After Li Xinyao returned to his hometown to start a business, Fang Xinwei also wanted to transform and do agriculture. He put the transformation track on the construction of seedling plant.
But Fang Xinwei and Li Xinyao are different. Li Xinyao is single, and her father also hopes that she will come back very much. There are no obstacles for her to return to the countryside to start a business. However, Fang Xinwei has his own small family. His wife is from the city. His son grew up in the city. They were already very uncomfortable just by going back to their hometown to visit relatives, let alone staying here forever.
So we see that after Fang Xinwei returned to the countryside, his wife stayed in the city with her children, and Fang Xinwei was always too busy to go home, so his wife Zhang Qi filed for divorce with him. Many people will feel that Zhang Qi does not understand Fang Xinwei enough when they see this scene, after all, that is what he wants.
But I think it is precisely because Zhang Qi wants to divorce that it further shows that Fang Xinwei is a very lucky man.
Why did Zhang Qi want to divorce?
After Zhang Qi and Fang Xinwei separated, she took care of the children alone and had to manage the company, which was naturally very hard, but she did not complain too much to Fang Xinwei. Until her son’s birthday, when Fang Xinwei came back, the child was already asleep. His wife felt sorry for her father’s son who had been waiting for her father’s son at the door, and she released her emotions in front of Fang Xinwei.
Of course, this is not the only thing that makes Zhang Qi almost collapsed. But over the past few years, Fang Xinwei has invested more and more in agriculture, and the quality of life in their family has declined seriously. Not only does she have to save money in finance, she is also almost supported by her family alone. Even if she takes her mother to the hospital, she has to pick Fang Xinwei when she has time to spend time at home with her children.
For Zhang Qi, she didn't know whether the path Fang Xinwei took was right or wrong. She was afraid that the end of this kind of end of her endurance and efforts was a bad result, and this was the most fundamental reason why she wanted to divorce.
I think if you are also a woman in marriage, you will be able to understand Zhang Qi’s inner feelings and thoughts more. Many times, as a wife, what she cares about is not how much she suffers and how tired she suffers, nor is she asking her to give up her existing life to support her husband.
But, she was afraid that she had done so much and got a wrong result. She was afraid that her hard work and efforts would not only not be seen, but also be blamed and complained.
In fact, when Zhang Qi chose to stay in the city, someone once said this: This woman is unwilling to endure hardships and is not worthy of Fang Xinmai.
Think about it, if a wife who supports her husband wholeheartedly will get such an evaluation. So which woman thinks this kind of effort is worth it? It is precisely because of worrying that this "unworthy" that Zhang Qi had the idea of divorce.
And we only saw that she was unwilling to go back to the countryside with her husband, she only saw that she wanted to divorce, but never thought about the reasons and logic behind this.
Why would Zhang Qi rather live in two places than go back to the countryside?
Zhang Qi's identity is not only Fang Xinwei's wife, she is also a mother and her parents' daughter. Of course, she is also herself.
Fang Xinwei returns to his hometown to start a business, which is to return to the familiar place and realize his ideals. If Zhang Qi goes back with him, she will leave her parents and give up the familiar living environment. We have seen before that her child fell ill after returning because of discomfort, but the local medical conditions are far inferior to those in the city. All of this, Zhang Qi cannot ignore it.
Perhaps many people cannot understand the troubles caused by this change in their living environment, and think that it is just a different place to live. The locals live in this way, so you must be fine. I am married far away, and I can especially understand Zhang Qi's feelings.
When I returned to his hometown with my husband from the north to his hometown in the south, a few days after I went back, pustules appeared on both legs. I went to the hospital for examination and the doctor said that it was bitten by mosquitoes. I was particularly amused and amazed at that time because I was also from a rural area and had been bitten by mosquitoes since I was a child, but it was never that serious.
Later, local elderly people told me that most of the people from other places came to their place, and there was no good way, so I could only endure it and rely on my own immunity. As for how many years it took, it depends on the individual's differences. I didn't get better after about three years, but I'm still afraid of summer.
What is the purpose of what I say? I can especially understand Zhang Qi's mood as an urban girl who is unwilling to return to the countryside to live, because this is really not as simple as we imagined. Moreover, even if she doesn't mind, she still has to worry about her parents and children.
Of course, this is only one aspect. On the other hand, Zhang Qi and Fang Xinwei originally had a good life and career. If you asked her to give up these all at once, she would not be worried about it from scratch. What if her husband failed? Although she stayed to manage the company, she also left a guarantee for her family.
So the Zhang Qi I saw was not a selfish woman who could not endure hardship. On the contrary, she was a very generous and tolerant wife. She did not ask her husband to give up her ideals because she didn't like rural life. Even if she didn't understand her husband, she still supported him.
In contrast, I feel that Fang Xinwei has more shortcomings in marriage.
Fang Xinwei's shortcomings and luck in marriage.
We can see from the beginning that Zhang Qi does not like rural life and does not want Fang Xinwei to go back. But Fang Xinwei did not take into account his wife's ideas, but instead determined in his heart what he wanted to do and focused on doing it.
Of course, I am not saying that what he did was wrong. It is indeed a great thing with great positive significance to him when he returned to his hometown to start a business. This is something we must be clear and affirmed. What I want to say is that from the perspective of marriage and family, decisions such as husband and wife should be communicated in advance and reach a consensus, otherwise, it will easily hurt the relationship between husband and wife.
But it is obvious that when Fang Xinwei decided to do this, he made up his mind and would do it regardless of whether his wife supported her or not. This is his shortcomings as a husband.
And even so, his wife chose to support him. This is one of the reasons why I say he is lucky.
Secondly, we see that when Zhang Qi had the idea of divorce, she still felt very distressed and cared about her husband. While complaining that her husband missed his son's birthday, she also brought the food to him. She also expressed her understanding and distress for his busyness on weekdays.
This shows that she did not reduce her love for her husband because of her neglect of the family. She wanted to divorce because she was not sure whether such efforts were right or worth it. If you understand this, you will know how lucky Fang Xinwei is.
We always feel that Zhang Qi does not understand Fang Xinwei enough, but if you think about it carefully, how could Fang Xinwei be patient and express his thoughts to Zhang Qi? Even though he received Zhang Qi's divorce agreement , he just tried to call her a few times, and in the end, his elders explained to Zhang Qi for him.
This is also Fang Xinwei’s second shortcomings in marriage. But despite her husband being so bad at communicating and expressing, Zhang Qi chose to help him and support him in the end, and gave up the idea of divorce. Look, how lucky he was to meet a wife like Zhang Qi?
There is no doubt that Fang Xinwei is a good man, but a good man does not mean that he has no shortcomings. He still needs to work harder to be a good husband. And his luck is that he met a good wife. Even if she doesn't understand what he does, she will support him unconditionally. Even if she complains about him, she will give him more tolerance and understanding.
In fact, every couple’s encounter is a deep fate. In the process of getting along with each other, we will inevitably encounter differences, frictions, and encounters when we don’t understand each other. I really hope that at such a moment, we can see more of each other's goodness, less complaints, and more persistence.
You should know that in a marriage, luck is just the first step, and cherishing is the unchanging truth.
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