In the relationship, the most heart-wrenching thing is probably that you will do whatever hurt the other person because they like you.
Tests are repeated, and in the temptations, slandering the other person in the name of love, in order to confirm that you are loved.
The other party is slightly unsatisfied, making you feel insecure, so you start breaking up, turning over old accounts, and getting in advance. You must let the other party make a choice of choice. If this goes on for a long time, no matter how good the relationship is, it will not be able to withstand the toss and it will be over sooner or later.
If a relationship wants to go long, it is not maintained by one party's oppression and bondage, and the other party's blind acceptance and sacrifice, but by mutual recognition, appreciation and respect.
So, in a relationship, no matter how much the other person loves you, do not do these three things.
1. Talking about breakup
I know that people who are deeply involved in love are prone to gains and losses and suspicion. In order to prove that the other party likes themselves and to force the other party to compromise, we always like to take out the "breakup" killer weapon and challenge the other party's psychological defense with the "breakup" drama.
often makes a big deal out of some small conflicts, making him unhappy and block and delete it until he gets coaxed.
Every time you quarrel, you will break up when you quarrel. You clearly like it, but you are so quick to speak. Regardless of other people's feelings, you can easily say something that you have to break up.
No matter how patient and tolerant people are, they cannot withstand such troubles several times.
For him, because he likes you, he lets you make a fuss, but you always say "break up", which makes him have to wonder whether his efforts are worth it and whether his passion can win your liking.
Although you have been able to maintain your relationship after multiple tests, you can easily say a part. When you trample on your sincerity, you will be physically and mentally exhausted and injured, and you will leave completely.
If you want a long relationship, don’t say breaking up frequently. Breakup is not a bargaining chip to maintain relationships. Communication and solving problems is the fundamental solution to everything that makes the other party uncomfortable.
2. Total old accounts
The most taboo thing in love is to make old accounts when you quarrel, and you have to take them out and quarrel every time you quarrel.
What I had explained clearly at the beginning, but in his heart he couldn't get over it. He grabbed the past and sarcastically, and kept holding on to the past and not letting go.
All the unhappiness and grievances in the past are staged and experienced again and again, uncovering the scars of the past, sprinkling handfuls of salt and salt, hurting myself and the one I love deeply.
Perhaps the other party will also argue at the beginning, but then it evolves to be silent, making you think whatever you like, and you will be even more angry.
People's hearts are the most inseparable. Life is already tiring enough. Always keeping the other person's mistakes, which will only make the two hearts that can get closer slowly go further and further.
For those little things that are irrelevant, we should tolerate each other; forgiving details that are not serious. After all, the strong winds and waves in life are the few, and the warmth that is melted into the firewood, rice, oil and salt is the most touching.
Learn to turn things around and learn to bow your head, and your life will get better and better.
3. Frequent comparison of ex-boyfriend
"Ex-boyfriend" is a taboo in a romantic relationship at all times.
No matter how good your ex is, no matter whether you want to make the current person better by stating that your ex is good, or to stimulate your current person, you will not make this relationship better because of comparison, which will only create a gap between the two.
If the ex is really that good, how could he break up? The person who can accompany you for a long time is not your righteous fate. What you should cherish is the person who is with you now.
Frequently getting ahead will only make the current employee feel that your past has not passed yet, and what you are thinking about is your past.
For many people, they don’t mind your past, they mind that your past has not yet passed. Because no one likes to live in the shadow of others, and can't tell whether he likes him or is with him, and wait for his ex to look back.
Whether it is a couple or a couple, the basis of all feelings is trust.
If there is no trust, only defense, suspicion, control and repeated tests, this relationship will be reduced again and again, and if the reduction is negative, it will turn around and leave.
You think he is free and neat and cruel. If he says he doesn't love him, he won't love him, but he doesn't know that after he accumulates so much grievances and disappointments, he no longer holds any expectations. When his heart dies, he leaves silently.
So, if you want to have a beautiful partner, please be more tolerant, considerate and trust each other, instead of waiting until you lose it before regretting it.
