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The pace of life is getting faster and faster, and everyone is getting less and less happy.
Every morning in the subway, we can no longer feel a trace of youthful vitality except for seeing young people, middle-aged people and elderly people in the dusk.
Some people will be puzzled about this. It is easy to understand middle-aged people's dusk energy. How can young people's dusk energy be? In fact, their edges and corners have been smoothed out by life, so isn’t they the only thing left to aging before they grow old?
If the state of "depressed air" will only make people live unhappy, that is a personal problem. However, as more and more young people without desires in , we find that they are not even willing to have children. The situation where
chooses not to marry and chooses Dink , originates from the generation born in the 1980s, and then becomes a trend among the generation born in the 1990s. Even the post-00s who have just left campus probably have these ideas.
Someone conducted a survey and hoped to know the willingness of young people to marry and childbirth. What makes people sigh is that has 92 million empty nest young people today, and most young people regard the word "single" as the foundation for their survival.
people, they should be creatures that reproduce, why did they choose to be single? Perhaps, they have seen through the truth of the world and have long been crushed by life.
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Before talking about the issue of marriage and love, let’s talk about the attitudes of parents towards their children’s marriage and love.
In the past, when parents saw their children reach the age of getting married, they would urge them to get married as soon as possible. Nowadays, the word "urged marriage" in has gradually disappeared into life.
, we will be clear about this just by looking at the network status over the years.
A few years ago, the news that parents urged to get married was one after another. Nowadays, there is basically no news about parents urging them to get married. and some parents actually support their children to be single for life.
So, someone asked this question: the biggest expectation of parents is that their children can start a family and start a career. Why do parents today do not have such expectations?
can be said to be the real life of , which has changed people's concepts.
There are some parents who have raised their children for many years, and finds that their children are not happy and they are not happy either. So they will be particularly moved, as long as the children live happily, that's fine, and there is no need to ask for too much.
There are some parents who work hard to support their children to graduate from college, but in the end they find that children are unemployed after graduating from college and still need to chew on their parents' old age. This made parents think that they "doubt about life".
people, the bigger the psychological gap, the more decisive the concept they will have. Everything is the helplessness of "reality is stronger than humans" .
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The current marriage and love seem to be a bit "complex".
The current marriage and love conditions are getting higher and higher every year. The price was this year, and this year it was a higher price. is like an auction item, making people wonder whether they are choosing a marriage or conducting a transaction.
Some people still firmly believe in the existence of true love, so they "taken" the marriage at a high price. Who knew that after getting married for one or two years, not only did they lose money, but their partner left.
"Flash marriage and divorce" has become the norm, which has made countless people particularly disgusted with the current marriage.
In the past, the cost of getting married was not high, and few people divorced. Nowadays, the cost of getting married is getting higher and higher. Who knows that more and more people are getting divorced? has made many people think of "fear of marriage" .
Chinese youth marriage and love survey report shows that 76% of young people with suitable marriages are afraid of marriage.At the same time, 61.2% of the respondents admitted that they have a tendency to be "fearing" and are unwilling to get married too early.
Just imagine, a young man needs to empty his family's six wallets to buy a house, then carry years of loans, and hold a high price for a wedding, and finally get a year or two of his marriage. Who doesn't feel fear?
Some marriage and love researchers believe that if this concept of "flash marriage and divorce" is not changed, there will be even fewer people who choose to get married in the future.
The material requirements are increasing, and the lower limit of human nature is lowering . Countless people regard marriage as a cage. This is the sadness.
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There will be more and more people who are cruel to become the root-breaking clan.
People stay away from marriage will cause a situation - ordinary families will gradually disappear.
In your opinion, are most of the people who choose the root-cutting clan? Are most of the people who choose the root-cutting clan?
After all, one palm cannot slap. This kind of idea exists for both men and women. Because their demands cannot be met, they will naturally be unable to continue their descendants.
Men think why women have such high marriage conditions? Since it is that high, then forget it, just pass it alone.
Women think, why do women waste their whole life for marriage and children? Is it not good to choose a life freely?
The concept of modern people is influenced by matter and different ideas. First of all, the material pressure is too great. Secondly, marriage has become unreliable, making people doubt marriage. Third, many people do not want their descendants to suffer.
Just like some ant tribe young people who work in big cities, they live in a dim room of ten square meters, living in the life of 996, just like an old ox, being beaten all the time, and having to drink chicken soup to comfort themselves.
If you experience more of these things, they will have no desire. As a result, the "root-cutting tribe" in big cities has appeared frequently.
can only be said that a grain of sand from the era, when it hits ordinary people, is a mountain. that's all.
text/Shushan Youlu
