Many people get married, but they don’t know how to cherish a happy family, but they are still attracted by the temptations from outside. In the end, they do things that hurt the family and regret it again. It’s too late.
My surname is Lu, I am 32 years old this year. I am a freight driver. I often have to travel long distances and I actually have very little time at home.
My hometown is from the north, and my ancestors were in the army. At that time, during the Liberation War, my parents came from the north to the south with their family, and then worked in the south, so they settled in the south.
Our family has many relatives, but most of them are in the north and very few are in the south. With the passing of my grandparents, our family has even fewer contacts with those relatives, so our family is just my parents, and me and my brother.
My brother is 5 years older than me and got married and had children very early. My brother works in a factory and his sister-in-law is his colleague. The two of them are pregnant before marriage, so they don’t have much money. At that time, my brother had spent all his family’s savings when he got married, so they had no money to buy a house after they got married and could only live in their parents’ old house.
My parents' house was a staff house assigned by the previous unit. It was not big, only two bedrooms and one living room. My brother was not married before, so I could live in a room with my brother, but after he got married, I had to move out because my sister-in-law was going to move in.
My brother discussed this with me. He said he paid me the money for renting a house. He felt that he was sorry for me. I didn’t care much. I was young at that time, and I worked in an electronics factory and had an employee dormitory. I could live in a dormitory. My brother got married was a big deal, and I couldn’t make my sister-in-law feel wronged. My brother has taken good care of me since he was a child. I am not such an ignorant person.
After I moved to the dormitory, I rarely ran home. The main reason was that I was tired from work, and I wanted to go to bed when I got off work and went back to the dormitory. I would go home to check it out during the holidays.
I occasionally have a little irritable temper. I have worked in an electronics factory for more than 2 years. I had a little conflict with my leader because of overtime work, and then I didn’t do it.
When I was in my hometown, I drove a truck with others, so I had some experience. After I didn’t work in the factory, I didn’t want to continue to look at other people’s faces, so I used the money I saved to buy a second-hand truck, thinking about taking some work, running freight, and making money.
I was originally a person who was not very good at talking and socializing. Although it was hard to drive the truck, I still thought it was good because I didn’t have to communicate too much with others. But because of this, I couldn’t find a girlfriend, which made my parents very anxious.
My brother also blamed himself for my marriage, thinking that he lived in his parents' house and asked me to move out, so I became more and more withdrawn. Otherwise, I might not have this, if my parents are by my side. I think they just think too much and I just can't meet the right one.
I drove a truck for several years and saved some money. My parents also urged me to do a lot of blind dates. In order to make my parents feel at ease, I went to see them all, but I didn’t like them very much. But my sister-in-law introduced me to a colleague of her surname, He. I looked liked it very much, so I tried to date her.
Xiao He is 5 years younger than me. He is a slightly fat girl, but he has a good personality and is cheerful and loves to smile. I like her very much. I think it’s interesting to be with her and I won’t feel embarrassed. After being together for a while, I said I want to marry her. She thought about it for a while and said she wanted to discuss it with her parents. I think it’s normal and give her time to consider it.
Later Xiao He told me that her family wanted a 100,000 yuan bride price, and asked me to buy a hardware for her and a wedding house to get married. She said that this was their rule. I felt it was normal after hearing it. I had some savings over the years, so I could accept the bride price. The wedding house may be almost the same as my current ability, but in a few years, I will definitely be able to buy it.
Xiao He saw that I was happy and believed me, so he agreed to marry me.
After Xiao He and I got married, we have always had a good relationship. She and my sister-in-law are both salesmen in a mobile phone store. They have a good relationship. I often deliver goods and are not at home. My sister-in-law will help me take care of her and often ask her to go to her home for dinner. So I feel very relieved that Xiao He has no suspicion about her when she is not at home.
However, we have been married for about half a year, Xiao He often goes home very late. I asked her where she went, and she told me to work overtime because their mobile phone stores often hold some discount activities, so it is normal to make it a little late. At first, I didn’t doubt it much.
But later on, I felt that something was getting worse and wrong. Xiao He worked overtime too many times. I rarely stayed at home. I didn’t have much time to see her. I thought I couldn’t get along with her for a while when I was at home, so I complained to my sister-in-law, saying that Xiao He worked overtime too many times, but I didn’t expect that my sister-in-law told me that they rarely worked overtime.
I heard my sister-in-law say this, and I felt that Xiao He might have something hidden from me, but I don’t want to think like this because I still cherish this relationship very much.
Until last month, I went to another place to deliver goods. I received a call from my boss halfway through, saying that there was something wrong with the goods and I needed to take them back and deal with them first. Although I was very annoyed, I had no choice but to pull them back first.
I took the goods back, and the boss unloaded the goods and said he would send them the next day, so I could only go home and rest first.
When I went home, I found that the lights at home were on. There seemed to be someone talking in the bedroom, so I called Xiao He twice. Unexpectedly, Xiao He actually locked the bedroom door when he heard my voice.
I thought there must be something wrong, so I knocked on the door hard, but Xiao He didn't open the door, and I couldn't help but shouted outside, "Open the door quickly, if you don't open it, I'll kick the door, don't force me!"
Maybe I was scared by me, but Xiao He asked me to wait for a while, but still refused to open the door. I was furious and kicked open the door. I asked her why she didn't open the door for me. She said she was sleeping and was scared and thought she was a bad person.
I definitely don’t believe what she said. I called her. I am her husband. Can’t she even hear my voice? It’s just a lie, and I’m a fool.
Just as I was about to question Xiao He, I found a pair of shoes in the corner of the curtain in the room. When I looked carefully, I found that it was not as simple as a pair of shoes, but a person stood there.
I have a very bad feeling. I felt that I was being green. Xiao He also noticed something I found. She wanted to pull me out of the room, but I ignored her. I shook Xiao He's hand away and pulled the person out directly.
That was a young man wearing work clothes. I recognized that work clothes, which was the same as Xiao He's work clothes, which were the work clothes in their mobile phone store, so this man was her colleague.
It's so late. Xiao He took such a man home and saw me locking the door. This must be a ghost in his heart. I beat the man up without saying a word. Xiao He kept pulling me and finally even knelt down and cried and begged me, then dragged me to let the man go.
I was very angry. I thought I was not sorry for Xiao He, but why did she treat me like this? I was very disappointed and heartbroken. I almost hit Xiao He, but I held it back. I didn't want to hit a woman, but I was so angry that I had nowhere to vent my anger. I could only slap myself hard, regretting that I had no eyes and liked the wrong person.
Xiao He kept crying with me, she said she was sorry for me, she said I was often not at home, and that colleague was always attentive to her, and the two of them played better, so they made mistakes. She hoped that I would forgive her this time, and she promised not to make it again in the future.
But I don’t think I can forgive her. We have only been married for half a year, so she can cuckold me like this. They have been itching for seven years. I just don’t stay at home occasionally, and I’m not at home for a long time. Is she so lonely? I really can’t understand.
Later, my family knew about my divorce with Xiao He. My parents and sister-in-law both advised me to give Xiao He another chance. The main reason is that they all think it is not easy to marry a wife now. It is difficult to find another divorce this time. It is better to live a life. As long as she doesn't make any more mistakes in the future. If I am not at home, my family will also help me watch her.
But I don’t want to, I don’t want to settle down, I think it’s hard for me to accept such a Xiao He, and I can’t treat her as before, it’s hard for me to trust her again.
Maintaining marriage requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife. If only one party works hard, it will definitely not last long. Moreover, cheating in marriage is shameful and immoral. If this mistake is made, it will affect the relationship between husband and wife, resulting in the breakdown of the marriage and family, which is very inappropriate.
