It’s my husband cheated on him for the second time. Should I give him another chance?
This is a question asked by the original wife a few days ago.
She just caught her husband cheating for a second time and was hesitant and didn't know what to do.
This original wife, Ms. Lu, has been married to her husband for seven years, and this is her husband's second time.
The first time I cheated was a year ago. The mistress was a woman in her husband's small circle.
and her husband grew up together. When they got married, they wanted to be bridesmaids for Ms. Lu.
Ms. Lu refused and said that she had already agreed with her friend,
In fact, at that time, Ms. Lu didn't like this mistress very much because she felt that she had some green tea.
But there are seven people in her husband's small circle, not only this girl, they get along well.
is also very friendly to her, so she has no doubts and never thought that this woman would become her husband's mistress.
When her husband cheated, Ms. Lu made a serious fuss.
Didn’t give her husband any face at all, and there was a quarrel in the family group, and the cheating man went to the unit to make trouble.
, Ms. Lu has gone to make trouble in the place where the mistress works, and it was also quite embarrassing when the man cheated on the mistress broke up.
Because Ms. Lu would know about the extramarital affair, it was the mistress who took the initiative to provoke it.
The man cheated on the mistress for asking for trouble for nothing and insisted on provoking Ms. Lu, which led to Ms. Lu's trouble.
, and the mistress is a man who cheats on her. She does not protect her and helps Ms. Lu afterwards.
The extramarital affair was resolved, and Ms. Lu was not very good at cheating on men.
For a long time, men who cheated were living cautiously, for fear of angering Ms. Lu.
Ms. Lu saw the attitude of a cheating man and felt that the cheating man really knew he was wrong.
plus it is indeed what the mistress said. In the end, the man cheated on Ms. Lu has always helped Ms. Lu.
So she still chose to forgive the cheating man later, although she was in pain.
But I am still willing to repair the relationship between husband and wife and want to live a good life.
She never expected that the relationship between the two happened to be a little bit better, and the man cheated on him again.
was caught by Ms. Lu less than a month after cheating.
This time it was purely a coincidence, Ms. Lu had no doubt that her husband would cheat on him for the second time.
also did not supervise the cheating man, or they deliberately checked their mobile phones, etc.
cheating man and mistresses were also cautious when they had a tryst, and they went to hotels near the suburbs.
Results A friend of Ms. Lu happened to visit relatives there and photographed a cheating man and mistress.
Because Ms. Lu had a big fuss at the beginning, my friends also knew that Ms. Lu would not blame her for being too talkative.
So after the filming was finished, I sent it directly to Ms. Lu, and also told me about the place and asked Ms. Lu to catch the scene.
Although Ms. Lu was shocked, she was not at a loss. She found her own brother and sister-in-law and drove there directly.
The hotel in the suburbs is not very formal. You can tell the room of the man and mistress if you ask casually.
Ms. Lu's arrest was very smooth, the evidence was also captured, and the cheating man and mistress were also dealt with.
The man cheated on him decisively abandoned his mistress and began to ask for forgiveness carefully.
Ms. Lu is quite confused here, she doesn’t know what to do.
rationally told her that this man had cheated for the second time and there would be a cheating crisis in the future.
Emotions tell her that the two have been married for many years and have children. The cheating man performed well, and maybe he should give him a chance.
Her emotions and reason are constantly entangled, and she doesn't know how to choose.
After Jiaxin learned about Ms. Lu's situation, she told her to break out of her subjective thinking.
From an objective perspective, should this marriage continue and whether a cheating man is worth forgiven.
First of all, through this man's psychology, analyze whether the man will continue to cheat in the future.
Why did this man cheat? It is obvious that the picture is freshness and excitement.
A cheating man has no feelings for his mistress and no obsession with extramarital affairs.
From his attitude of dealing with extramarital affairs twice, he can draw conclusions on how he treats mistresses.
Whether it is a mistress with a emotional foundation or a mistress without a relationship later.
Whether it is the mistress who took the initiative to look for him or the mistress he took the initiative to look for.
After he was discovered, he kept himself safe and decisively abandoned the mistress.
He is not cheating for his love, and the mistress has nothing else to do, that is, for the freshness and excitement.
Men who cheat for such reasons will continue to cheat in the future. Because he will cheat simply because he has problems with this person.
Secondly, through this man's psychology about marriage and his original wife, we analyze whether the marriage should continue.
This man has a very serious problem, he has no sense of awe of marriage.
He did not feel that he could not cheat. Infidelity is a major event that destroys marriage.
Otherwise, I won’t cheat easily, and I won’t cheat twice immediately.
He knows the original wife very well, knows how to make the original wife forgive and how to make the original wife soft-hearted.
This is very unfavorable to the original wife. It seems that the original wife made a big fuss and grabbed the cheating man.
allows the cheating man to abandon his mistress and return to his family, and after returning, he will be forgiven for his small matter.
is actually a cheating man who takes care of his original wife. He knows how to stop caring about his original wife after cheating, so that he can plan his next cheating.
and a person who constantly calculates you and knows how to influence your thinking will continue to get married. The original wife must be prepared to be constantly cheated.
Finally, it is the question of how the original partner should choose.
Jiaxin thinks my analysis is obvious, but how to choose is still the original partner’s own business.
In fact, even if the original wife chooses to continue the marriage, Jiaxin can understand it.
Because after all, many original wives still have certain expectations for cheating men.
After all, I am the person I really loved before, and I still want to give you another chance.
But Jiaxin hopes that if the other party does not cherish the opportunity and break your expectations again, you can be rational.
gives yourself a chance to regain happiness, rather than continue to suffer in an unfortunate marriage.
Many wives are obsessed with the authorities after they are cheated, they cannot see the situation clearly and cannot make choices.
At this time, what you need is to jump out of the original wife and take a look at the marriage again as a bystander.
You can come up with a very considerable answer, should this man be forgiven, and whether he can continue his marriage be happy.
has an objective answer, you naturally know how to choose, which is the most beneficial to you.
If you have an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow Jiaxin and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Jiaxin, a marriage maintenance teacher who focuses on the separation of third parties.
