unspoken rules are very precious to everyone. No one will teach them in a formal classroom. You may not be able to buy them even if you spend money, and others will not tell you. By mastering these unspoken rules, you can suffer less and benefit more in society. Today, I will share five most practical unspoken rules here:
01 human nature cannot stand the test
I have a best friend who has been dating a boyfriend and they have been together for 1 year. She wanted to test whether her boyfriend was loyal. So she found a beautiful girl to chat with her boyfriend. Unexpectedly, her boyfriend did not refuse at all, and immediately agreed to the girl's request, and also offered to have sex with the girl. This scumbag made my best friend very sad.
In society, there are many similar life experiments, just like best friends, and the results all end in failure. This tells us the most basic truth:
When the benefits are large enough, human nature often cannot withstand the test. In order to pursue greater interests, people will not hesitate to give up what is next to them. The unspoken rule of
tells us: When you come into contact with a person, what you need and first understand most is not the person’s background, education, background, etc., but first of all, you must understand the interests that he cares about most. This is the basis of all his thoughts and behaviors in the future. Once you master this, you will have the initiative in interpersonal communication.
02 In reality, there is actually no distinction between good people and bad people
TV series and film and television dramas often interpret the struggle between good people and bad people. We enjoy it and bring this preference to real life. We often divide the people around us into good people and bad people.
We always believe in good people, treat them sincerely without reservation.
We stay away from bad people, even expose them.
But in fact, sometimes, the good people we think often hurt us the most, and choose to betray us when we need them the most. Sometimes, we are confused: Why do such a good person do such a bad thing?
is actually our own fault. We should not simply divide people into good people and bad people. Most people are in a gray area. It’s just because of temporary interests and positions that you will choose to be close to you or alienate you.
Therefore, when dating people, we must grasp two principles:
- No matter how good your friends are, you must be reserved and not be heartless.
- No matter how bad a person is, he is not useless. As long as factors such as timing and interests are suitable, he can often turn enemies into friends.
03 When you are down and out, don’t care about other people’s opinions. No one will care about your existence.
We will all have this feeling:
When you are down and out, you will care about other people’s opinions very much, and are afraid that others will tell you the shortcomings.
Based on this understanding, some people will choose to escape and will block themselves. Even with such resentment, I went to work and live, which made me feel overwhelmed and depressed. In fact, it is completely unnecessary to do so. When you are down and out, no one will care about your good or bad, and no one will care about your existence.
Because, the most basic principle of interaction between people is: you must have exchange value. In other words, when you are valuable, you don’t have to deliberately interact with each other. Everyone is willing to take the initiative to approach you. On the contrary, when you are down, your exchange value will be very small, and everyone will naturally alienate you and keep a certain distance from you.
As for what you are worried about, what others are saying is even more false. At this time, it is the most important thing to do your own thing silently.
04 The more others show what they show in front of you, the more they lack
In interpersonal communication, we often see people like this:
In front of others, some people are very willing to show themselves, some are showing their wealth, and some are showing how brave they are. But in the end, through long-term contact or experiencing some things, the performance of these people is often shocking. They are either poor or are completely cowards.
You have to believe in an unspoken rule: in life, the more a person wants to show, the more he lacks. They just want to satisfy their inner imbalance through external display. If you can understand this principle, when you meet someone who is very willing to show yourself, you will be vigilant. Because his deliberate performance shows that he is weak and empty in one aspect, and you will not be deceived by the appearance he interprets.
05 Don’t neglect your parents, they are your nobles
In society, a noble person can determine the direction of your life for the rest of your life.
Who is our noble person? In fact, we don’t have to find it hard, our parents are our nobles. Because, no matter whether you succeed or fail, they will support you unconditionally and unreservedly, and it is also to tell you the truth and do practical things for you when you are in the most dangerous time.
However, we tend to ignore our parents or neglect our parents for two reasons:
- After entering society, we often feel good about ourselves, and do not take our parents' opinions, suggestions or advice to us, and even have a resistant mentality.
- Before entering society, we had too many contacts with our parents and were too poor, and we were prone to get bored with our parents' education.
Working in society, you must contact your parents more, tell your difficulties and unhappiness more, let your parents enter your life and inner world more, and let them give you more valuable suggestions. If you can take their ideas seriously, your life may not be successful, but it will definitely be stable and smooth. Please do not neglect your parents, they are your most important nobles.
