I have watched too many blind date programs for middle-aged and elderly people. I feel that through the editor’s commentary, it is more exciting than the crosstalk jokes of Deyun Club .
The elderly single man said: I want to find someone who is about ten years younger than me, so that I can serve me for a hundred years. I didn't want to say that the single aunt said, "You are disabled and you still need someone to serve you, don't have any hands?"
The elderly single lady said: You pay all the living expenses, and give me a guarantee for my old age, and I can live a good life with you. I don’t want to be told by a single old man, “Are you able to have children or are you young enough? Why do you still have to pay a bride price?”
says that it is difficult for the elderly to live together in real life to live a long life because it involves too much. The attitude of children, the requirements for money, and the tolerance for being with each other are all problems that need to be faced after the partnership.
Isn’t there any long-term happiness if I live together? Of course not. The old man who has made sincerity thinks that html is 5 years old, finding someone who knows the warmth and coldness to accompany you to resist the ups and downs of life is better than a loneliness that you have suffered.
In the community, 59-year-old Aunt Wu admitted: When she is old, she doesn’t go to her son’s house to support her. She has been living with her husband in her hometown. It has been 6 years since she has lived. I feel that she is still very happy.
Contributor: 59-year-old Aunt Wu
lost her wife after retirement, and felt that "lostness is like a fever" could not be controlled
I am 59 years old this year, retired for 9 years, and my only son got married and had a child in another place. Some people say, "Grandma is responsible for taking care of the child, and grandma occasionally goes over to appreciate it, leaving behind a reward." It is a grandma like me.
It’s not that I don’t want to take care of my children, but that my grandma feels more sorry for the children than me, and I just need to be responsible for the “reward money”. But it is really hard to bear the lonely life alone. When my wife left at first, I was still at work. While I was chatting and laughing with my colleagues during the day, time passed, but the loneliness at night was like a fever, and I couldn't help but say it.
Some sisters around me persuaded me that I have a house, a car, a pension and savings, so there is no need to find a partner to live with me. If you are not careful, it is easy to lose your wife and soldiers. Not only do you have to get in, but you also have to get in. Some women even have their real estate deceived.
But there are also kind sisters who persuade you, but you are not too old. Find a partner who is in tune with your heart and temper to live with. has a companionship with each other. When you are usually in trouble and fever, at least someone will pour you a cup of hot water and call you for a rescue phone number.
Once people have an idea, they want to achieve it. I have met several old men, either they dislike me for being short or they think I am not young enough; those who like me are picky about other people's image and family background. Some old men do not pay attention to personal hygiene, and some men have too many children in their families. In short, they have not met a partner who is satisfied with each other.
I think it may be because I have high requirements. I am less than 1.6 meters tall and have a monthly pension of more than 4,000 yuan. The house is a two-bedroom apartment. My son is independent and I don’t need to pay. I just send red envelopes to my grandson during the holidays and send red envelopes to my mother-in-law to express my gratitude.
I ask the man to have independent housing, not housing in the name of his children. is prone to disputes, especially when the group breaks up, the man depends on the woman's house and never leaves, and he has to let everyone know before he stops. It is embarrassing.
met Lao Zhao, who was 7 years older than me, but he won countless times. After half a year of acquaintance, he chose to work together for a life of
53. When he was with the waist drum team in the community to perform in the city, he met Lao Zhao, who was 7 years older than me. At that time, we agreed to take us back to the community with a car, but someone brought his family to the car, so that some people would not have seats.
Lao Zhao is a retired volunteer worker in the community next door. She told me, if you are not in a hurry, wait a moment and he will drive me home. Seeing that Lao Zhao was kind and spoke kindly, I nodded and agreed. Lao Zhao put my things in his car first, wrote down my phone number, and then he went to work hard.
After waiting for the performance to end, Lao Zhao called me and he sent me home. In this way, we met.When we were chatting on the way home, I felt attentive to Lao Zhao. I felt that his gentle and elegant conversation, especially what I wanted. In the past, my wife talked to me, and she said what she should say and did what she should do.
After Lao Zhao got home, he called me to report his safety, I felt that this man was very particular about doing things and was a reliable person. Later, we had more contact with each other and became more in love with each other. Lao Zhao told me that he deliberately found someone to leave me the rest that time so that he could follow me and get to know each other. There is also a buffering momentum, which is higher than the success rate of others' introductions.
This also touched me a little. The "twilight love" between the elderly will be the same as the "accidental encounter" when they were young. Do they need to be carefully designed? The Lao Zhao family is a daughter, she has been married and has children for a long time. She lives in the same community with Lao Zhao. She especially hopes that Lao Zhao can find another partner to live with each other so that they can feel at ease with each other.
After I met Lao Zhao for half a year, I told my son about our affairs. My son came back from another place to invite Lao Zhao for a meal, and then told me, Mom, Uncle Zhao looks good, he is a person of particularity, and should get along well with you. , you should live a good life together, don’t worry about me too much.
6 years of life, there were friction and surprises, and I still felt happy in my heart
I have been living with Lao Zhao for 6 years. During this period, when Lao Zhao’s daughter gave birth to her second child, I helped to take care of the confinement period. After his daughter went to work, she also helped to take care of the child for 2 years. Later, Lao Zhao’s mother-in-law was in good health and she was responsible for picking up and dropping off the kindergarten. Sometimes I also changed the pickup and drop off with her.
Lao Zhao was also hospitalized for a week due to a sudden illness. I was also taking care of him and did not ask his daughter to take leave to take care of him. When I was sick, Lao Zhao was even more cruel. Even my son didn't let me say , saying that he was enough. Finding a wife is for each other's care. If you look for each other's children as soon as you are sick, you will lose the meaning of finding a wife.
Although Lao Zhao and I also had trivial quarrels and quarrels, I still felt that our relationship was happy. At least we had each other in our hearts. We had discussed that when we really couldn't go there in the future, we would go to the nursing home to join hands and not burden our children or trouble.
Conclusion:
" Our Marriage ", there is a line saying: The principle of solving problems in marriage is to make both parties profit. If one party can only make a profit, the party that makes a profit will gain a better position. The so-called "making both parties profitable" means that both parties must be able to feel the love, kindness, care and care given by each other.
The same goes for the elderly to live together. Only when both of them give their sincerity can they make profits for both parties. Therefore, what decides whether life can last for a long time is whether the hearts of two old people can be together.
I wish all single elderly people in the world can find their spouses together and spend their old age happily.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
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