When I was young, I wanted to go outside to see the world. Even if I endure hardships or suffer setbacks, I had a heart to rush to prosperity.
There is a saying that goes: Don’t choose comfort at the age of struggle.
There are many opportunities and choices in big cities, but the competition is great and the pressure is high; the pace of small counties is slow and the pressure is low, but the room for upward is also small, and it is very likely that they will live a life that can be seen at a glance.
Is it going to a big city or adding it to a small county town? Everyone has their own choices, and their own advantages and disadvantages. As long as they are willing, there is nothing right or wrong.
However, if parents interfere with their children, it is indeed troublesome.
Liu Qing is facing such troubles now.
Liu Qing graduated from university and majored in market management. When she graduated, she had contacted the employment unit. She was a listed company in Wuhan. She had been internship there for two months. The company had a good impression of her and threw an olive branch to her, waiting to sign the contract.
But her parents strongly opposed this and insisted that she return to the small county town to take the exam and return to her parents.
Liu Qing was very dissatisfied with this, and she argued that she would not want to go back to her hometown.
Liu Qing also has a twin brother, but her grades are worse than hers. She did not get into college and went to Guangzhou with her classmates after graduation. Not only did her parents have no objection, but she was also worried that he would suffer. She gave him 20,000 yuan to start-up funds and asked him to rent a better house and never lose money to yourself.
But it was different when it came to Liu Qing. Her parents called her to go home every few days, but her mother kept crying on the phone. Finally, she called her home on the grounds that her grandmother was sick, and then she disagreed with her going to Wuhan.
Liu Qing was so angry that she jumped up. Taking her brother as an example, she said that she also wanted to develop in a big city. As a result, her parents said: her son can go out to work hard, and her daughter must stay by her side.
Their reasons are roughly:
The pressure in big cities is too great, and girls don’t need to suffer that hardship;
The most important thing for girls’ marriage is that they are by their parents, and parents can check it well;
When they get married after that, they have parents to support them so that they will not be bullied by their in-laws. Liu Qing simply disagrees with these reasons.
She said, don’t endure hardship when you are young, are you still waiting to endure hardship when you are old? Although working hard outside, you will have happiness. If you don’t have a chance to make a living, you will be unwilling to give up. Besides, if a marriage depends on fate, whether you will be bullied by your in-laws depends on whether you are weak or not.
So, she didn't listen to her parents' tricks at all.
Facing this "disobedient" daughter, her parents used both soft and hard work, kidnapped her in the name of "filial piety", scolding her for being disobedient and unfilial to her parents.
The two elders played the card of bitterness. The father sighed every day and said that he had a heart disease. The mother cried and tried hard to persuade her that the two elders could only feel at ease if they stayed by their parents.
After several times, Liu Qing finally lost and prepared for the exam. A year later, she entered the exam. Her parents smiled and began to drag people around to find a partner for her. Everyone around her congratulated: You are old.
She could only sigh long. She might have to live under the control of her parents. She might live a stable and comfortable life, but she always feels that her life lacks some motivation and less color.
There are many girls like Liu Qing who have encountered it. A popular saying in small counties is that the son works hard outside and the daughter stays at home to support her old age.
Speaking of which, it is for the good of their daughters, so that they can suffer less and feel wronged. But on the other hand, they also consider their own pension issues and want to have a daughter by their side to take on the responsibility of pension for them.
Why don’t they think about their son providing retirement?
If the son is successful, from the perspective of the older generation, it is a happy event to shine on the family, and they have a bright face. No matter how promising a daughter is, she will be inferior to her son.
Secondly, my son is careless, how can he feel more considerate than his daughter? The little cotton jacket stayed by my side, and it was more realistic than my son in terms of emotions and materiality.
Of course, parents are not completely selfish to keep their daughters by their side, and they also have their own cognitive limitations.Because they have never experienced the wonderfulness of the outside world, in their perception, the small county town is the most livable and comfortable.
They think it is also good to let their daughter live a comfortable life.
Some parents even prefer their daughter to blame themselves now, thinking that after decades, their daughter will naturally understand their painstaking efforts.
But no matter how hard your parents work, I think your daughter cannot be deprived of her right to choose. If you lose the right to choose your life, then what is the meaning of living this life?
Is it just to live the way your parents want?
