When a person intentionally does one thing, it is profitable.
is just that everyone’s picture is different. Some people picture emotions, some people picture money, some people accompany them, and some people picture to meet their physiological needs at a low cost.
And the girl keeps in touch with her ex-boyfriend, there is only one reason:
She still has fantasies about her ex-boyfriend.
either want to make up, or like it, or the ex-boyfriend did not explicitly refuse, making the girl feel that there is still a chance.
In short, the girl did not give up completely in this relationship, and this is what she "want to do".
Conversely, if the roles are swapped, this problem seems to be much simpler.
Because there are too many boys who keep in touch with their ex-girlfriends, and even every girl has the experience of this:
When a peaceful breakup is made, boys will basically not take the initiative to delete and block themselves - similarly, a boy also keeps contact information for his previous ex-girlfriends.
You thought it was his affectionate, and you thought it was you unforgettable enough.
But as long as you are a little more realistic, it is easy to find the truth:
The contact between a boy and his ex is mostly just stepping on the good memories of the past and taking advantage of the situation to raise the spare tire .
Because for boys, the ex is the lowest cost, the most efficient and the most accessible partner of the opposite sex.
Because the two of them have had good memories, the ex-girlfriend is easily emotionally affected and has less preparedness. There is no need to test or run-in, and he will directly bring himself into the role of his girlfriend again.
This is also the basic idea of boys for the opposite sex: on-call companionship, low-cost physiological needs, and relatively free gender relationships.
And these things are easier to reach on your ex.
Most girls’ pictures of their ex are: the beautiful memories reproduced by
, the cost of the past, and the unyielding expectations.
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# Reproducing beautiful memories
Reproducing beautiful memories
Reproducing beautiful memories refer to girls who are easily trapped in past memories and cannot come out.
As long as two people have memories and imaginations, girls will easily feel unwilling.
"He was not like this before, why is it like this now? It must be something wrong with us. If we fix it again, the relationship will be as good as before."
"He used to be so good to me, but now he is so cruel to me. This does not meet his promise, so I am unwilling to accept it." There is a gap between
and his emotions have changed, so I am unwilling to accept it and want to regain the sweetness of the past.
After all, I have tasted the sweetness, and it is difficult to accept the status quo.
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# Past cost
Past cost refers to the sincerity, value and feelings that girls pay for themselves, and it is difficult for them to let go.
Generally speaking, in the context of traditional society, the cost value that girls need to pay for a love affair that is unsuccessful is relatively higher than that of boys.
Because society has higher requirements for women's moral standards, there are many potential prejudice and age and gender kidnapping.
So in addition to their true feelings, women are also more susceptible to kidnapping at the cost of paying.
, if you pay, you are unwilling to change your choices. Girls with limited abilities and limited vision are easily unable to think about it and hang themselves from a tree.
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# Unsuccessful expectation
The most important point is: the boy did not completely reject the girl, making the girl feel that the two of them are still possible.
The girl continues to contact her ex, which means she has fantasies about you, but this fantasy is largely caused by the boy's own hands.
or, it was because they didn't make it clear when they broke up. They used "calm for a while" as an excuse to make the girl think that there was no substantial problem at all and that they still had a chance to reconcile.
or, it is because the girl has not officially rejected the girl’s kindness after the breakup. With an ambiguous attitude, the girl thinks that harder she will have results.
is not proactive and refuses or takes responsibility. It is because the girl’s sincerity makes the girl think that she is “profitable.”
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