Before, Lan Fang saw this passage in the comment section of an article:
"Don't accept a man who is too good to you, put you first in everything,
but he is several years older than you, his home is from another place, and there is no money in local no house or car,
has no great ability and likes to talk big, buy famous brands in advance, even fake famous brands,
You think he is good to you, what he thinks is that you don’t think he has no money,
He is good to you, doesn’t necessarily love you much, that is, he doesn’t have the ability to find someone better than you,
One day he saves enough and experience from you, and finds a better than you, he can immediately abandon you and be kind to another woman immediately! "
This is a "experienced person" experience, which is also a very cruel reality.
In many extramarital affairs cases, cheating is all men who are very good to their original wife.
They are good husbands in the eyes of everyone. At the beginning of their marriage, they had no money to buy a car. They had to pick up their wives and take the bus to get off work after walking for half an hour.
has no money, and you can spend money in advance and buy gifts for your wife, which is more surprising and romantic. Men like
are very fatal to women because they are too good to be nice to a person.
So why do rich girls fall in love with poor boys? It is said that women have no love, and whoever treats her will love whoever they are good to her. The sentence
has some truth. Indeed, many women like to treat themselves well, especially those that are too good.
But these women often ignore one thing. Is it really out of love that he is so kind to you?
This year, the Blue Party handled an extramarital affair in a similar situation.
The original wife, Ms. Yi's husband is a typical Phoenix man. He dropped out of school to work before graduating from junior high school.
makes less money in his hometown, so he went to the medium-sized city where Ms. Yi is located to find a job.
Ms. Yi's house is in good condition. Her parents opened several auto repair shops.
Her husband happened to find her repair shop. She started as an apprentice and later became a formal repair chef.
She is three years older than her husband. At that time, she had graduated from college and checked in her own store.
The two met. Her husband was very kind to her and she gradually developed feelings for her husband.
Ms. Yi said that the thing she regretted the most was not listening to her parents' advice and insisting on marrying her husband.
She and her husband fell in love and her parents disagreed because they disliked her husband's family.
But she felt that her husband was not right and thought that her husband was with her because of her family’s conditions.
But she was already deeply trapped in the sweet trap of her husband at that time, and felt that her husband was really in love with her, otherwise why would he be so kind to her?
obviously can't make much money, so she buys her whatever she likes, although she buys more for her husband.
But she felt that she had money to buy it, and she was willing to buy it without much money from her husband, which was different.
Most parents can't resist their children. Although they disagree, she finally got married as she wished.
Because her husband suggested cooking rice with rice, she was pregnant before marriage and was 5 months pregnant. If the miscarriage was damaged,
told her parents that her parents had no choice but to start helping her with the wedding.
prepared a wedding house and a wedding car, but did not ask for a bride price, so the two got married like this.
Her husband is very good at coaxing her. After less than ten years of marriage, he coaxed her to add the house to her husband's name.
coaxed her and forced her parents to run a repair shop in her husband.
Her husband is also a man with a house, a car, a career, and a rich man.
Not long after, she discovered that something seemed wrong with her husband.
is still very good to her, but she always feels that her husband's goodness is very careless. Behind
, a relative told her parents that she saw her husband playing with a woman around the city.
She only realized that her husband had cheated on her. The mistress was young and beautiful. The man who cheated on her also promised her to divorce and marry her.
Ms. Yi said she didn't understand why the man who once loved her so much cheated on her.
Why do such men easily cheat?
Many women don’t understand that a man treats you well does not necessarily mean it is out of love.
His goodness may be to please, to get what you want from you, so to be nice to you. The reason why men like
are prone to cheating is because they have no bottom line and self-esteem.
For the sake of money, they can please women they don’t like, and it is natural for them to cheat on what they like when they have money.
And they can please a woman, get what they want, and prove that they have the ability to deceive women.
So few women can reject such men, and it is easier for them to cheat.
So how should Ms. Yi solve the problem?
Lan Fang’s advice to Ms. Yi, if you don’t want to divorce, you should seize the economy and never delegate power.
In fact, Ms. Yi's situation is relatively good, because most of the things in the hands of a cheating man are considered her pre-marital property, even if the house is transferred to her husband.
She has evidence that the house was bought for her by her parents before marriage, so it has nothing to do with cheating on the man.
For example, the repair shop that the cheating man now runs is also the property of Ms. Yi’s parents.
A cheating man looks like he has a car, a house, and has a wealthy career.
But in fact, a cheating man has nothing, and he has all given him the gifts given to him by Ms. Yi and Ms. Yi’s parents, and can be taken back.
The focus of this extramarital affair case is not on cheating on a man or a mistress.
is just Ms. Yi, can you see clearly whether the man cheated on him, and whether he will take back his property as suggested and hold it in his own hands.
Fortunately, although Ms. Yi was in love when she was young, she has grown a lot over the years.
Otherwise, I wouldn’t have noticed something wrong with a cheating man, nor would I regret not listening to my parents marrying a cheating man.
So Ms. Yi can choose to divorce, bring her property and children, and live her own life well.
can also choose to take back the property, seize the cheating man, and continue to live.
Finally, Lan Fang wanted to say that love is not long-lasting, and being too affection is not a good thing sometimes.
If you love someone too much, you will often automatically bring filters to this person.
You can't see this person's shortcomings, and you think he is good at whatever he does.
This also gives many men with ulterior motives, using sweet words and good ways to treat you.
makes you fall in love with him, and it is difficult for you to detect if you cheat when you love him deeply.
So compared to lovers, what you should do more is to love yourself and stay awake.
If you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
