Introduction
With the development of society, we can find in life that many elderly people live a relaxed and happy life than young people. Even if this part of people is not all, the majority are.
They have their own pension, they don’t have to worry about spending or seeing a doctor. Even if they don’t do anything, they can live a very easy life.
The only thing you have to do every day is to eat, drink and have fun, so that your life is less boring and your life is enviable.
, are they not worried? However, not. Although some of the old people are glamorous, they are actually messy. Especially those old people who don’t know how to leave a way out for themselves, they just put their children in front, but in the end they raise "eyed wolves" and make their old days miserable.
, 70-year-old Mr. Hao and his wife both have a good pension and good financial conditions. However, their lives after retirement were very miserable. They made a pretentious decision and their lives in their later years were greatly reduced and they were very unsatisfactory.
What caused Mr. Hao and his wife to have a miserable life in their later years? Why does it make it difficult for them to have such good financial conditions? Let’s take a look at what the decision that made their lives unsatisfactory? Have you made such a decision like them?
Contributor: 70-year-old Mr. Hao
I am Mr. Hao, 70 years old this year, and I have been retired for 10 years. Before retirement, I was a middle-level employee of a certain enterprise and had a good income. After retirement, I also had a monthly pension of more than 5,000 yuan.
My wife used to be a technical backbone in the factory. She earned higher than ordinary people and had better benefits than ordinary people. After retirement, my wife also had a monthly pension of more than 4,000 yuan.
When I was young, my wife and I were envious of each other. We had good jobs, had a good income, and had a good quality of life. I took my family to settle in the city early, and I had a house and a car, and my children also enjoyed the education in the city.
Logically speaking, my wife and I should have lived a good life after retirement, which is comfortable for ordinary people.
However, my wife and I were just the opposite of her old age. We didn’t enjoy the good life, but our lives were filled with bad things in vain. We lived a mess every day, and we couldn’t even keep up with those who had no pension.
caused such a result is nothing more than other things, just because my wife and I made a wrong decision. Now I think about it, I really regret it.
At the beginning, both of us retired. My wife and I were very happy and agreed to go out to travel around the motherland together.
retired, we have no pressure, our children have started a family, we have savings and pensions, when will we stay if we don’t enjoy it at this time?
Let’s go. We walked through Lijiang, Yunnan, Dali, , Xishuangbanna, , Xishuangbanna, Sanya, , Xiamen, , and West Lake in Hangzhou, hazy mist and rain in the south of the Yangtze River, and flowing water in small bridges.
Every time we go out, we can walk for half a month, try snacks from all over the place, and when we encounter something delicious, we will bring some to our relatives and friends to let them taste it.
When we don’t go out, our lives are also very happy. We do what we like, start as much as we want, eat whatever we want, and eat whatever we want. If we don’t want to do it, we can go out for a big meal together. Although the monthly expenses are more than 4,000, for us, this is acceptable. We can still save half of the pension, which is good if we can't pay for it in the future.
However, a happy and happy life is always short-lived. After my wife and I enjoyed life for two years, troubles came.
Our son suddenly asked us for money and said that he was interested in a car and was short of money. He asked us to support him to buy a car for 100,000 yuan.
We didn't think much about it at the beginning. When our son was short of money, he would give it to him. We were only a child, and we wouldn't all belong to him in the future.
What's more, we couldn't bear to let our son suffer, so even if my wife didn't discuss it with me and transferred the money to my son, I didn't say anything, and I just listened to it and went there.
Unexpectedly, this head starts uncontrollable. In the future, either today, my daughter-in-law said that my granddaughter was going to school and needed our sponsorship, or tomorrow my son said that he wanted the family to go out for a trip and asked us to sponsor...
endless excuses to ask us for money, but there is nothing they can't say. We were suddenly dependent on our parents by our son's family, but we did not realize that they had changed.
It is probably because we want our children to live a good life as parents, so we didn’t think too much about it. It is precisely because of this. 7 years ago, a request from my son made my wife and I feel farther and farther away from stability.
7 years ago, my granddaughter started to go to junior high school. My son suddenly called me and said that he wanted to fall in love with a better junior high school. If you want to enter, you need to be nearby, or you have to pay a high school choice fee.
also said that the school choice fee is not something you can enter after you pay, so it is better to buy a house near the school, which is more appropriate.
But they don’t have enough money, even if they sell the money they are now living, they don’t have enough money, so they want us to help pay 200,000 yuan as our sponsor for our granddaughter to go to school.
When we passed, our old couple had a high pension. Although they had sons and they asked for money from time to time, life was still acceptable, but there was no surplus.
But now my son wants so many, we don’t have them at all, so how can we meet my son’s requirements? We told our son about the situation, but our son said we would ask our relatives and friends to borrow.
However, nowadays, borrowing money from relatives means breaking off diplomas, but no one is willing to lend it out. Isn’t there a saying: it’s the old man who borrows money.
Who is willing to let your money go without returning? Everyone is not stupid. My wife and I are old and have limited repayment ability, so it is even more difficult to borrow. In the end, we only borrowed less than 50,000 yuan.
As the registration began, my son urged me even more urgently. He asked my wife and I to sell the house and then exchange the house for them. He also said that he would also live with him in the future and would not have to go there early or late.
At the beginning, I didn’t agree when I heard my son say this. After all, there are inevitably conflicts between two generations of people living together. Moreover, although our house only has two bedrooms, it is also our home for many years, and it is full of memories.
The son and daughter-in-law took turns to persuade, and said that for the sake of the good of their younger generations, and that they would be filial to us with them. Facing their sugar coating, we finally compromised.
The house was sold. We lived with our son. At first, we were quite comfortable. The son and daughter-in-law were filial and granddaughter accompanied us. It can be said that children and grandchildren are surrounded by their knees and enjoy the joy of family.
Usually, when we have time, we will take the initiative to clean up the house and cook, and when we finish the work, we will do what we like. I went for a walk in the park and watched others dance and sing, and life was quite interesting.
We thought that the future will be so comfortable and happy in our old age. However, as the old couple was in poor health and could not help their sons and their sons, the good days gradually faded away from us.
As a result, the change in the attitude of my son and others came. We old couple became useless people in the son and others. We only had no use in eating rice, and we were also dragging us back.
Because we have to take medicine, we need to spend money every month, and my daughter-in-law always complains that we add pressure to their lives. Because I am older, my memory has decreased. Sometimes when I take something and forget to put it back in my original position, I will be complained about it. I know how to use it or not.
keeps doing this, and my daughter-in-law also told her son secretly that she would take us back to the countryside, but the old couple couldn't help around her, and they also increased their expenses, etc.
My son did not agree with my daughter-in-law's approach, but my wife and I were still very nervous. If we could move, we would be disliked. If we could not move in the future, would we be even more disliked and wanted to drive us back to the countryside in a different way?
But I haven’t been back in the countryside for many years, so it’s not as convenient as the city. How can I live after I go back?well!
Just when I thought we lived together, although we were unhappy occasionally, we could still continue to live together, the conflict came again.
A small thing triggered a family war. The daughter-in-law was full of resentment and began to find faults. It was either that we quarreled at night, or that we spent a lot of money, or that we did something wrong, or that we did not do it well.
Faced with the noise every day, there was no way. My wife and I discussed living with my son and the others, thinking of going back to the county town to buy a small house, and we all lived our own way.
The pensions of the two of us are about 10,000 yuan together, and the remaining money of the seller should be appropriate. After saving the pension for several years, it has been at least 100,000, which can be regarded as a guarantee in the future.
However, my wife told me that our pension has not been saved in the past few years. After living with my son, my son and others rarely pay for living expenses. We basically subsidize them, and most of the granddaughter's tuition and living expenses belong to my wife.
This made me more determined to leave my son’s house and buy a small house to live in. We can no longer let my son rely on his parents, otherwise, one day we will have nothing.
Abruptly made a decision, my wife and I went back to the county town to see a one-bedroom house, bought it in full, and moved out of my son's home.
I lived a comfortable life back home, but if I think about it carefully, the difference between life and when I just retired is still a bit big. The house was spacious at that time and had enough money, but now I can only live a life with calculating qualities.
And all this changed, starting with the decision to sell a house to help my son and the others. I regret it even though I think about it.
is written at the end
can help children. You must know how to grasp the limit and leave a way out for yourself. Only in this way can you not be too bad in your old age.
It is an irrational behavior for a person to place his future on others. We must learn to be responsible for ourselves and our later years.
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