A friend of mine is a very intellectual girl, let’s call her F for the time being.
We are one year apart from F. We are twenty-six or seven years old. In this small fourth-tier city, we are not married and have no boyfriend yet, and we are already a senior single woman. Our parents are starting to worry about getting married and having children one after another, or preparing to get married. The parents of
F seem to be more anxious and frequently arrange blind dates for her. When we get together, we will hear her mention her blind dates. Occasionally, there are those who have a good first impression, and they will not be resolved while continuing to get along.
That day, when I received the call from F, I was ready to fall asleep. F on the other end of the phone was very excited, and the jokes on the Internet happened in her life. After asking carefully, I realized that she had gone on a blind date with her parents' arrangement.
Let’s call the man B. After F got off work, he rushed to the agreed restaurant to meet B. B is a very ordinary boy, two years older than F. If you don’t have any special impression of meeting for the first time, then chatting during meals is the key to dispelling F and continuing to get along.
Out of courtesy, F dressed up carefully on the same day to go to the appointment. B took the initiative to talk to F about his requirements after marriage. F said tactfully that if there are no special requirements, we should follow our local customs and live in marriage. We hope that both parties will be more tolerant of each other and live in harmony.
B started a long discussion. First of all, let’s talk about F’s clothes. It looks like F is a girl who likes to dress up. I hope to buy less clothes after being together, which means that there are several sets of clothes to change. It is best to have no makeup. He likes no makeup and says that cosmetics are both harmful to the skin and expensive, and the makeup is not good at all.
At the same time, I hope that F can quit his job after marriage and focus on his energy in the family, saying that women should take care of their husbands and children at home and take good care of their children with him.
Speaking of this, F asked, what is B’s income. B said that he had 3,000 yuan a month, and his parents took on part of the mortgage loan. He only needed to take out half of it to pay off the mortgage loan. The remaining 1,500 yuan should be used to provide them with a wealthy life. He also expressed that he hoped that F could allocate reasonably and could save some money.
F indicated that he was speechless and opened the door to speechless. He was speechless and got home. He only earned 3,000 yuan a month for half a month, or he had the two or three orders he took casually after work. How could he have the nerve to put forward?
Due to the face of his parents, F insisted until the end of the meal. If the conversation during the meeting made F feel disgusted, then the chat after getting home will escalate into disgust.
B asks F when he plans to get married. F said he had no plans for the time being, nor was he prepared to fall in love, and he revealed the meaning of rejection inside and outside. B's operation began, accusing F of the man who did not intend to have a relationship with him, and he came out to have a meal. He went to see F and spent money on gas, indicating that F would have to bear half of the cost of dining and the gas consumed by driving.
F in a fit of anger, and said that he would treat him to eat. Closing in seconds. F immediately blocked the other party.
The more I think about it, the more angry F called me to complain, and I laughed. This man is really confident and is no longer the common man we often call him.
Maybe some people will say that F and I have too high vision, but at that time, we really didn’t like such men, and now few girls can like them.
At that time, there was no epidemic and double reduction policies. F is engaged in the construction industry, not counting additional income, five or six thousand a month. I am engaged in the education and training industry, and I have 6,000 a month. I can’t say I’m very confident. It’s enough to spend in our small city, and it’s the kind of girl who wants to buy whatever she wants.
The most important thing is that we both lived at home at that time, and we didn’t have to worry about food and drink. We earned our salary by pocket money. Occasionally, our parents would buy a bill for us, and our lives were stress-free.
F When she talked to her parents about this, she did not arrange a blind date for her for a long time.
Blind date first understands the family conditions of both parties, but it does not mean that you do not need to look at whether the other party’s thoughts and views can match you. What we are looking for is the person who wants to live together and stay with each other for the rest of his life, and must be cautious.
Don’t just make do with your age, be responsible for your life. No matter when, you must be kind to yourself, so that you can have the ability to love yourself and others.
