The original wife, Ms. Zheng, married her husband for thirteen years and became busy last year because of her work.
Her mother-in-law had a physical problem again and she couldn't help her take care of the children. She still needed someone to take care of her.
So she discussed it with her husband and found a nanny in the house.
pick up and drop off children every day, do housework, and take care of mother-in-law in poor health.
Originally, I found a nanny for family harmony, but I didn’t expect it to ruin her family.
This nanny in her home is a divorced woman, in her thirties,
After all, she is a nanny in her home and has been with her children for a long time, so Ms. Zheng asked about the mistress in detail.
learned that the mistress divorced before because of the mistress’s ex-husband’s problem. It is said that it was domestic violence against .
The original matchmaker was quite sympathetic to the mistress. After all, they are both women, and it is not the mistress’ fault that they marry the wrong person.
later decided to use mistress, and tried for a week, and the mistress performed very well.
Ms. Zheng has signed a long-term employment agreement with the mistress, and the salary is not low.
There are many cases where my husband cheated on a nanny. I am not old like a mistress, and
is still a single woman. My original wife, Ms. Zheng, haven’t she thought about this kind of problem?
Ms. Zheng showed Lan Fang the photo of the mistress and sent her own photo.
Lan Fang understood what Ms. Zheng meant. Ms. Zheng’s appearance and figure were much better than the mistress.
Ms. Zheng is obviously older than the mistress, but she looks younger and more beautiful than the mistress.
It is also because of this. She never thought that her husband would cheat on a mistress who was not as good as hers.
relaxed his vigilance and gave the mistress an opportunity to take advantage of.
When Ms. Zheng was on a business trip, she developed an extramarital affair with the cheating man.
How did Ms. Zheng find the exception? Because of the cheating man suddenly praised the mistress.
even compared Ms. Zheng and mistress together, and then concluded that Ms. Zheng seemed to be inferior to mistress. In this case, it is obvious that the cheating man has a different relationship with the mistress.
Ms. Zheng secretly installed surveillance at home and successfully recorded a lot of evidence.
Ms. Zheng showed up with the cheating man with evidence, and originally thought she could kick the mistress out.
Unexpectedly, the mistress is so powerful that she can deceive the cheating man and willingly divorce her for her.
Ms. Zheng is unwilling, and the cheating man even sued him.
Ms. Zheng felt that it was useless for her to insist on not getting divorced, so she came to Lan Fang for help.
An elderly nanny with bad divorce conditions. How did
defeat the original wife who has excellent conditions, similar age and better appearance?
This has to talk about the methods of this mistress!
According to what Ms. Zheng said, the Blue side analyzed the means of the mistress getting to the top.
The first method: pretend to be wronged and make the cheating man feel sympathetic.
Many men have a fatal weakness, that is, heroism.
will be more sympathetic to the weak, and will easily develop sympathy for women who show weakness and want to help them.
This is how the mistress takes advantage of this and keeps a distance from the cheating man.
This mistress is a mistress who is very good at pretending to be wronged. The point where she pretends to be wronged is her previous unfortunate marriage.
In fact, this method is used by mistresses not only for cheating men, but also for many people.
For example, for the original wife, why did the original wife finalize this mistress?
clearly knows that the mistress is divorced, single, and not too old. Not only is the mistress inferior to her,
also feels sympathy for the mistress's previous tragic marriage experience.
is willing to try to use mistresses with the mentality of wanting to help the mistresses.
The second method is to pull and stomp the original wife secretly, and to devalue the original wife.
The original wife is high-value, and the mistress is not as good as the original wife. Why do men who cheat on her choose the mistress?
Because the mistress will keep stomping on the original wife when she comes into contact with a cheating man.
As Ms. Zheng said, the cheating man compared the mistress with Ms. Zheng.
also thinks that mistresses are better, just the result of mistresses stumble and belittle the value of the original wife.
People’s psychology is very strange. If one person talks about the other person’s bad things all day long.
Slowly you will really feel that that person seems to be really bad.
Because Ms. Zheng always traveled on business during that time, she gave the mistress a chance.
The mistress openly and secretly every day, saying that the original wife is not good, and the cheating man will naturally feel the same way.
The third method is to take advantage of the situation and find opportunities to care about a cheating man and warm up your relationship.
Most women are busy doing their careers and ignore family marriages.
will have a husband who feels that he has been ignored and feels that he is emotionally unsatisfied.
If the original wives still don’t notice this, the men will not take the initiative to mention it.
There will be a gap between husband and wife. The cheating man is emotionally dissatisfied, and he will also complain about the newborn, thinking that the wife did not find out that it was a problem.
At this time, a woman who has contact with a cheating man takes advantage of the situation.
cares about cheating on a man, cheating on a man is easily shaken, and he feels that the mistress is more related to him than the original wife.
began to have feelings for the mistress, and even developed an extramarital affair with the mistress.
Many people have no love, and whoever treats them will fall in love with whom.
Many mistresses rely on pleasing men, making men like her, and developing extramarital affairs.
The last method is to weaken the original wife’s sense of value to the family.
Why is it easy for a nanny to replace the original wife?
Because what this nanny does is what the original wife should do for many men.
If the nanny and mistress deliberately lead the cheating man, he will feel that the original match will contribute less and less to the family.
He doesn't need his original wife to make money to support his family, because maybe his financial level is enough to support his family.
So at this time, what is the value of the original partner? A cheating man will start thinking.
does not seem to have the original wife, and this family can still operate normally with him and mistresses.
or even mistresses do better than the original partner. They take care of their family and can also give emotional satisfaction to cheating men.
How should Ms. Zheng deal with the situation?
The man cheated on me ignores one point, the mistress’s efforts are not free.
The mistress’s efforts to this family are because she earns this salary, which is her job.
Where does the mistress get the salary? In fact, it was also earned by the original wife's hard work.
The mistress does seem to be taking on part of the work of the original wife, but the mistress can be replaced.
Any change to a nanny may do better than a mistress.
So the Lan party’s advice to Ms. Zheng, regardless of the extramarital affair between the cheating man and the mistress, change to a nanny.
Is the mistress losing her job? Is it because she wants money to live with a cheating man or to be a nanny for someone else?
No matter which type it is, it will be a fatal blow to her and the cheating man's extramarital affair.
A new nanny comes and will tell the cheating man that the mistress can do it even if it is done by someone else.
What the mistress should do is not the reason why the mistress uses it to stumble on the original wife.
Compared to you breaking up the mistress, it is better to let the cheating man see clearly what the mistress is like.
Finally, Lan Fang wanted to say that many cases where nanny wants to get ahead,
will give the original wife another warning to the opposite sex that appears around men. You need to pay attention to.
Many times, extramarital affairs can be killed in the cradle.
If you have an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
