Pour water into the cup, and the water is too full and it will overflow;
The moon reaches its fullest day, which means it begins to become incomplete.
This is the principle of "Water is full and overflowing, and the moon is full and in short."
In an intimate relationship, do you also understand this logic?
Do you also have such confusion?
The better you treat a person, the less you don’t know how to cherish him;
When you try to be cold and act “full of confidence” and learn to love yourself, the other person’s attitude towards you becomes enthusiastic again.
This is human nature.
No matter how much you love the other person, don’t love him too much.
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"Marginal decreasing effect "
This is a law in economics.
means:
"The same enjoyment is repeated continuously, and the enjoyment it brings gradually decreases."
For example:
A person is so hungry that he can't eat. At this time, someone handed him a steamed bun, he swallowed it voraciously and said, "This is the most delicious food in the world."
However, when he eats his stomach, others give him steamed buns every day, and he will eat it tasteless.
This is the reduction of "pleasure". After people meet the most basic needs, they begin to pursue more. The same is true in
intimate relationships.
Early stage of getting along:
You are kind to him, respectful, care about your well-being, and give him time, money and energy, and he sees it all.
In this state where you give more and he gives less, your relationship will also rise in an orderly manner.
Middle time of getting along:
If you treat him well, his perception begins to decline.
If you say, when you first gave it for him, his satisfaction was 80 points; then at this stage, his satisfaction was only 60 points.
Hometimes with each other:
You give the same thing for him, and he rarely feels "pleasure". What is
like?
The moment you put your hands on the water at 50 degrees, it feels very hot; but if you keep putting your hands in, your hands will adapt to this temperature.
At this time, the water temperature can no longer bring you physiological discomfort.
There is a love story between two boys:
Boy A:
He gives his girlfriend a bouquet of flowers every week. Over time, his girlfriend felt very unhappy and began to complain about her boyfriend being perfunctory and not paying attention to it.
Boy B:
He only gives his girlfriend a bouquet of flowers on some special and meaningful festivals.
Every time I give flowers to girls, the girls are very surprised and happy. What does the comparison between the two love patterns of
What does it mean?
Love someone, don’t always give something of “equal value”.
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Only then will the other party not cherish
In the book "Bored Charm", there is a passage:
"One of the irony of love, the more you don't like someone, the more confident you can attract him. If you are attracted by others, you will have an inferiority complex , because we always give the most perfect qualities to the person we love."
Think about it, does this mindset also exist in your emotional experience?
When you don't like the other person, you can act casually;
In the face of the pursuit and confession of people you don't like, you can be rational and decisive Reject.
However, once you face the person you like, you become timid and indecisive.
Your daily self-confidence instantly breaks the defense in front of the other side;
You have prepared full of love words, but the moment you see the other side, you can't say a word Mouth.
Why do you give too much, and the other party doesn't cherish you?
First: The "happiness threshold" in his heart is lowered, and it is too boring to obtain the source of happiness.
Second: You always give, which will encourage him The "desire" makes him increasingly dissatisfied with you.
Third: People are used to hurting their closest people, just like some children don’t know how to cherish the love of their parents.
In other words, the other party will eat you.
"What can I do if I treat you badly? Anyway, you can't live without me. "
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Good feelings must have a "border sense"
What is a sense of boundary?
You can understand this way: "I can love you and have the ability to leave you at any time. "
I treat you well because I love you, not the reason you use to hurt me;
I love you, it does not mean that I will not leave you. Once you make me unhappy, I will leave you at any time.
So, how do you make the other party feel your determination?
The answer is:
Create a "sense of crisis" for the other party.
For example:
In the pursuit stage, you give 10 points on him; after being together, you gradually slow down your relationship and slow down a little.
If he gives to you, then you give him the same response;
If he doesn't give to you, then you stop giving.
The purpose of doing this is to let him understand your principles and bottom line.
Recently, it has become popular on the hot search " Xue Pinggui and " l3 Wang Baochuan ".
Why is a girl like Wang Baochuan called "a typical case of love brain " by contemporary young people?
is because she has lost herself in love and lost herself from the beginning.
What is the state of good love?
You have 100 points, and the other party is also 100 points. If you love each other, it is 200 points.
0 What is bad love like?
You are 100 points, the other party is 100 points, you love each other, the other party becomes 200 points, you become 0 points.
Do you understand this logic?
Today's topic:
Have your efforts been cherished?
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Today's topic:
Have you cherished your efforts?
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