Introduction
After entering our old age, we can rely on our children and our spouses. Generally speaking, children also have their own small family to take care of. It is impossible to share too much time for their parents. The elderly still have to rely on their spouse more. When there are physical problems, they have to bother to take care of them.
But we all know that there are very few couples who can live until they are old. When they get older, their partners may leave due to some physical illnesses. The days they stayed are even more difficult. They are afraid of adding burden to their children's houses. After thinking about it, many elderly people will choose to find another partner.
58-year-old Aunt Zhang cried and said, "I have been with my wife for half a year. He is very satisfied with me, but I still insist on breaking up with him." What is the reason? Next, let’s take a look at Aunt Zhang’s story together.
self-reporter: Aunt Zhang
My surname is Zhang, and I am 58 years old this year. My family and my ex-husband's family are family friends. We have known each other since we were having sex and have grown up childhood sweethearts. My ex-husband’s parents regard me as their daughter-in-law, and my parents also think that my ex-husband will be my future husband.
Later we became husband and wife as everyone wished. When I first got married, I also lived a happy marriage life for several years. My parents-in-law are easy to get along with and treat me as my own daughter. I am no different from my parents-in-law’s house.
But since my ex-husband got into college, my life has started to change. At first, he would send a letter every month, and the letter he sent back was several pages, and the letter was full of care for me. Later, he sent one letter in one issue, and the content became less and less. He only had a few words, but he was not satisfied with the page of letter paper.
Actually, I had a premonition in my heart at that time, and I felt that my husband might be fascinated by the colorful world outside. But I still have a fluke mentality. My parents-in-law are so kind to me, and my husband and I have had so many years of relationships. I don’t believe he will abandon me.
But later he became Chen Shimei. After graduating from college, he wanted to separate from me. He said that we were not people of the same level and had no common language together. I didn’t understand anything he said, and he was not interested in what I said. Separating one another means letting go.
He has met true love in college, and the other person is the wife she wants. I thought my parents-in-law would help me, after all, they have always been very nice to me, but my parents-in-law stood on the side of their son without hesitation. Only then did I realize that they were the real family.
Plus we were just a real marriage at that time and did not get a marriage certificate, so we separated quickly. What I didn't expect was that their family didn't even want to ask for their daughter, so they gave some child support every month. Our two families also broke down because of our separation and had no other contact since then.
Later, my parents also advised me to remarry. They thought I was still young and had to take care of a child. Although they could help, it was also very hard for me to support a family by myself. They hoped that I could find a new support and live a more relaxed life in the future.
But at that time I just wanted to guard my daughter and did not obey my parents' words to remarry. My daughter is a filial child. After she got married, she did not leave me behind, but took me over and live with them and their husbands.
The son-in-law has a wealthy family and loves his daughter very much. The couple lived a happy life after marriage. Many elderly people have to help share housework or take care of their children when they go to their children, and their lives are quite hard. I enjoyed my life at my son-in-law's house. They hired a nanny at home, and they didn't need me to help with housework. Someone took care of my children. My life was so leisurely, and it can be said that I finally had the hardships and the joys of hardships came.
Later I met Lao Gu because of dancing square dance. At first, I had a bad impression of Lao Gu. I felt like he was like a flower, always attracting bees and butterflies. I like to laugh with the opposite sex very much. I feel that this kind of man is very unreliable.
So my attitude towards Lao Gu is naturally not good, and I am always cold and cold. When I talk to me, I will reply one after another.But Lao Gu never cared about my indifference in his heart, always chatted with me very enthusiastically and shared with me the small things in his life.
He is also very careful. He will remember what I told him every time, so I gradually felt that I misunderstood Lao Gu. Although he looks unreliable on the surface, he is actually very considerate.
Unconsciously, Lao Gu slowly occupied a certain position in my heart. I found that I began to get used to Lao Gu's existence. I had to contact Lao Gu every day. If I didn't contact him again, I felt very uncomfortable and always thought about the other person.
I clearly understand that this is the spring heart that has moved. I didn’t expect that I was so old that I could meet someone who made me moved again. This is really a hard-won fate, so I also want to be brave and give it a try with Lao Gu.
Although my daughter and son-in-law are also very good, they can never replace their wife. With Lao Gu accompanying me, my life really brings a lot of laughter and joy. My daughter and son-in-law also supported me to find a wife, so we got together naturally.
But after I got together, I was unhappy and had a lot of troubles. I don’t have a pension. When I was young, I worked harder and saved up some pension money for myself. Will my daughter and son-in-law also give me some pocket money? So I don’t need to rely on Lao Gu to support myself in my ability to support myself.
But Lao Gu's children all think that I am with Lao Gu for money and always look down on me. In front of Lao Gu, they were just acting cold, but when Lao Gu Yi was not there, they began to speak ill of me. I knew they would definitely not treat me as a mother, but no matter how I am also their father's wife, at least I still have respect, right?
But the reality is that they regard me as their enemy, and my life is really hard. I don’t want to affect their father-son and father-daughter relationship, so I didn’t tell Lao Gu at first, but later they became more and more excessive. I really couldn’t stand it anymore, so I confessed to Lao Gu.
But Lao Gu did not protect me as I imagined, and said, "I know you are wronged, but I am the one who lives with you. My children do not come back often. I hope you can bear it for me." Before we got together, I also asked Lao Gu if his children support him and find a wife. Lao Gu told me at that time that his children had no objection. As a result, after being together, he treated me like this. Lao Gu never treated me as his wife, and never thought of treating me as a family, otherwise how could I be tolerant of it everywhere?
And in the six months we have been together, I have never taken advantage of Lao Gu. Lao Gu is also very satisfied with me. Although he paid for the living expenses, I also did the housework alone, and I have never let him do it. Sometimes when I go out shopping, I will buy him any clothes that suit him. I am not the kind of person who only asks for money but does not pay.
I started out as Lao Gu treats me nicely, and being with him can improve my sense of happiness. But my life after getting along was not as good as I wished. I was like his free nanny, taking good care of his life and being guarded by his children, for fear that I would take Lao Gu’s things.
So after half a year of partnership, I couldn't bear it anymore and insisted on breaking up. Lao Gu has always tried to keep me. Although I still have some feelings for Lao Gu, I did not choose to look back. When I had conflicts with his children, he did not choose to protect me and could not give me the security I wanted. Therefore, the timely stop loss of is correct.
After this failed experience, I really dare not look for it again. It is better to live with your daughter and son-in-law in the future. There may be many good men in life, but it is not that easy to meet a suitable person. Now I have a certain amount of pension money, and my daughter and son-in-law are also filial to me, so I won’t waste my energy finding a wife.
