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received a letter from a reader. The content of the letter is as follows:
Fat Fish, Hello, I have been following you for almost 3 years, and I have also entered marriage without marriage. Even though I didn't expect that I would ask you for help.
Two years ago, my husband and I got married. My parents asked for a 100,000 yuan gift, but gave me a dowry of 300,000 yuan.
I am the only daughter in the family. My father started a small business in the early years, had some savings, and his life was pretty good. My parents mean that I would give me this money and let me be the start-up capital of my family, and they also hope that I can live a better life.
, and my parents didn’t want the bride price. So, the total amount of 400,000 yuan was given to me by my parents.
At that time, the in-laws' family had a good condition, and they prepared the wedding house. I had no place to spend money here. I've kept this money.
There is no need to hide the couple, so I told my husband about this matter as soon as I got married.
Unexpectedly, we were just 3 months old and my father-in-law was diagnosed with lung cancer. We were originally preparing for pregnancy, but my husband accompanied my father-in-law to the hospital every day and was exhausted, so our pregnancy preparation was suspended.
Mother-in-law said that as long as there is a glimmer of hope, she must give her father-in-law the governance.
At that time, my parents-in-law also had some money, so we asked relatives for help and took my father-in-law to Shanghai for surgery. After the operation, my father-in-law recovered well, and we all saw hope.
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But no one expected that my father-in-law's cancer would suddenly recur.
My mother-in-law suddenly panicked. She said that even if she was selling her bad luck, she had to give her father-in-law the treatment. My parents-in-law have always had a good relationship. After decades of marriage, the two of them held hands when they went out. I saw it and was envious.
Naturally, I also hope my father-in-law can get better.
My mother-in-law planned to take her father-in-law to Beijing for treatment, but her husband resigned because the unit did not approve of his leave for such a long time. My sister-in-law is busy with work and has limited time to take leave.
With the insistence of my mother-in-law, my father-in-law had a second operation. However, this operation did not help his father-in-law, but instead made his body weaker.
After the operation, my father-in-law had to last more than 3 months and still left.
In this process, apart from the reimbursement, it still cost hundreds of thousands of yuan. In the words of my mother-in-law, if you can use money to save your father-in-law's life, what's the point of money?
After my father-in-law's death, my mother-in-law's body also collapsed. She became particularly negative and had to go to the hospital for any minor problems. We can all understand that the death of my father-in-law has caused a certain impact on her mother-in-law's psychology, so try to satisfy her.
A few days ago, my sister-in-law came to propose marriage and discussed getting married on New Year's Day.
The conditions of my sister-in-law's family are very good. They took the initiative to offer a bride gift of 200,000 yuan, and they also prepared the wedding room.
I originally thought my sister-in-law got married so smoothly, which just diluted the sadness accumulated by the family because of her father-in-law's death.
Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law would come to me.
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My mother-in-law said that although my father-in-law is gone, we cannot let my sister-in-law marry so shabby.
My sister-in-law's family will give you a 200,000 yuan gift, we can't do it worse than them.
Mother-in-law means that she plans to also marry 200,000 yuan. In this case, my sister-in-law's in-laws will look up to her in the future.
set the amount of dowry. My mother-in-law asked me what I thought, and I said there was no problem. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law would lead the conversation to me.
Mother-in-law said that after her father-in-law passed away, their family background was almost empty, and she only had less than 80,000 yuan left. If you prepare for the wedding banquet, you will have to pay for the change of words, and probably won’t be much left.
At the end of the day, my mother-in-law changed the subject and asked me if I could take out 200,000 yuan to help my sister-in-law get a dowry.
I was stunned. How did my mother-in-law know that I have money? 01 received a letter from a reader. The content of the letter is as follows: Fat Fish, Hello, I have been following you for almost 3 years, and I have also entered marriage without marriage. Even though I didn't expect that I would ask you for help. Two years ago, my husband and I got married. My parents asked for a 100,000 yuan gift, but gave me a dowry of 300,000 yuan. I am the only daughter in the family. My father started a small business in the early years, had some savings, and his life was pretty good. My parents mean that I would give me this money and let me be the start-up capital of my family, and they also hope that I can live a better life. , and my parents didn’t want the bride price. So, the total amount of 400,000 yuan was given to me by my parents. At that time, the in-laws' family had a good condition, and they prepared the wedding house. I had no place to spend money here. I've kept this money. There is no need to hide the couple, so I told my husband about this matter as soon as I got married. Unexpectedly, we were just 3 months old and my father-in-law was diagnosed with lung cancer. We were originally preparing for pregnancy, but my husband accompanied my father-in-law to the hospital every day and was exhausted, so our pregnancy preparation was suspended. Mother-in-law said that as long as there is a glimmer of hope, she must give her father-in-law the governance. At that time, my parents-in-law also had some money, so we asked relatives for help and took my father-in-law to Shanghai for surgery. After the operation, my father-in-law recovered well, and we all saw hope. 02 But no one expected that my father-in-law's cancer would suddenly recur. My mother-in-law suddenly panicked. She said that even if she was selling her bad luck, she had to give her father-in-law the treatment. My parents-in-law have always had a good relationship. After decades of marriage, the two of them held hands when they went out. I saw it and was envious. Naturally, I also hope my father-in-law can get better. My mother-in-law planned to take her father-in-law to Beijing for treatment, but her husband resigned because the unit did not approve of his leave for such a long time. My sister-in-law is busy with work and has limited time to take leave. With the insistence of my mother-in-law, my father-in-law had a second operation. However, this operation did not help his father-in-law, but instead made his body weaker. After the operation, my father-in-law had to last more than 3 months and still left. In this process, apart from the reimbursement, it still cost hundreds of thousands of yuan. In the words of my mother-in-law, if you can use money to save your father-in-law's life, what's the point of money? After my father-in-law's death, my mother-in-law's body also collapsed. She became particularly negative and had to go to the hospital for any minor problems. We can all understand that the death of my father-in-law has caused a certain impact on her mother-in-law's psychology, so try to satisfy her. A few days ago, my sister-in-law came to propose marriage and discussed getting married on New Year's Day. The conditions of my sister-in-law's family are very good. They took the initiative to offer a bride gift of 200,000 yuan, and they also prepared the wedding room. I originally thought my sister-in-law got married so smoothly, which just diluted the sadness accumulated by the family because of her father-in-law's death. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law would come to me. 03 My mother-in-law said that although my father-in-law is gone, we cannot let my sister-in-law marry so shabby. My sister-in-law's family will give you a 200,000 yuan gift, we can't do it worse than them. Mother-in-law means that she plans to also marry 200,000 yuan. In this case, my sister-in-law's in-laws will look up to her in the future. set the amount of dowry. My mother-in-law asked me what I thought, and I said there was no problem. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law would lead the conversation to me. Mother-in-law said that after her father-in-law passed away, their family background was almost empty, and she only had less than 80,000 yuan left. If you prepare for the wedding banquet, you will have to pay for the change of words, and probably won’t be much left. At the end of the day, my mother-in-law changed the subject and asked me if I could take out 200,000 yuan to help my sister-in-law get a dowry. I was stunned. How did my mother-in-law know that I have money? Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law was very frank. She said that when she was treating her father-in-law, my husband had already told her that in order to prevent her from worrying about money, I had 400,000 yuan in my hand and dowry. Mother-in-law said that this is their heart as parents, and I hope I can understand it. He also said, I am my sister-in-law and not a stingy person. Now we are all a family, and my sister-in-law is also my sister-in-law. Yes, my sister-in-law and I get along well. She usually shares with me any good cosmetics and clothes she sees. I am the only child in my family, and I really regard her as my sister. However, I was still not so generous when I asked me to take out 200,000 at once. I told my mother-in-law that I need to think about it. 04 At night, I discussed with my husband whether we can only give 100,000 yuan to my sister-in-law’s dowry. I said, I only have 400,000 yuan in my hand, and 300,000 yuan is my mother's dowry. I really don't want to take it out. This is given to me by my parents. As for the 100,000 yuan, it was the dowry they gave to me, used as my sister-in-law's dowry. I, the sister-in-law, was willing to do it. Unexpectedly, my husband disagreed. He said that after his father-in-law passed away, as the eldest brother, he wanted to give his sister-in-law more. It was just this year, and he did not save money, because his salary has been reduced a little due to the epidemic, and he also has to pay the mortgage. At this time, I, a sister-in-law, should help me if I can. What's more, he makes money in the future, it's all mine, and my husband hopes we won't be able to distinguish it so clearly. After all, he is just such a sister, so naturally I hope she will live a good life. We all know very well that my sister-in-law is a moonlight clan. She used to be there, but when she had no money, she would ask her father-in-law for support. My father-in-law loves her and always gives her joy. No matter how bad it is, her husband, the brother, supports her, so her sister-in-law has no habit of saving money. is just now, and it also involves my interests, and I don’t want to give in. My husband was very persuading, but I disagreed, and he got angry, saying I was stingy. I asked him to tell my mother-in-law, but he didn't want to, and even told me to tell him to my mother. The next day I came back from get off work. My husband had not arrived yet. Looking at my mother-in-law's expectant eyes, I calmed down and prepared. My mother-in-law asked me if I had discussed it with my husband? Am I willing to pay the money? I didn’t want to hide it from her, so I said: Mom, my 300,000 dowry was given to me by my parents. They are in the same mood as you, and I hope I can have a better life... I only plan to pay 100,000 yuan for my sister's wedding. This is my wish as my sister-in-law, I hope you can understand. Mother-in-law said pitifully: Can't you add another 100,000? You have 400,000 yuan in your hand, and even if you take out 200,000 yuan, you still have 200,000 yuan. You don’t have much money to spend, so you can still take out this money for the time being. This 200,000 is not much... I couldn't stand it anymore, and I didn't want to talk to my mother-in-law, so I opened the door and entered the house. 05 Unexpectedly, when my husband came back, he saw his mother-in-law crying. He couldn't stand it, so he took the initiative to ask me, "If there is another 100,000, can he borrow it from me?" He returns it to me within two years. My mother-in-law felt that although her father-in-law was gone, she could not treat her sister-in-law badly. They won't do this if they have money. After saying that, my husband coaxed me in various ways. I felt a little shaken. After my father-in-law passed away, we moved back to live with my mother-in-law, and their house was larger than our wedding house. As for my mother-in-law, she has been married for two years and has been good to me. She has not given birth to her and is still up to me. My sister-in-law, she treats me well. To be honest, I'm also very confused. My husband said he paid me back the money in two years. In fact, he and I are husband and wife. These are our common property, and there is no difference. I can't bear to see my husband and mother-in-law disappointed, but I feel not very comfortable if I ask me to take out my parents' money to my sister-in-law for her dowry. What's more, we are about to have children, and there are many places to spend money in the future. No matter it is 100,000, or 200,000, it is not a small number for me. Now, I don’t know what to do? Can you give me some advice?
No matter it is 100,000, or 200,000, it is not a small number for me.
Now, I don’t know what to do? Can you give me some advice?
