 years old. If a girl is still single, you have to take the initiative to attack yourself. You must start your emotional intelligence and IQ, mobilize relatives and friends from all walks of life, and have a full and effective social interaction, and you will still have the opportunity to find a marriage partner with good conditions.
If a woman reaches 30+, or 35+, and is still single, when developing her own strength, she often needs to compromise and give up some of her own conditions and requirements.
This is all applicable to women who plan to get married and have children, and it talks about the current situation and reality of society.
Of course, some people will also say, what's the best way to get married? Yes, it is true, and marriage is not that good. But after all, it is a lifestyle that most people choose for thousands of years, and there are indeed pros and cons.
If you plan to be free and carefree by yourself, it is also a life choice.
