these two personal secrets are so amazing, you must collect them well.
1⃣️, how to quickly heat up your relationship with anyone in an instant? Let’s take a look together.
Do you still remember the classmate who was criticized by the teacher during school? Do you still remember the classmate who was praised by the teacher with you? Please recall, among the two, who did you have a relationship with? Is it the one who was criticized together? Your relationship will quickly heat up after being criticized together, and that's the key to the problem.
Because from the perspective of human nature: suffering together is more like enjoying happiness together, which makes the two people feel much closer. It is called Brother Neng. Now, think about it, among all the friends you have dated in the past, was the one who had the most profound impression of you who had suffered and suffered with you? Is the girlfriend you impressed most, the one who once lived the hardest days with you?
Why do we always feel that the Chinese New Year was the happiest when we were young, because life was hard at that time. I felt so happy to be able to eat a bite of meat. The one that can be remembered for you forever will always be the one who accompanied you through the most difficult days, not the one who accompanied you through the most comfortable days. Have you ever been hit with someone? Have you ever been ridiculed with people? Have you become closer to him because of this? So if you want to get close to anyone quickly. And if he will never forget you, then don’t take him to enjoy his happiness, but take her to endure hardships. If you want to chase a girl, don’t take her to the beach for vacation, but take her to climb Everest .
2⃣️, if you want to convince others, you don’t need to reason at all. Just master the psychology of human nature. What's your psychology? You will understand by giving an example. There was a man alone in a house, and suddenly he heard a loud noise, and he ran away; he changed a new man and entered the house. What was different this time was that there were two other people in the room at the same time. A few minutes later, there was a loud noise in the room. However, this time, the newcomer did not run away. The reason was that he saw that the other two people did not run away, so he was just startled and continued to sit there calmly. This is the irresistible herd mentality of human nature.
So if you want to convince someone to do something, you can tell her that most people do it. And if you give evidence to prove that this is true, then he will follow you. Why can those masters of success make money from many students easily? Even if the routines used are very obvious, many people are still willing to flock to it, because when a group of people get together, the individual's IQ will be reduced to 0. So when you meet someone who is not very sociable, then this person is very likely to be a master. Of course, what I am talking about here is not the kind of people who are excluded by others, but the kind of people who actively choose to be unsociable, because they can think independently, not go with the flow, and not blindly cater to the public.
You can do something for various reasons, but don’t do it because others do it, so you have to do it. For example, even though I had no money, I went to buy a car and a house, but because my classmates bought a car and a house, I ended up getting a mortgage and a lot of debt. For example, even though I was not mature, I got married and had children too early, just because others were married and had children at this age. Let me tell you that what others do is not important at all. Whether it is the right node for you to do is worth the focus!
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