This is not a fabrication, this is a real story of a real person, and she has also done educational work.
Many people like to watch marriage interviews and emotional interview programs. I believe that they rarely see such things in these interview programs, or they will never see them. So, the show is lively, and they know that it is on the show, so they will still maintain a little bit of rationality.
The male protagonist of the marriage said something that I remember deeply. It is stupid to not consider the influence of the other party’s original family.
Actually, I think about it now, this sentence makes sense. After decades of influence, the influence of the original family has long been deeply integrated into the blood of children, and even deep in the soul. It is not less difficult to change than Yugong moving mountains. He told me about his marriage story.
gives her material satisfaction, which is good satisfaction.
How much does it give to the child will she be satisfied? I believe there is no accurate answer. I still remember when I was in the second grade of elementary school, I went to the township middle school to celebrate on Children's Day that year. When I had lunch at noon, my cousin was the teacher who gave me the banknotes of 5000 . I went to eat three or two sides, but there were still some left. I remember it now, which means that the five-corner at that time made me very satisfied.
And the male protagonist's wife rarely cares about her from elementary school to junior high school. The objective reason is that their family is in a sports car, and their income was pretty good at that time. I remember that the allowance for the army was only 30 yuan a month, and her parents would give her fifty yuan a week. No matter what she bought or how she used it, it would cost fifty yuan anyway.
Parents think that first of all, I gave her more than other parents, and the children were proud of their face. The second thing is to give the child too much, and the child will think of how much his parents love me. They feel that material satisfaction is more important than other education.
cannot compare with the best, and it is worse.
When the child was in his teenage years, the sports car failed and there was still a lot of foreign debt, so he had to set up a street stall to survive. Their children have one son and one daughter. After my son finished junior high school, he didn't want to study anymore. I don't want to go to work. Every day I only know how to play games. My parents’ income from setting up street stalls in a day may be about tens of yuan or more than hundreds of yuan. But playing games for children costs dozens of yuan a day.
One day, my friend said to his mother-in-law out of kindness: "Don't give it to his brother-in-law online in the future. He doesn't have it, and the boss can't give him credit." His mother-in-law replied at the time, which almost made him dizzy. His mother-in-law said, "Don't you give him money, will you let him steal it? My classmate's son is still taking drugs." Her implication is that her child is pretty good.
yellow horns, buffalo horns , each tube.
This is what their family is like. If you look for it, you basically spend it yourself. If you are happy that day, you may buy a little bit of vegetables.
So my daughter’s salary to work is not high. She got married but was the same as others were not married. It seemed that one person was full and the whole family was not hungry. Her salary is not enough every month, and there is no way to tear down the east wall and repair the west wall.
His father-in-law occasionally goes out to do some small income, so he uses it to gambling. If he wins one day, he may buy a few side dishes and will not talk about it if he loses.
In recent years, they have had many problems, and their marriages have turned on red lights many times, making their homes frustrated.
His wife scolded her mother, maybe she was talking about her mother, but once she even attacked her mother. She swears when she swears, and she hasn't saved a penny for several years at work. Moreover, she had hepatitis, and the doctor said she could not drink alcohol and smoke, so she often took medicine. But if her husband refused to let her drink or smoke out of kindness, she would think she was in charge of her. They had quarreled several times about this matter, and it was stronger every time, but she never changed.
Every time he quarreled, he didn't want his parents to feel stressed, so he would talk to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and the effect would be even worse after the conversation.
Every time, either her parents say it doesn’t work, or she will quarrel with her parents again.Or it means that the son-in-law is ignorant and should give in to their daughter, and the result can be imagined.
His brother-in-law is also very difficult to talk about with his girlfriend. Once he talked about a girlfriend from another place. After a short time of talk, the other party seemed to disagree. He was about to pull his girlfriend to jump into the river, which scared the girl and asked her parents to come back to solve the problem.
After that, for more reasons, they had to divorce after a few years of marriage and look for the right person. Later, after the woman got married again, she once injured her husband with a knife because she didn't know what conflicts she had, and asked the police to come to the police to solve the problem. No matter how the solution was, she divorced again.
Many young people nowadays talk about it clearly before marriage when choosing a marriage, and the standards are clear at a glance. For example, how tall is the other person, and is it handsome? What is the income? What is the other party’s family conditions? How many houses are there, and how much is the house worth? What kind of car is it? Is it a good car?
The influence of invisible original family is basically not easy for many people to discover before marriage, or they do not pay attention to it tomorrow, and they find it late after marriage. Faced with such a situation, it is very complicated, and I can only give a few suggestions.
Ideas you shouldn't have before marriage.
1. I was looking for her (him), not her parents, and I don’t live with them.
2. Believe that you can change the other person. Since she loves me, why don’t you want to change for me?
3. As long as I perform well and I can do things myself, I believe that I can have a good relationship with them.
4. I will look for it, which can meet her material requirements. The main solution is to solve it. Are the secondary contradictions "pedary science"?
5. I have great sexual ability, and all the conflicts at the head of the bed can be resolved at the end of the bed.
6.Their family is really troublesome. I can’t afford to mess with it. Can’t you still afford to hide?
7. I can use my character and move them.
practices that can be considered after marriage.
Since it is called after marriage, it means that you have already gotten married. Only then did you realize that the other party is too affected by the family, which can be learned from.
1. Try not to live with any parents, because the more people there are, the more conflicts there are.
2. Try to do more than less.
3. Try to take care of the child himself, and not regret it.
4. Parents on both sides should be treated equally.
5. Whether it is working or resting, it is better to keep a little distance between husband and wife.
6. Believe in less spiritual chicken soup. They won’t even drink the chicken soup they make.
The last point: It really doesn't work, I can only choose to let go.
A happy marriage is encountering a harbor in the storm; an unhappy marriage is encountering a storm in the harbor.
Therefore, it is better to have nothing than to be too bad. It is a good sense of awe for marriage.
