Introduction:
In the eyes of some elderly women, remarriage is full of beauty. Remarriage can make up for the regret of the first marriage, because they also yearn for a marriage that grows old together, and hope that they can have a partner who will never leave and care for themselves in their later years. Perhaps in the first marriage, they met bad people or had a hasty marriage but did not meet the right person, so they hoped for the second marriage.
It is undeniable that remarriage has good things, but how many couples can remarried couples be happy? Remarried couples are just living together. It is a very lucky thing that everyone can be less realistic and can work together and live a good life. If you look at remarriage rationally, then remarriage is to be busy and rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. It means that everyone contributes money and efforts to live a good life together. It cannot be romantic.
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62-year-old Aunt Song is full of expectations for remarriage because she feels that she chose the wrong person in her first marriage, because she was young when she got married and the marriage time was relatively hasty. She did not take careful consideration and did not know what kind of person she was looking for was suitable for her. So the first marriage was a complete mistake. The first marriage was full of regrets. Aunt Song believed that based on her external conditions, she could find a remarried husband who understood her, cared for her, and understood romance. She was full of confidence in remarriage and wanted to find a soul mate.
Aunt Song felt that her first marriage buried her. In that marriage, she felt that she had never really lived. She had endless housework every day and was busy serving her wife and children every day. If she could not see the light in such a life, it was not the ideal marriage. The ideal marriage should be to talk with her lover, talk about her dreams, and talk about her favorite things.
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Aunt Song is a woman with romantic feelings. She likes to wear beautiful clothes, dance, elegant things, and elegant life. She feels that her first marriage is not elegant at all. So she hopes that her remarriage is full of elegance, and that she can meet a man who truly knows how to appreciate her. The two of them work together to make the marriage poetic and picturesque. Aunt Song believes that at this age, everyone is fine and doesn’t have to be busy with work anymore, and their children are raised, so they have time to live a poetic and picturesque marriage life.
Aunt Song believes that marriages when he was young are all for the purpose of having children. Marriage when he was young is inseparable from food, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, but marriage should not be so boring. Aunt Song’s remarriage is Mr. Qin, 68 years old. Mr. Qin used to be a music teacher in college. He likes singing and dances very much. He has a monthly retirement salary of 6,000 yuan. Aunt Song originally thought that he remarried Mr. Qin. Mr. Qin himself is a music teacher and has many common languages with her. Their remarriage should be full of poetry and picturesqueness.
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After remarrying, Aunt Song discovered that she was not married to a music teacher with artistic accomplishments, and she could live a poetic life after marriage. After remarrying, she realized that the second marriage was not more ideal than the first marriage, and remarrying was not as good as imagined. Although the second marriage husband is a music teacher, he can sing and dance, he actually had no surprises except for the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.
Although the children of the remarried wife have grown up, it does not mean that their family does not need anyone to be responsible for washing and cooking. In fact, the second-married husband is looking for a wife just to have someone to cook for the whole family. He hopes that someone can clean up and take care of his grandchildren. It is undoubtedly unfortunate to marry such a second-married wife, because he will always say a lot of great truths and ask you to be a woman who sacrifices for their big family. Such a person can always say a lot of remarks, with the purpose of making you obey them, listen to them, and do things according to their instructions.
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When Mr. Qin and Aunt Song were not married, of course he knew how to be romantic, was more good at talking, and was not that boring, but after remarrying, he became a different person anyway.If you keep talking, you are getting married. You should put your family first and do more things for your family. Anyway, you will never care about what Aunt Song is thinking. You will only tell Aunt Song what he needs Aunt Song to do.
In this kind of marriage, Aunt Song is like a puppet. The two of them will not communicate spiritually at all, and Mr. Qin will not take the initiative to communicate with Aunt Song at all. Uncle Qin has a very irritable temper. After remarrying, he has the share of what he says, but not what Aunt Song has said. Aunt Song was originally quite frustrated in such a marriage, which was completely different from the marriage she had originally expected. Aunt Song usually endured her life and did not reveal her temper. As a result, the more patient she was, the more she became, and she had more and more requirements for Aunt Song.
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Originally, Aunt Song had to take care of the life of a whole family after remarriage, so she was very tired and annoyed. Living together with her whole family, there were inevitably bumps and bumps. Aunt Song would also behave so that her children were dissatisfied. As a result, Mr. Qin didn’t care about Aunt Song’s efforts at all.
Aunt Song did something wrong. Uncle Qin has a very bad temper and always says something particularly ugly. Originally, everyone was just remarried and had little feelings. Life after remarriage was not what Aunt Song wanted. Aunt Song was also patiently living. As a result, Aunt Song did something a little bit that made his children dissatisfied, so Mr. Qin immediately stood on his side to criticize Aunt Song. If Aunt Song, a remarried wife, said that it was worthless to Mr. Qin, then what is the point of such a marriage? He might as well live with his children, why should he remarry?
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If I hadn't remarried, Aunt Song would have any obligation to take care of Mr. Qin's family. After remarrying, Mr. Qin would have regretted it because the life she lived after remarrying was a thousand miles away from her ideal life. Aunt Song didn't want to divorce immediately after remarrying, so she kept enduring. She wanted to make do with her life, but she had to endure the bad temper of Mr. Qin because of some bumpy and bumpy things every day. Who can endure such a life?
Most remarried men are like Mr. Qin. In fact, in their hearts, children are definitely more important than remarrying their spouses. When they remarry, they just find a nanny who can take care of the whole family. Although some women feel very disappointed after remarrying, they can live a life well and endure it. But sometimes they can’t live it by enduring, because unstoppable endurance will only encourage the other party to become more and more eager.
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Aunt Song originally wanted to endure it casually and live the life was just fine, but Aunt Song was silent, and Mr. Qin became more and more angry and had to do more and more things every day. Aunt Song finally couldn't bear it anymore, and one night he packed up his things and left Mr. Qin's house. Many women will not have hope for marriage after remarrying, because men are more realistic than women. Most men remarrying like the other party’s value. How can they have so many feelings?
Many women will only understand after remarrying in their later years that it is wrong to remarry themselves. In remarrying, the man is often the man, not the woman. Many women have experienced two marriages and will not divorce so easily. They often choose to be patient, but when they can't bear it, there will always be a day to escape. This is how Aunt Song is. Although she was disappointed after remarrying, she didn't think about getting a divorce immediately at the beginning. It was Mr. Qin who repeatedly became more and more arrogant, which made Aunt Song finally couldn't bear it anymore, so she packed up her things late at night and fled from Mr. Qin's house completely to draw a clear line with Mr. Qin.
Conclusion:
There is no need for women to remarry in their later years. Nine out of ten women will regret remarrying. Most women feel that marriage is not as reliable as themselves when they remarry, because after remarrying, they will find that they are just tools used by men. After remarrying in their later years, there are many women who live a very sad life, such as Aunt Song is one of them. Fortunately, Aunt Song finally escaped successfully, which can be regarded as a timely stop loss.
