As a woman, you must understand that marriage is different from love. Although feelings are the foundation, the influence of the in-laws’ family cannot be ignored. If you want the quality of your marriage to be relatively higher, don’t marry into a family with a double-standard mother-in-law. Li Wei is a woman who loves first. She firmly believes that love is greater than the sky, and other issues will make way for love. "If you don't give up until , you won't give up and don't hit the wall, you won't look back." This is to describe a woman like her .
It was not until she got married that she realized that having a mother-in-law with two standards really affected her quality of life. Many parents are unwilling to marry a family with many children because they are worried that they will love their growing up daughter. If you marry a son who is not favored by your parents, you will be wronged in the future. However, after all, parents could not resist their children, so Li Wei couldn't listen to her parents' dissuasion and wanted to marry Wang Kun.
Li Wei believes that her choice meets the requirements of her parents, because Wang Kun only has one sister and is already married. So she thinks there is no difference between herself and marrying an only child. After all, local parents’ pension issues are basically followed by their sons. So she couldn't listen to the news her parents asked about, thinking that it was all added fuel to the fire. But in fact, Wang Kun's mother thought that her daughter was caring and preferred her daughter. She was a double-standard mother-in-law.
After marriage, Li Wei lived under the same roof as her mother-in-law. Everyone understands the principle of "far, fragrant, smelly, smelly" in . Moreover, this principle is particularly applicable to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are not related by blood. The friction between Li Wei and her mother-in-law gradually increased with time. First of all, after getting married, the mother-in-law took on the airs of an elder, saying that she had been a wife for ten years and now she wanted to enjoy a happy life. Therefore, the housework at home became Li Wei's duty.
Fortunately, as a husband, Wang Kun is quite clear. No matter what his mother says, he still helped Li Wei take a lot of responsibility. At this time, the knots between Li Wei and her mother-in-law began to form. Later, she learned that her mother-in-law gave almost all of her savings in her sister-in-law before she married Wang Kun, and she couldn't accept it. After all, my mother-in-law never said that she would rely on her daughter to support her in the future. So what is going on with her mother-in-law’s operations now?
But given that Wang Kun's son got married, his mother-in-law also paid for the money. Although not much, it was paid for the money after all. Add the savings of the elders, give them to whoever they want. What can you say as a junior? So although Li Wei felt uncomfortable, she still didn't say much. The real reason why she and her mother-in-law started to quarrel was because of her double standards, which became more and more outrageous. When my sister-in-law got married, she gave me a lot of dowry.
When my son got married, he didn't know what he had done, so he gave most of his savings to his married daughter. As a result, I still feel that my daughter's life is not very comfortable, and I still want to help. When faced with the life of her son and daughter-in-law, she never considered whether she could live. When Li Wei was pregnant and in confinement, her mother-in-law said she was in poor health and had the heart but not enough strength. But he turned around and went to help his sister-in-law take the child.
Li Wei cannot let her parents help her take care of her children. After all, this in-laws' family was determined to marry. Even if her parents didn't mind, she felt embarrassed, and Wang Kun felt it was inappropriate. So in the end, Li Wei can only resign and become a full-time mother. In this way, all the financial pressures will be on Wang Kun alone. Even so, the mother-in-law didn't feel sorry for her son and daughter-in-law, and she still thought about her daughter.
So my mother-in-law asked for living expenses, and the amount was not small, and she had to pay 2,000 yuan per month. Li Wei naturally understood that if her mother-in-law wanted the money, she would definitely give it to her sister-in-law if she changed her hand. She really laughed angry. The conditions of her sister-in-law's in-laws' family were pretty good, and she couldn't understand why her mother-in-law was still so worried. Besides, how did my mother-in-law have the nerve to ask for living expenses? Because my mother-in-law was both food and accommodation at home, Li Wei and Wang Kun were borne by her. She was sick and other expenses, so she never asked her mother-in-law to pay for it.
So if my mother-in-law wants a few hundred pocket money, Li Wei may be acceptable, but what does it mean to have a living expense of 2,000 yuan? I understood and told my son and daughter-in-law that the money was indirectly the sister-in-law's money. Li Wei naturally refused. Because of her husband's support, her mother-in-law made a fuss for a long time, but Li Wei still didn't let go. Later, after a quarrel, the matter was left unresolved . But the mother-in-law will definitely not give up and fail to ask for living expenses from her daughter-in-law.
means that I have less help to my daughter. Since my daughter-in-law is unwilling to let my daughter live a comfortable life, I can't make her so comfortable. When my mother-in-law thought about this, she made it even more difficult for Li Wei in her daily life. Generally speaking, if families with average financial conditions have children, they will definitely put children first in everything. Li Wei also thinks so, no matter how hard it is, she cannot make the child suffer. So although the financial pressure is relatively high, she is still very attentive to the child’s food.
This way, the adults' food is much worse. But because Wang Kun worked hard outside and his mother-in-law was an old man again, Li Wei was not too harsh. , she did it again and again in the only food expenses, trying to make everyone feel a little nutritious when they are full. Originally, Li Wei and Wang Kun also had this standard meal, so they were not targeted at their mother-in-law. However, after Wang Kun's mother had a meal of fish for several days, it broke out.
She ignored Li Wei's various explanations and said that she had tried her best. She pointed at Li Wei's nose and cursed, saying that Li Wei was deliberately making bad. She said, "I asked you to manage this family, but you didn't have any meat dishes every meal. Why do you have the nerve to say that you worked hard? Are you planning to make me malnutrition?" Her mother-in-law's question finally made Li Wei burst out. All the grievances that were accumulated in her heart were expressed and she said it happily. Finally, Li Wei said: "It's very simple to eat fish every meal. Just use your pension in this family instead of giving it to your sister-in-law. "
. There are actually many mother-in-laws around us, and the quality of life in our later years is not very good. In fact, the reason is very simple. Such mother-in-law has double standards for treating their daughter-in-law and daughter. Simply put, it means being biased and considering your daughter everywhere, thinking that it is not easy for her daughter. But when dealing with his daughter-in-law, he was unwilling to help him when the other party was in the most difficult time, and instead dragged him back. Over time, my daughter often gets used to being natural and forgets to be grateful to .
And the daughter-in-law was so heartbroken that she didn't have any "love" to treat her mother-in-law. In this way, how good can this type of mother-in-law's life be in her later years? I hope that all parents in the world will not have double standards for their children and their partners. Only by treating them equally or relatively fairly can we finally get relatively fair rewards from the children and their partners. Are you talking about Li Wei’s mother-in-law too double-standard?
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