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[No. 135 Keywords] Wave emotions
I have seen many consulting cases on the Internet. The reason why men generally complain is that their women are always unable to coax them well, either on the left or on the right. They have done things according to the wishes of the woman, but there are still constant conflicts and can never satisfy her. Women will still think that their men don’t care about her at all.
In fact, the reason for this problem is that men cannot handle it or even cannot realize the "wave emotions" of women.
Today, let’s talk about this topic, and the article will also tell you the ultimate password for to solve this emotion.
01.
What is the "wave emotions" of a woman?
literally means enough to explain this emotion:
is similar to "wave", has no signs, no regularity, sometimes high and sometimes low.
Women may laugh, how can they be so exaggerated?
Indeed, not all women will have "wave emotions", but once this emotion occurs, it must generally conform to this logic.
If you still can’t understand, let me give you an example.
Of course, if you understand and have personal experience, you can jump directly to the second paragraph by , and to find the so-called methodology.
For example, on the anniversary, the man prepared a sumptuous Western meal for the woman. The woman was ecstatic when she saw it home and the meal process was very harmonious. After the ritual feeling of
, the woman offered to clean up the dishes and let her husband sit down and rest, but as soon as she entered the kitchen, she was furious and asked her husband why she made her carefully decorated home so bad.
is not finished yet.
The woman asked the man to get up and clean up his battlefield, but the man refused on the grounds that he had been busy for the afternoon. At this time, the woman was sadly forgetful and thought that her husband did not love him at all.
You see, in less than an hour, a woman's emotions go from high to angry to low, and then ups and downs are very obvious.
Summary:
Women are emotional animals, and often when they are in high spirits, they may suddenly become uninterested.
This is what makes men feel confused.
02.
When faced with women's wavy emotions, a common mistake that men make is to try to change her and "turn it into small". Women should have a deep impression of the issue of
.
First, let’s simulate a scene. Through this scenario reappearance, you will understand where the error point is.
As a woman, her work today is very unhappy. When she got home, she started to nag:
"The boss asked me to do a lot of work today. Xiao Wang received the same salary as me, and it was much easier than me all day long. Why can she do less, and I have to do more and do a lot of work outside of my responsibilities. Isn't this bullying?"
① Trying to change her.
Men who make such mistakes may say this:
"Then you can't be so weak and give your opinions to the boss. If you don't say it, the boss would think you are willing to do it and have the ability to take on so many jobs..."
or:
"Why don't you refuse directly?"
"You come home to talk to me with so many skills, and the whole nest is so arrogant."
I understand the idea of . People want to help their women get rid of this negative emotions by reasoning (only for men who truly love you). But what they never expected was that the only thing men can do now is to spend more time caring for her, understanding her, and supporting her, and not rushing to provide her with solutions.
Even if the original intention of men saying such words is without maliciousness, women will definitely be in a state of mind when they hear it.
On the contrary, At this time, as long as men show more understanding and sympathy, they can achieve the greatest results.
Because When women are in a state of emotion, they are in a state of mind. When she entered the trough, she urgently needed to feel that she was not abandoned by her lover, but was still firmly chosen by her lover.
Although work and love are not much related, When a woman is in a low mood, all problems will be related to the perspective of "whether he loves me?"
Men, it's good for you to get used to it .
② "Big and small".
is also an example of the work just now.
If a man says this, it will also cause women's unhappiness:
"If you ask you to do it, just do it, practice more and exercise yourself. "
" It doesn't hurt to do more work, and you won't think about you if you raise your salary at that time. "
...
This "big and small" practice is a taboo in getting along with women.
" Men are from Mars , women are from Venus" says:
When women are angry, The most unwilling thing she wants to hear about her boyfriend’s dissatisfaction with her is big but small. She regards her worries as small things and thinks it is not worth mentioning. At this time, she needs to vomit the depression and dissatisfaction accumulated to her boyfriend. Men must make her feel that you are on her side and in the same trench as her.
are two absolutely undesirable methods. To summarize a solution, it is two words:
【Sympathy】.
You want to make a woman feel that you sympathize with her. You can understand her, and you can even curse her with her.
But one must not put facts and reason, that is her emotional stability What happened afterwards.
03.
The calming of women's "wavy emotions" requires a period of "transition".
Seeing this, someone will ask: html ml2
I do the same, but why is there no results at all?
My answer is: In most cases, you don’t have enough time for etc.
Anyone who has experienced the love stage knows that when a woman’s emotions rise and reach its peak, she is willing to give and willing to Dedication, affection and tenderness; when she is in a low mood, no matter how perfect and excellent the lovers around her are, they will temporarily lose the ability to love him to varying degrees.
So, when a woman feels that she is very fragile and needs some support, she cannot immediately walk out of the bottom as soon as she feels the warmth and considerate of a man.
Because For a woman's emotional recovery, it takes a period of "transition period" .
Of course, men's support and understanding will shorten the "transition period". She feels his silent and powerful support, and her emotions will gradually improve.
Therefore, men, women do not have the ability to be grateful when they are emotional, , but they will add a point to you in their hearts.
Every point of your efforts and understanding, they all see, but they need a self-healing process to restore their energy to express their gratitude and love to you.
I hope everyone will deepen and consolidate their feelings through correct expressions.
We See you next issue.
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