Introduction
With the progress of the times, it is becoming more and more common for the elderly to find their spouses, and their blind dates are more direct than those of young people.
As soon as we meet, we ask how much living expenses will be given in the future, who will take charge of the financial power, etc. Then we bargained. If possible, we would continue to get along with each other. If not, we would like to say goodbye.
Is money really a main issue that needs to be considered? Shouldn’t it be more important to find a suitable person who can be chatted with each other and accompany each other to take care of each other?
Can two people who consider money really come together and find a suitable partner? Come and take a look at the blind dates between these two old people and you will find the answer.
69-year-old Mr. Zhao and 63-year-old Aunt He had a blind date
I am Mr. Zhao, 69 years old this year, and I have been single for several years. My monthly pension is about 4,500 yuan, and I have a two-bedroom apartment. I have no worries about food and clothing.
only has one child, I live in the same city as me, and it takes about half an hour to drive.
As I grow older, my child also mentioned taking him to take care of him, but I didn't agree. I am old and don’t want to go to a place I am not familiar with. Even in the same city, I don’t have an acquaintance around me.
What's more, I don't want to disturb my children's life. It's better to play chess, cards, or take a walk with my acquaintances in the community when I'm fine.
The child was worried. Seeing that I was unwilling to go to the side to support my elderly care, I advised me to find a partner so that I could take care of each other. If you have something, you can respond to each other's urgent needs, so that you won't know anything without a single person.
I thought that the same thing happened, so I decided to find a try. I have no other requirements for my wife. As long as the other person is over 160 years tall, looks better, is gentle and kind, and can live a down-to-earth life.
The matchmaker introduced 63-year-old Aunt He, according to my request. Aunt He has a monthly pension of 2,800 yuan, and also has her own one-bedroom house. She is 165 in height, looks pretty and is good at dressing up.
After retirement, she has no hobbies, just likes it, that is, traveling everywhere, and she basically goes out with her friends when she has free time.
When she doesn't go out, she will chat with her neighbors during the day, play with her mobile phone, and dance square dance at night, and live a fulfilling life.
Aunt He has a happy marriage. Her husband is more responsible and family-oriented. She has few things to worry about big and small matters, and she will also hand over the finances to her.
The two lived together for decades and rarely had conflicts. Later, her husband left, and she still had a lot of sadness. It took more than a year to get out of her sadness.
She thought about the requirements of her partner very simply, hoping that the other party can be caring and considerate, about the same age, just stay with each other sincerely.
The requirements of both of them are similar. Can the blind date be successful? Let's take a look together.
The first time we met was in a park, we made an appointment to enjoy the scenery and chat. I was quite satisfied with the first time I saw Aunt He. She looked like a gentle woman and her height also met my requirements.
And Aunt He had a good first impression of me. She looked at me as honest as I was not that kind of uneasy man, so she decided to learn more about it.
So, Aunt He took the initiative to say, "Hello, I'm very happy to know you. I made an appointment outside when I met for the first time. We took a walk, chat, and let go of communication with each other. I brought some fruits. After a while, we would find a place to sit down and eat when we were tired and thirsty."
I was still very happy after hearing Aunt He's words. She was so proactive and brought food to her, which shows that she still valued me more.
laughed and said to Aunt He: "Thank you, I think this is quite suitable. You brought fruits and thought it very carefully."
After saying this, he took the initiative to introduce his situation: "I have a solid body, I also have my own house and a pension.""
Aunt He didn't say anything about this. In Aunt He's opinion, it doesn't matter whether there is a house or not. As long as you get along, it's enough. After all, I have a house, although it's just a one-bedroom apartment, which is enough to live in.
The two of them talked about a lot of topics back and forth, and it was very harmonious. The only conflict point suddenly appeared. This conflict point is the question of who is in charge of the money, and there was a dispute because of this.
However, this is also a realistic problem. No matter when, the problem of money cannot be escaped. Therefore, Aunt He asked the two of them how to plan after living together, how to allocate their living expenses, etc.
But I really haven't thought about these questions, and I don't think about them, so I mean what life planning is planned?
Aunt He smiled and said, "Of course, how to arrange the financial power of the family in the future, how to spend living expenses, etc.? ”
Regarding this question, I told my own thoughts: “If we succeed, two people live together, and I think the living expenses should be distributed equally so that there will be no conflicts and I have ideas in my mind.
My monthly pension is about 4,500 yuan, and I can take out 2,000 yuan per month as living expenses. You don’t have much pension, you only need to pay 1,000 yuan. What do you think?"
Aunt He said after hearing this: "What you said is a little different from what I expected. What do you mean is not that you are responsible for paying all living expenses, right? "
Aunt He's idea was to find a suitable wife, and the other party would pay all the living expenses. If the conditions were in place, she would give her some pocket money. Unexpectedly, I actually asked her to pay a portion of the living expenses.
What's more, shouldn't two people spend money together? It's so clear, how can they live? Will they have their own small calculations? But, if I don't think so, no one can predict the future, but I still have to Thinking about it for a long time, I give myself some confidence. I don’t agree with mixing all the money together.
What’s more, we just met and had no feelings, who knows if the other party came because of their own money?
Thinking about it, I told Aunt He again: “I think it’s too early to talk about these things now. We are all unfamiliar with each other, and we are all second-marriages. We rashly put the money together. If one of them takes them away, what will we do in the future? You should be more cautious. "
Aunt He also agreed with this. She said, "Let's get along with each other. If it's appropriate, when I really get together, I will consider putting the money together and spending my life together.
I have no objection to this, but I still put forward a request: "After putting the money together, I must be in charge of the financial power. "
Aunt He was unwilling to do it again. She said: "I will take care of my life in the future. Naturally, it is more convenient for my financial power to be in my hands, so that I can live a good life. "
I said, "Everyone is the male protagonist, the female protagonist, the outside, and the man is the head of the family, so naturally he has to decide at home. I still have to take charge of the financial power. I can give you 500 pocket money every month just like I used to give my wife pocket money. "
After hearing this, Aunt He was unhappy in an instant. She said angrily: "You want me to pay my salary, I'm afraid you're not dreaming, why do you think it's okay! I also give me 500 yuan in pocket money every month. Why should I give you all my pensions and live a life based on your face? Are you really looking for a partner? I don’t look like him. "
We can't communicate, I don't want to compromise, he doesn't want to give in, he just wants this financial power, and I give me pocket money every month, and I can't reach an agreement with each other, and this blind date failed.
was written in the end
people went to find a partner in their late years, and everyone valued money. No one wanted to be lucky enough to have a lifetime of hard work, and they didn't know it. There is.
For this, both people who are on blind dates should understand each other and can take out part of it as public finance. The two of them jointly agree on the management method. Whether they are jointly managed or one month, as long as they find someone who is willing to accept it and do not suffer losses to each other, they can get along well with each other.
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