Some people say that when people are old, they have someone to accompany you to dusk together. That is called life, and a lonely day can only be called living.
Indeed, the elderly have experienced the washing of time and are used to the joys and sorrows of life. They can have someone by their side, say a few intimate words, talk about family matters, and even a few words, it is better than being alone indifferent.
But nowadays, the remarriage of the elderly is often disturbed by many factors such as children, health, property, etc., so it is not as easy as imagined to enjoy the sunset together.
Although there are still old people who are together, their hearts are not together. They are all planning to do so. It’s okay to be peaceful. When there is any movement, they will reveal their true colors. Mr. Gao, 65, has trouble saying, "I have retired for 5 years, and my son has a monthly pension of 6,000 yuan. I can't even get it out. I find a partner to regret it."
self-reporter: Mr. Gao has retired for 5 years, and I have a deposit and a pension. My children have already started a family. I have not had any illness or disaster. I should have lived well, but my life is not satisfactory now. Although I am unwilling to admit it, most of the responsibilities lies with me.
I am an old man in the factory. I have worked diligently all my life. When I was young, I never fought or robbed. I never thought of making a name for myself. I just wanted to do my job well and be worthy of the wages I got. If I put it now, it should be considered "Buddhist". But after getting through, I got a job.
When I was about to retire, my unit talked to me, hoping that I could play in my position for a few more years. I refused politely without even thinking about it. It’s not that I think money is too hot, and there is nothing unspeakable. But I have been working for most of my life, tired and tired, and I want to take advantage of all aspects to go out for more and arrange my old age life.
The pension is over 6,000 yuan, which is enough for an elderly person like me who does not have too high material pursuits. With a deposit of more than 100,000 yuan, this makes me quite confident in my pension, at least not cause trouble for my children. When I really can't walk, I can't live in the nursing home, which is worry-free.
My wife and I have a son and a daughter. My daughter is far from getting married. Since my son got married, he has started to work and devote himself to the family. Only on weekends can I have time to bring my daughter-in-law and grandson back to have a meal with me.
I have mentioned it several times. If there are difficulties in car loans, mortgages, etc., I am willing to help them, and I don’t want them to work too hard. After all, there are children at home, and the expenses are not too high. But my son’s style of doing things is completely up to me. I never ask others for help if I can solve it myself. Later, I was too lazy to mention it again.
After talking about the two children, I have to say that my miserable wife, my daughter died of illness the second year after she got married. It’s shameful that she had never enjoyed happiness with me when she was young, but she took a step first. So for a long time, I was particularly afraid of sleeping because as long as I lay in bed, I would think of my wife and my mood became heavy. This situation did not improve until after retirement.
In the years after my wife left, I went from relatives and friends to colleagues in the unit, and even neighbors to neighbors to advise me to find another partner. But at that time, I was not in good condition and didn’t have the heart to consider finding a partner, so I missed many women with similar conditions.
But after I retire, the matter of finding a wife was mentioned by my friends around me. People of our age, whether at the dinner table or in entertainment, cannot avoid life, and I, the "old man" living alone, often become the object of their care.
In everyone's eyes, my conditions are quite acceptable. I have a healthy body and enough pension to spend, so I just have a companion by my side. At first I didn't take it seriously, but I couldn't resist the fact that there were always people who came to "maidize". After all, I started to think about it. After all, a person's life is always so meaningless. If you have a suitable wife, at least you can talk to someone, and your children will feel at ease.
Since I have made up my mind to take this step, I have to communicate with the children first. After I get support, I will accept the "blind date" without any worries.Xiao Sun is the one I have to meet with. She is six years younger than me and is very good at dressing up. She doesn’t look like a person who is almost 60 years old. She feels very comfortable with her and always has endless things to say.
Xiao Sun was widowed three years ago and is currently living with her daughter and son-in-law. Although her pension is less than half of mine, after contacting her, I can clearly feel that she is a simple and kind woman with no bad intentions, she can live and take care of others.
After I got churned, she would be squeezed out every time I asked her to go to a restaurant. She said that the food outside was expensive and it was not tasty, so it was better to buy vegetables and go home to cook. In this way, I began to enjoy her skills. After drinking and eating, the two of them went out for a walk. When they were separated, they were always unsatisfied. I have thought more than once whether to have a home with her?
After ending a short trip, she and I told me about my thoughts. Although I summed it up in one sentence, I was really nervous at the time. Unexpectedly, she agreed with a giggle while covering her mouth and laughing. I asked her what she had requested, and she shook her head and looked at me. I knew this was asking me to make an idea.
So I roughly planned my future life. She moved to my house and I was responsible for all the expenses in life. She just took care of the food and daily life of the two of them, did housework together, and discussed things when I had something to do. In order to show sincerity, I also withdraw 60,000 yuan as a bride price. One is to respect her, and the other is to reassure her family, and I will not treat her badly.
During the beginning of my new life, I was sincerely happy because everything was as I expected. After dinner, I took a walk in the garden and took care of me even more meticulously. I talked and laughed every day, so I felt so comfortable. But this state changed as she borrowed money from me.
It is said that I was mentally prepared for this, because when something happened, I thought about it when she asked me how I should deal with it once she asked me how to borrow money, but before I could think about it thoroughly, the problem was already in front of me.
Her daughter hit someone by driving, and the other party was seriously injured. Although she was out of danger of life, with the determination of the traffic accident, the subsequent compensation was not so easy to deal with. Hospitalization alone was a considerable expense.
During that time, she was in a bad state. She took out all her money and pieced it together, but it was still a big difference. She had no choice but to ask me for help, and she had 200,000 yuan at the beginning. She promised that when the child passed this hurdle, she would return the money to me as a cow and a horse.
: Speaking of this, it’s not that I don’t want to help, but that my account is only about 100,000 yuan, so I told the truth and explained the situation to her.
She seemed to have grabbed the life-saving straw and said to me excitedly, "One hundred thousand is also helpful, why don't you lend me first, and I'll go out to find a job when I go back. I heard that it's a lot to be a nanny now. Including my daughter and son-in-law, the three of us will pay back the money monthly. Don't worry, and I will pay it back as soon as possible."
Emotionally, I still agree with her character, but rationally told me that it's easy to lend it out, but it's difficult to take it back. After all, her family's conditions are there, so I hesitated, and I was embarrassed to refuse, nor did I agree readily.
That morning, she hurried out before she had time to cook and said she was going out to work. She didn't get home until after six o'clock in the evening. After asking, she found out that the housekeeping department assigned her a cleaning work, which was short-term, costing 120 yuan a day.
For the next two or three days, she still went out early and came back late. Seeing her anxious and tired look, it really made me feel unbearable. I felt that I was a little unkind. After several considerations, I lent her the money and told her that she was not young, so I would not exhaust myself without helping my children.
She was very moved after hearing this and wrote me an IOU with tears in her eyes. At that moment, she seemed to feel that she had done a good thing and was worthy of her conscience, but the rest of her life made me very upset, and even said that she regretted it.
Because she has changed, her focus will no longer be at home. She either takes care of her daughter or works outside. Anyway, she just doesn't have to stay at home. I didn't say anything on the surface, but I really feel uncomfortable.I borrowed the emergency money. I gave her 3,000 yuan a month since I lived together. I could understand her. Why didn’t she think about me? She clearly had a wife’s life, and she was like a lonely person.
A while ago, my son asked me to borrow 20,000 yuan for a turnover. I agreed on the spot, but when I looked back, I found that I couldn’t even take out 20,000 yuan. Half of my pension of more than 6,000 yuan was given to my wife, and the rest was spent on life, and there was basically no amount of money left. Now that my savings have been borrowed by my wife, it is equivalent to emptying my family’s assets. I really don’t have much money now.
Sometimes I feel really frustrated when I think about it carefully. I regretted my recklessness and chose to remarry, and I regretted my current recklessness. I shouldn’t lend the money easily, but regret is useless. It’s just that I really can’t respond to my son’s request for help, and I have no shame to tell my confusing debt.
Conclusion:
People are old and want to have a happy old age is nothing wrong. The problem is that you must be very cautious in the process of "selecting people" stage. It is not enough to be happy.
Because you don’t know whether the person in front of you is his true self. To put it bluntly, everyone has lived for most of their lives, not for a short time, nor can they tell whether the other person is sincere in just a few words.
Some people may ask, when people are old, they don’t have much time to understand. If this happens, wouldn’t they not be able to find someone to be with their company? In fact, Mr. Gao is too anxious and too emotional.
The money bag is the guarantee of the elderly’s life in their later years, and it is also the confidence to support themselves. To be realistic, they are still reserved for their children, let alone couples who have walked halfway.
Perhaps Aunt Sun had a last resort, or perhaps it was because Mr. Gao had a misunderstanding, but no matter what, everything related to interests should be treated calmly, and the consequences should be fully considered before the action, otherwise the sadness of losing both people and money would not be a joke.
Today’s topic: If you encounter such a situation, will you choose “righteous and wealthy”?
