Working in society, everyone will encounter setbacks and difficulties. At this time, we will express our feelings:
Why are others always better luck than me, and I always have bad luck?
It is undeniable that a person's luck is related to external factors. But the real reason is yourself, because you don’t live in the “four devils” in your heart:
01 devilish self-discipline
Irish famous playwright Bernard Shaw once said this:
Self-control is the instinct of the strongest.
In fact, this "self-control" refers to "self-discipline". When we see those lucky and successful people, they are actually very self-disciplined behind the scenes. Self-disciplined people can clearly know their vision and goals, and persist in putting time and effort into it. Even if they are temporarily frustrated, they will not give up self-management and control. Therefore, when opportunities come, they will be easy to succeed and have good luck.
If you want to be more lucky, you should strengthen self-discipline in three aspects:
- Self-discipline in daily life. Only by having a good work and rest time can you have a good health condition, which is also the capital and foundation for your struggle. Especially for young people, irregular work and rest, late going to bed and get up late, and not eating on time, although there is no major problem at the moment, it is often painful when the body cannot withstand it.
- Learning self-discipline. The current society is getting too fast. As soon as you leave school, the knowledge you learn is outdated. After entering society, the most important thing is to maintain a "beginner" mentality, maintain a curiosity about new things and new trends, and continue to learn and improve, so that you can make progress.
- self-discipline in sports. People who succeed and those who are lucky are often sports experts. Regular physical exercise can be good for health and also pleasant to the body and mind.
02 Devilish calculations
The education we have received since childhood is like this:
In the face of conflicts of interest, we must be humble and not calculate. I don’t know how many times the story of Kong Rong and Leap has been told by parents.
But in reality, facing this highly competitive society, if you don’t calculate, you won’t get what you want. Why are palace dramas, home dramas and workplace dramas so popular now? In fact, it is also a true demand in people's hearts, which shows that "if you don't use scheming routines, good luck will not come to you automatically."
However, calculations may not be about fighting for everything, there are two situations:
- Small things must be tolerated. If you are too petty on small matters, you won’t have a good reputation. If your network resources are not strong and solid, and if no one helps you, your luck will be very bad and you will encounter walls wherever you go.
- The major things must be ruthless. Major events are key events and opportunities that involve the direction of life. If you give these opportunities to others, then you will miss it not just an opportunity, but perhaps a lifelong destiny. In major matters, you must plan well and fight for it, but you must use legitimate means and speak with strength.
03 devilish patience
We often say:
I'm anxious and can't eat hot tofu.
There is an important concept in psychology: delayed gratification. What it means is that if a person can withstand a moment of impulse and delay satisfying his desires, the probability of success in the future will be very high. The more patient a person is, the more lucky he can get, the easier it is to get what he wants.
Patient people are not entirely due to their personality. Compared with others, people who are patient have two things:
- beliefs and goals. This is the foundation of patience. People who have no goals of faith cannot learn to endure.
- ability to eliminate interference. can be clear about what things and information around you have nothing to do with your goals, and can concentrate on doing what you should do without being disturbed or obstructed by other external objects.
04 Devilish ruthless
Some people are very lucky, not because of their abilities and qualities, but because they are always hesitant and look back and forth when facing some things. These entanglements often make themselves lose great opportunities and miss good luck.
Therefore, people with good luck often have very strong decisiveness, and sometimes they even sacrifice the interests and feelings of the people around them, just like a devil. This may seem a bit cold-blooded, but in fact, if he doesn't do this, he will be the one who will be hurt.
Therefore, when we make the correct judgment and decision, we first understand two things:
- does not have a perfect decision, and all decisions have pros and cons. It is impossible to find a perfect decision, and no one owe it or offend anyone.
- Whether your decision is correct depends on what kind of person you want to be. Only by positioning yourself clearly can you make your decision clear. Otherwise, you will be a mess and at a loss.
