"I don't know if I should break up with him."
A girl told me about her recent troubles.
She said: "I have been with my boyfriend for more than three years and have lived together for almost a year, but whether it is going out for dinner, dates, movies, rent, water and electricity, most of the money is paid by me.
He always has various reasons not to pay, and he also called it: 'I want to save more money to get married early'.
Recently, my family mentioned marriage, and I have always had this idea. Every time I talk about it, he will find various reasons to evade me.
You Do you say he really loves me? Should I continue this ethereal relationship? "
After reading the girl's confidant, I replied directly to her: "I can't give money, and I can't give it to the future. Don't leave it for a while, throw it away as soon as possible!"
Remember there is a line in the movie "Ex-boy 3": "How to prove that a man loves you? 1. Spend money for you. 2. Willing to marry you."
This sentence makes some sense. In a sense, the former proves your position in his heart, and the latter proves your position in his heart.
Life is a long road, we will meet many people on this journey, but not everyone is worthy of your heart and soul to treat them. So, before you choose to believe in a person, you must first understand whether he is worth your efforts.
It is not difficult to see a man clearly, it is enough to look at these two aspects.
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Money is a person's attitude towards you
People who love you
People who don't love you
In love, money and material things are the best test of people's hearts.
Some people have the whole world, but they only give you a candy;
Some people don’t have that much, but they want to give you the whole world.
Money cannot measure love, but it can show the attitude of a man towards you.
What determines your position in a person's mind is not how much he has, but how much he is willing to give you.
does not look at how much he says, but how much he does in reality.
Whether the gift is expensive or not is not important. What is important is whether it contains a lot of thought. The key is not money, but sincerity.
Love can be expressed by money, but money can never be exchanged for love.
is hiding the moon in the nine heavens and catching turtles in the five oceans. After all, it is just love words.
Expressing attention and expressing love is an indispensable proposition in love.
A person can have no money, but if he is reluctant to spend money on the person he loves, then this relationship may not be solved by money.
Because love is never what you can afford, but what you want to give to the other person.
Love someone is what you want, as long as I have. Do your best and give everything.
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The future is the degree to which a person loves you
The person who loves you
People who don’t love you
There are many so-called "love" in this world. It takes you all over the world, but never willing to take you home.
He takes you to eat delicacies, but never takes you to taste the homemade food.
He claims to be willing to give everything for you, but he refuses to step into marriage for you. All he can give you is a place other than home.
Someone is standing with you at dusk, some people ask you how warm the porridge is, some people have a premonition of getting married late, and they meet the person who makes them moved, and they are eager to calm down and want to start their own family. This is the happiest change in love.
A relationship that cannot give each other hope is equivalent to riding a roller coaster without any protection measures. Every minute in the future will be a risk of gambling for the rest of your life.
Many girls may have heard this:
I am not ready yet, My parents do not agree, Wait until I make enough money to marry you.
is actually nothing more than an excuse to not love enough.
Because love is a very selfish thing.
I am not sure if the future can give you happiness, nor do I know if someone will be better than me, I just want to tie you to my side.
Because only by my side can I guarantee that no one will hurt you.
If he really wants to spend the rest of his life with you, no difficulties or dangers will be considered a hindrance.
But if he just doesn't want to marry you, then any small thing can be an excuse.
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A sentence has been circulating on the Internet: Adults' love is real. In fact, in love, most girls know whether a man is worth nostalgic. There are always men who love you waiting at a certain node in your life, spending the rest of your life with you all year round, three meals a day.
"In the love of adults, there is only money and marrying you, and the others are fake."
Without material protection, everything is a mirror and the moon is difficult to maintain for a long time;
Without marriage protection, there is always a lack of security in the heart, and the song will end and part.
Love is always related to material efforts and the result of emotions.
Want to marry you, because I really want to spend the rest of my life with you.
is willing to spend money on you, because even though I am not generous, I don’t want you to suffer any grievance.
people who don’t want to give it to you, no matter how beautiful they say, they will not be cashed in;
people who really want to give it to you will never ask you if you want it. Whether it is material life or rumors about not getting married.
It is not scary to meet someone who is not worthy of your life. What is really scary is that you are unwilling to admit it when you meet it, and you still have to bear it silently.
What I want to say is that no matter how long you have loved and how much you have invested, you must stop the loss in time when you meet the wrong person. A legitimate and good love is everything you plan, and he wants to complete it with you as soon as possible.
Even if you know that you will spend a long time together, you don’t want to leave any regrets with you at this moment. so please believe that there is always a kind of love in this world, without chaos, no conspiracy, and whether it is worth it or not.
