Wenger Juli wrote in "The Rules of Happy Marriage": "The happiest and loving couples in the world have at least 200 divorces and the idea of strangling each other 50 times in their lifetime."
In this world, there is no perfect marriage, only by constantly managing it with care can we create a happy marriage. A 45-year-old eldest sister remarried and a 30-year-old man wanted to divorce for three years. The eldest sister: He was too troublesome, the man: This is what young people are. What the hell is going on? Let's take a look together.
Ms. Ye/45 years old
Dazhou and I have been married for three years. I feel exhausted every day and often have the idea of divorce. I was 45 years old and divorced once. My ex-husband had a new love and abandoned his wife and children. He had been bothering him for two years and suffered losses. In the end, I decided to let me go. If he wanted to pursue true love, let him go.
The first condition I promised to divorce was that he left the house with nothing. He was willing to give up everything for his new love. I think it was ridiculous and sad. I got the house and car deposit, and my ex-husband went for true love, but I didn't know if the new love was still rare and he was just leaving the house.
After the divorce, I lived with my daughter, and I was only 36 years old at that time. My parents turned pale because of my divorce. In the eyes of their older generation, it is unhappy for women to divorce. They asked me to take care of my daughter and asked me to find another one while I was not too old.
I lost confidence in marriage, and a divorce made me exhausted. I really didn’t have the energy to talk about my relationship again. A few years later, I met Dazhou. Love is indeed wonderful, it comes as soon as it comes. Big Zhou is 15 years old, and we fell in love after crossing the age barrier. I entered my second marriage with my longing for happiness, and I believe that my young husband will bring me happiness.
people may be like this. They are too confident before anything and always imagine the future too well. I have been married to Dazhou for three years and have been exhausted by him. My ex-husband left the house with nothing, and my financial conditions were guaranteed. When I got married to Dazhou and I, in order to understand him, I did not have a bride price, and my house and car were mine.
My generousness did not bring Da Zhou's gratitude. On the contrary, he felt that I was looking down on him and he tried his best to prove himself. In recent years, he has repeatedly started his business and is anxious to succeed. The result is conceivable. The failure to borrow money to start a business has resulted in heavy debt. As his wife, I naturally have to help him deal with these messes.
I have talked to Dazhou many times, and I hope he won’t make trouble again. If you live a down-to-earth life with me, we will live a happy life. Dazhou's overly sensitive self-esteem made him unable to settle down. He said that this is how young people are. They must have a career aspiration and struggle. Do they have to wait until they are old and can't move before they regret it?
He thinks about making money every day, and is struggling outside all day long, and he is not willing to spend time with me at all. He failed to start a business and left, and asked me to bear the consequences for him, and my family's financial resources were getting smaller and smaller. I experienced betrayal in my first marriage, and the second marriage was so unbearable. I really don’t know why I am always so unlucky. Why is it so difficult to be happy?
to Ms. Ye and her husband
There is no perfect marriage in this world, and everyone's marriage may have problems. When problems arise from conflicts are the most important thing is to communicate in a timely manner, think from the perspective of others, and be considerate and tolerant of each other. If you are stubborn, ignore the other person's feelings, and do not consider the stability of your family, sooner or later, the marriage will fall apart due to conflicts.
Marriage belongs to two people, not one person is giving infinitely, and one person is enjoying unconditionally. A healthy marriage is a two-way journey and is responsible for the family. A good husband-wife relationship is to place lovers in an important position and love and care for them with actions. For the rest of your life, please cherish the people around you and manage your marriage with your heart.
