Are you tired of being disrespected by men?
Does the guy you are dating always don’t see your worth? Or does the male colleague you work with refuse to acknowledge your efforts and commitment?
I have had this experience before. When I was almost 30, I had enough of pleasing to men and looking for recognition in all the wrong places.
Yes, we live in a world that favors boys over girls, but the times are changing. If we women want to be respected, we must go out and fight for it!
The method is as follows:
1) First of all, respect yourself
When you finish reading this article, you will realize one thing, that is, to win the respect of men, you must first start with yourself.
You can't force men to respect you, but if they see you have self-esteem, they will be more likely to respect you.
So, what does self-esteem look like?
- Take good care of yourself and your health (emotional, mental and physical).
- Make yourself the most important thing in your life
- stick to your values and live truly.
- Refused to accept treatment that belittles you
- cultivate your desires and dreams
Why is self-esteem so important?
If you don’t respect yourself, you can’t expect others to respect you!
You need to set the standard higher. Let men know how much you value yourself, and you won’t accept anything that doesn’t value yourself!
Disrespect yourself gives men the opportunity to use and treat you unfairly - don't become a condonor who disrespects you.
But respecting yourself is not the only thing you should do, which leads to Fei'er's next point of view...
2) Respect others
Respect yourself is the key, but you also need to respect others. You can't be rude to the men in your life and also expect them to be kind and honest with you.
But this is an established fact, so let's look at this question from another perspective...
You can respect yourself. You may respect the men in your life. But what if you're a jerk to everyone else?
Let me say this:
One day you went out for lunch with a male colleague you respect very much, and the waiter came over and you were not very polite or respectful to him or her. Your colleagues, even if you treat him well, will notice this behavior.
In his eyes, you will definitely lose credibility.
So what is the meaning of this story?
To be respected, you must respect others.
If a man sees that it is a rule for you and another rule for others, he will not have a high respect for you, he will only think that you are a hypocrite (and right!).
3) Don't hide your wisdom
OK, ladies, we have all had this experience: laughing at jokes we think are not funny, agreeing with a man's opinion just to make yourself more likable. Even pretending not to know how to add oil to the car engine so that he can play the hero (yes, a female friend of mine used to do it but did not give her any benefit!).
I want to tell you a cruel fact-this will not win respect for us. .
How many times have you made yourself stupid to make a man feel stronger?
I know I have done it many times, but the results are not good.
In fact, when I no longer cater to men's self-esteem, their respect level surged. In work, in feelings, and even in my family, my men are.
so, if you have talent, then show it!!
If you are very knowledgeable about something, please share your wisdom.
If something is not funny, don’t laugh!
Never hide your wisdom to make men feel more secure by your side.They may like you for this, or may appease their self-esteem, but they will never respect you for this.
On the contrary, when men see a woman who knows them, even if it makes them uncomfortable, they will involuntarily admire you and appreciate you.
4) Always be honest
Honesty is the basis of respect. Without honesty, there is nothing left.
so why is honesty so important?
OK, if you stick to the truth and avoid lying, gossiping or extreme exaggeration, it shows your integrity, it shows you have values and you are trying to do the right thing.
And men like this.
When they meet an honest woman, without disrupting the situation or playing the game, they know they can trust her. This will naturally increase their respect for you!
When you respect their right to know the truth, they will also respect you in return.
5) Challenge them and keep them awake
This is consistent with Fei'er's previous point of not hiding your wisdom.
Men like to challenge, so don't be afraid to challenge him. Stand your stand in a calm and serious way and be your true self. If you try to convince him or argue with him about your "correctness", you will lose. Be loyal to what you believe, and he will respect and admire you for this. This made him excited and turned around.
Listen, we are no longer in the old days, women cannot just be seen without being heard.
Our opinions are important, believe it or not, most men actually like to have friendly debates with women.
We usually make more compassionate arguments, and we look at the problem from a different perspective. This is a challenge for men and makes them think like never before.
Not only will they respect you more, but it is also an attractive trait.
But there is a problem:
If you want to challenge a man, you should still do it in a respectful way. Passionately trying to tear his self-esteem to pieces may not win you any favors.
argue your point of view calmly, smartly and dignifiedly, believe me, even if he disagrees with your point of view, he will be forced to respect you.
6) Keep your promise
"What I have in this world is my courage and my promise, I will not break them for anyone." ——Tony Montana.
If you have never heard of this sentence before, then you can be familiar with this sentence because this is the principle of life in many men:
Keep your promises.
Without this, they are not worthy of respect.
The sentence also applies to you! If men see that your promise cannot be fulfilled, they will naturally classify you as an "unreliable" category.
Keep your promises more than just doing what you say. It's about showing that you have someone's support. Whether the task is trivial or not does not matter; if you say you will complete it, do it because it builds trust, trust and self-responsibility.
When you show men that you are responsible for yourself, it shows that you have self-esteem. How do I say self-esteem?
It is the key to being respected by others.
7) Don’t always take a back seat
Have you ever actively contacted the men in your life?
If you don't have one, I totally understand. Many women are placed in a secondary position when they grow up, "let men do it."
But this does not win you respect. Men like women who are independent and able to do things well.
Take my partner as an example - one day he came home and saw me assembling a lot of furniture, moving the (very heavy) refrigerator and freezer, and setting up an office in our new home, which he couldn't believe.
I could have let him do it, but I want to finish it.After he saw that I was not dependent on men, he had a new respect for me! The same goes for the workplace – if you want to see a change or take on a project, you need to go out and let it happen.
I don't want to lie to you, some men still think that controlling women are "fair" but those who feel safe with themselves will find this kind of self-empowerment very admirable and respectful!
8) There is a clear boundary
set limits you are saying:
This is something I think is acceptable, this is something I will not tolerate. The healthy boundaries in
relationships create mutual respect among individuals. Setting boundaries helps us know what we expect in this relationship. Furthermore, boundaries show us how we respect each other’s personal space, comfort level, and limitations.
So, why are boundaries so important when making men respect you?
First of all, the boundaries of health show that you respect yourself. They show that you have taken into account your own value and refuse to be treated less than others.
Secondly, when you have the right boundaries, it is easier for people to respect you. Boundaries set expectations of how you want to be treated
This means men know clearly what kind of behavior they should and should not be around you. And when your boundaries are clear, there is no excuse for disrespect.
In addition, if a man always ignores your bottom line, he is not worthy of your respect.
9) Post your opinion
When you have something to say, say it loudly and confidently!
Fei'er mentioned this before; we no longer live in the old era.
Most men, decent men, hope that women can think and speak for themselves.
Even if they disagree with what you say, you believe in your voice and are willing to share your views, the fact that you will give you more respect than a woman who keeps silent and says "yes" to everything.
The fact is that for a long time, our voices were not heard.
Now, we all live in a society where we can safely express our desires. This requires us to shout out loud, leave room for our opinions and demand the respect we deserve.
What if a man still disrespects you after sharing your opinion?
They may feel inferior because of your thoughts, in which case you don't have to worry too much about whether they respect you.
10) Know when to apologize
Another characteristic of men respect is knowing when to apologize.
As we all know, men are all conceited, but guess what? In fact, women are also very conceited!
so, being humble and being responsible for yourself will be of great help to win the respect of others.
If you messed up, acknowledge this, apologize, and do your best to correct this situation.
The fact is that men respect a woman who corrects her mistakes, not someone who just apologizes and retreats.
but that's not all.
also know when not to apologize.
You see, if you have to take responsibility even if it is not your fault, you are just disrespectful to yourself. Now, you should know that self-esteem is the key here!
So, don't apologize if:
- You're not doing anything wrong
- You can easily solve this problem
- You've been sensitive or showing emotional (which is very common).
- You are telling the truth
If you always apologize for things you don't need to apologize, it shows that you lack self-esteem and self-worth. This makes it easier for you to be a target of disrespect.
11) Keep your independence
We have talked about sharing our views, being proactive, and being responsible for ourselves.
all these factors are inseparable from independence.
Now, I don't mean to go to extremes-if you have a partner you can rely on him from time to time, just like he should be able to do to you.
I mean independent in how you live.
If you want men to respect you, you have to show that you are capable and worth it.
Let’s face it. Relying on father or relying on trust in family life does not mean that she is a strong and independent woman.
Men like those brave women, they go to the vast world and open up new lives for themselves.
If you have your own:
- Social life
- Career
- Home
- Interests and hobbies
And you don’t rely on anyone in major events in life, believe me, you are more likely to get respect from men!
12) Communication is the key
How to communicate with people is another way to make men respect you.
Let us divide this problem into two parts, so it is clear. Here are ways that should not be communicated:
- confrontational (attacking others' opinions in an aggressive way)
- defensive (ignoring the point, closing, or slamming).
- passively attacks (indirectly deny, offend, and then pretend that this is a joke)
- interrupts someone else's speech (interrupts someone else's speech, indicating that you do not respect someone else's speech).
- shows hostile body language (arms crossed, no eye contact, legs pointing away from the person you speak).
All the above behaviors will not only make men disrespect you, but you will also find it difficult to get along with colleagues and friends, and even disrupt a romantic relationship.
so how can you communicate effectively and win respect?
- Listen to others' opinions, acknowledge their feelings and thoughts
- Keep eye contact, nod, smile, and maintain a relaxed posture to show positive body language
- speak calmly and clearly, and do not leave too much room for explanation.
- is straightforward, if you have problems, don't beat around the bush and say it out with respect.
- says what you want to say, summarize it, and then give others time to digest it (if there is an awkward silence, don't worry, it means they are thinking).
Once you learn to communicate effectively, it will be difficult for men to disrespect you.
Just like sharing your point of view, they don't have to agree with your point of view, but the way you express your point of view means it's hard to get a disrespectful response.
If they do that, this is where your boundaries should appear. Set how you want others to talk to you, and if they can’t respect you, then end the conversation.
13) Stick to your faith
Finally, a good way to win men's respect is to stick to your faith.
What are you passionate about?
Animal rights? Helping people in the local community? Spreading health awareness and support in impoverished areas?
What does not matter, what matters is your life goals.
And when you follow this goal and devote yourself to it, men will feel that this is very respectable.
You are not sitting at home and browsing TikTok 24 hours a day, you are not wasting unnecessary money in the mall - you have something that makes your life meaningful.
Men will notice this sense of mission, it is almost like an energy bubble surrounding you. It makes you fun. This shows that you have your own voice and that you are not afraid to use it.
Is it difficult to get respect from men?
The fact is that in the past, and even now, women are still struggling to gain male respect.
As I mentioned at the beginning, men are used to doing things the way they do, but that doesn't mean that all men don't respect women.
Even at the worst moments in history for women, there are men who respect women, and some women who demand respect through their own behavior.
Therefore, I believe that in the general sense, it is a bit difficult, but not impossible.
In the workplace, you may feel that your male colleagues have received more recognition. Probably indeed. However, this should not stop you from fighting for your rights with dignity! Make your boss unable to disrespect you.
In a romantic relationship - there are many men who will like, admire and respect a woman who is independent and lives the best life. If you always meet men who disrespect you, you are looking for the wrong place! Or you don't have healthy boundaries.
or you haven't established a healthy boundary.
And in family situations, this can be difficult.
The outdated view may still exist, but it depends on us women to change. If we don’t want our sons to grow up disrespect for women, we have to show them different ways.
We must set firm and clear boundaries for men and ourselves.
Conclusion
We have talked about 13 key points about how to make men respect you, but I hope the main conclusion of this article is that respect begins with the family.
If you allow yourself to be treated as junk, then it will be very different to have a man respect you. You have to win respect from others, but it starts with yourself.
There is also a last piece of advice: Not every man will respect you, it doesn’t matter. We cannot force anyone to respect us.
However, by following the above steps, you will be in a better position to get respect from men who are important to you! Keep your position, first love yourself, and don’t forget to have strict boundaries in the right place.
Do you like what you just read? I want to know what you think of it. So, leave a message in the comment section. In addition, remember to search for Fei on WeChat to chat about emotions and follow Fei'er. Fei'er promises that Fei'er will become the lucky charm of your beautiful love life.
