The couple cannot separate and understand. If you understand the difference too clearly, it will no longer be a husband-wife relationship. For example, this article talks about this matter. The husband and wife have to live with their wife. In the end, he ruined everything about himself. Who can blame this? We must take you as a warning for this matter and never act like that anymore. As the same goes, husband and wife cannot separate and understand, because you have me and I have you, we are a family. What's going on? Why do you say so? Let's take a look together. On a wedding night, my husband: We will be in AA from now on, I: OK, but I have five requirements.
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29-year-old Ms. Li:
I didn’t want to say this. I didn't expect my husband to actually divorce me. I went back to my parents' home 5 days ago. Didn’t my husband force me to go back to my parents’ home? 5 days ago, I married my boyfriend, my current husband. But that night I chose to escape back to my parents' home. All this was forced by my husband. This matter starts 5 days ago.
also hopes that this matter can educate all couples. Whether it is a couple or a couple, don’t want to live AA. Doing so will only ruin your family. On the night of the wedding, that is, on the night 5 days ago. I got married to my husband, and I was in the room waiting for my husband to come in.
When my husband came in, he didn't come to me directly, but sat down at the table. This is strange. Why don’t we come to my side when we are all married? Or does he want to drink water and drink alcohol? Before I could figure it out, my husband spoke up. My husband told me loudly that from today on, I will be the head of the family, which means that I have the final say in this family.
I thought my husband was drunk, and I ignored him. But it was precisely because I ignored him that he slapped me and slapped me on the head. I was angry directly. No one has hit me since I was a child. Now I hit me when I got married. Is it still the night of my marriage, so how can I not be angry?
I cried and told my husband, what the hell is going on, why do you hit me? Are you drunk? My husband told me, "You are drunk, I'm not drunk." I only realized that this is the true face of my husband.
My husband said, now you are my wife, a part of our family. From tonight, you will be a part of this family, so you must listen to me. You also know that my life is difficult. The first thing I told you is that we will live in AA system in the future.
I think that looks good. You can spend the money you make yourself. Of course, I am the same, and I spend the money I make myself. If that happens, you can take care of your parents without looking at my face. I told my husband that the AA system between many couples will ruin everything in the future.
I don’t want to be like that, if we are husband and wife, you have me. If you can’t let go of me in my heart, you will not be husband and wife. But no matter what I say, my husband wants to be AA, but he hit me again. In just one sentence, I care about forcing me to agree to this matter. I was helpless and told my husband that if you agree to my five requests, then I will agree.
The first requirement is that I will not have children in the future.
Why should I give birth to a baby for you? Having a baby is unfair to you. Although I am your wife and should give birth to you, I don’t want to give birth to you because I think it’s unfair. You have to be so clear about the relationship with me, so why do I have to give birth to a baby for you?
You said we live in AA system. Can you have a baby? If you can't have children, then I won't have them either. If you don't have children, why should I have children? Because we live in the AA system, we still have to understand that I will not have children in the future.
No matter how long you have been together, no matter what you say, and no matter whether you will divorce because of this matter. I wouldn't agree to having a baby because we are AA system.If you have to have a child, you can adopt it, or you can find someone else.
Anyway, I will not agree to this matter, even if you divorce me because of this matter, I will not agree. Everything is forced by you, I don’t want to have a baby with you. Because we are AA.
The second requirement: Since it is required to be AA, let’s divide it to the end. We will sleep in separate rooms in the future.
Although we got married on the first day of today. At that time, I thought we should sleep separately. I thought this was good. You had to do it with me. If you don't separate from me, I won't separate from you either. But if you separate from me, I can only help you.
Even if we are husband and wife, even if we are married on the first day today, we still have to sleep separately. Don’t blame me, if you want to blame yourself. Since you can understand the difference, then let’s understand it completely. I don’t want to argue with you or quarrel with you, just sleep in this room, I can go to the study and sleep in the guest room.
Anyway, we have to sleep separately. If you have to come to my room to sleep, you will be fined. A fine of 200,000 yuan will be imposed. If you book a monthly subscription, you will get 2 million yuan per month. Don't blame me, if you want to blame yourself. If you want to distinguish our relationship a little more clearly, then we can distinguish it a little more clearly.
The third condition, this house is mine. You should pay if you live here.
Even if I have married you and you are my husband, you have to pay for your house. This is natural. Let’s just say that, you have to pay for your meal, unless you don’t eat, you have to pay for any meal, even if you are my husband, even if we are a family, you should give me money. Who asked you to make it with me?
You understand how well you share with me, so I will give you a little more. Also, even if your parents come here to live, they have to pay. I don’t want that much money either, so I’ll give it to you at a 20% discount on the market. It costs at least five or six thousand yuan to rent such a large house.
Now I just need to give me more than 2,000. Of course, we also share the water and electricity bills equally, and the water and electricity bills equally in the matter of houses are also equally divided. If you don’t want to give money, then get out. Whether you can live or not has much to do with me. If you live here, you have to pay money. If you don’t pay, get out.
The fourth requirement is, after the AA system, I will take my parents to the house to raise them.
all say that we are made in AA. Then I will take care of my parents by myself, right? Even if my parents have sons, I don’t need my brother to support my parents. I just need to support my parents. It was not easy for my parents to raise me, and I went to a noble school back then. How much money did my parents waste to study for me?
Now I can't ignore my parents. Since it is AA system, I can't let you take advantage of me. You can let your parents come here, so I can let my parents come here too. My parents came here to support their elderly care. Don't worry about my parents before, and you don't think about bullying my parents. My parents don’t need your care when they come home, just like I don’t take care of your parents. I will not care about your parents' affairs, no matter what your parents do. My parents will do the same in the future, and you won't have to care about what happened to my parents in the future. Even if my parents fall ill, you don’t have to worry about it.
I have a younger brother, and I have two younger brothers. Then I also have the time and ability to help my parents. So you don’t have to worry about my parents’ affairs, and I don’t care about your parents’ affairs either. I didn't want to do it, but you insisted on following me with such a heartless one, so I did it. If you want to blame me, you will blame yourself.
The fifth requirement, I won’t care about anything you encounter in the future.
Because we live in AA, what happens to you in the future. For example, your parents need me to take care of. Or maybe you are sick and I need to take care of you. I won't care. Because we have an AA relationship. Of course, I don’t care about your affairs anymore, and I won’t care about my affairs.
If my parents are sick and need someone to take care of, I don’t need you to care. I will take good care of my parents and others by myself. I will find a way to deal with my business myself. Even if you say I am ruthless, I don’t care. Who told you to live with me?
Since we say that we are AA, we must understand the difference. We must understand the difference between you and you so clearly, and we must understand the difference between our parents. You may quarrel with your parents over this matter in the future.
I had a quarrel with your parents. That was my relationship with your parents and it had nothing to do with you. Because we live in AA. No matter what, I don’t want to care about your affairs, I don’t want to care about your parents’ affairs, and I don’t want to care about anything.
Before I finished speaking, my husband hit me. I've just slapped me, and now I've slapped me again. I was no longer crying, but now I’m beaten to tears by my husband. My husband told me angrily, I'm just going to get to you. But you want to split up with me. I don't agree with this.
But we live in AA, you must agree. If you don't agree, don't blame me. I cried and told my husband that if you don’t agree to my five requirements, I won’t agree to the AA system with you. In this way, I was beaten by my husband again. As a result, I treated me like this on the first night. Do you want to pass in the future? I went back to my parents' home crying.
Unexpectedly, after 5 days, my husband not only did not apologize to me, but even wanted me to agree to that matter. Forget it, since we have to understand the difference so clearly, let’s just divide it and get a divorce. What do you think about this matter? If it were you, would you choose to divorce? What I don't want to divorce is my husband forcing me to do this.
He insisted on distinguishing me so clearly, but he did not agree with my request. This clearly did not take me seriously. If I continue to live with him, I feel that I will be bullied by him in the future. Forget it, it’s over, let’s get divorced. It is really impossible for couples to pass the AA system. If you understand the difference too clearly, it is not a husband-wife relationship. It is precisely because of that that I chose to divorce.
Conclusion:
face this matter. If it were me, I would choose to divorce. Let me say that, if your husband has no you in his heart, if your husband has you in his heart, he would not force you like this. You have already retreated, and you deliberately told him that this is a condition and that he will retreat in a difficult situation. But your husband not only disagrees, but also refuses to change this rule.
still has to hit you, what does this mean? This shows that in your husband's heart AA life is more important than you, otherwise he would not have hit you, nor would he force you to agree to this matter. Since this is the case, there is no need to live with your husband.
What's the point of going on like this? And there is a saying that only has 0 and countless times for . Once there is the first time, there will be the second time. So there is no need to give your husband a chance, just divorce him. All this is your husband’s own fault, no wonder you. If it were me, I would choose to divorce.
Here is another saying that you cannot be so clear during the cycle and you can understand the division so clearly, then you are not husband and wife. A husband-wife relationship is about me and I am, helping each other. I hope that this case can make all couples pay attention, and don’t use the AA system.
