wrote two articles in a row to discuss that personality can be changed. The key to personality change is "who do you want to be in the future", that is, you must have your own life goals.
understands that personality can be changed and is a good start. Next, it depends on the action.
"Breakthrough Nature" tells us that next we need to develop our own personal plan . With planning and action, we are shaping our own character.
What kind of plan is suitable for you? The author gives three angles.
First: You must be the initiator of this plan.
You may think this angle is ridiculous. Didn’t the plan initiated by yourself?
is really not possible.
Since childhood, many young people have been accustomed to listening to their parents' arrangements, taking exams in famous schools, and working in famous enterprises... After entering society, they are often driven by the outside world to do things.
So, when you make a plan, you must ask yourself in your heart, why do you do this? Why is it so important to me?
If you don’t have a desire in your heart, if you don’t have a strong desire, you will not be able to last for a long time and you will not be able to achieve your own change.
Second: Your plan must be operational
Useful plan must definitely break through your personal comfort zone. Everyone understands this, but if you are not careful, you will set too high goals because people are eager for big changes.
It should be noted that goals must be operable and do not ideally determine unattainable goals. For example, when you think of reading, you think about reading one book a week, hoping to quickly form your own knowledge structure and transform yourself. This result is hasteness and failure, which will only cause you to be frustrated.
sets goals from the perspective of operability. I have shared many articles before, including microhabits, Foger's behavior model, etc. Actionable performance allows a plan to start more easily and allows the action to continue.
operability means splitting big goals and completing decomposition actions every day. Complete something will bring you a sense of accomplishment and will also receive positive feedback from the outside world. With these rewards, this plan can be persisted.
Third: Let your plan have the environment to support
The environment has an extremely important impact on individual behavior.
A good environment can provide the driving force to shape our behavior.
environment is divided into physical environment and human environment. In the so-called humanistic environment, we often say, "One person walks fast, one group of people walks far." If one can find a group of people to do one thing together, the possibility of realization is greater.
Take my personal exercise as an example. I have been following Liu Genghong for three consecutive months. The reason why I can persist is because I reminded each other and promoted each other.
In the physical environment, at the beginning, we followed the screen of the mobile phone and then projected the screen on the TV. So we felt better, so we were more motivated to persist. In other words, the blessing of the
environment is to borrow power. Try to discover the parts of the surrounding environment that are beneficial to your personal plans, and at the same time, try to create a suitable environment.
Personality can change this topic, telling us again: many things that were originally thought impossible have possibility, and this possibility becomes possible in the process of doing something.
Change personality is not a real problem. The real problem is what kind of person you want to be. When you know where you are going, take action, and reach your destination, you find that everything about yourself has changed.
