Author: Chenxiong
Junichi Watanabe once said: "Women's confusion is before going to bed, and men are after the end."
This sentence just tells the difference between women and men.
all say that food and sex are nature, and the pursuit of desire is understandable, and there is no need to use too much morality to bind it.
However, as a woman, we still need to understand one truth, that is, the thinking logic of men and women is different.
What a woman thinks is that he is willing to betray the private life of the family, which is a kind of love. It is precisely using women's logic to analyze men's thoughts, which is self-satisfaction, and is separated from the unrealistic of seeing the man's true thoughts clearly.
So, an ex-boyfriend who is already married still wants to have sex with his ex-girlfriend. This is not nostalgic love, it is hurt!
01
- The deep logic behind desire
It is said that women are sensory animals, and men are rational animals.
So, when a sensual woman and a rational man have physical and emotional touch, then this relationship is more or less mixed with the friction between two mentalities.
Honey analyzed the psychology of men and women in "Love Psychology". She said:
A man loves a woman deeply and will instinctively be willing to marry her; just as a woman loves a man deeply and will instinctively be willing to have sex with him.
This shows the difference between men's thinking patterns and women.
So, there was the amazing song "Traveling through Most of China to Sleep You" written by Yu Xiuhua to Li Jian .
This desire-filled poem describes a woman's desire and admiration for a man.
We cannot deny the boldness of this poem, but it is this poem that reveals women's different attitudes towards desire, towards sex and men.
So, dear woman, don’t think that a man is willing to have sex with a woman, that is, like a woman, it is love and pursuit. Men’s ideas are different at all!
02
- Men’s understanding of “lover”
Although people are creatures based on the top of the food chain, they still cannot escape the attributes of creatures.
And in terms of sex and feelings, the gap between men and women is so clear.
says that men's wish is: "The red flag at home does not fall, and the colorful flags are floating outside."
can be seen. Such familiar words contain the attitude and choice of men towards the word "lover".
Just as Honey said:
For men, they will think: Since only women can have children, if they can have more relationships with a few more women, wouldn’t they be able to leave more offspring? Therefore, men will search for sex as much as possible, and do not necessarily make promises or delay commitments to marriage - because once both parties enter the palace of marriage, it means they have to make commitments and be dedicated, which reduces the possibility of men getting more children.
. In Honey's point of view, the biological attribute that men cannot get rid of is to leave more offspring to pass on the family line.
Some men will constantly pursue the excitement of extramarital affairs, but they are unwilling to divorce their wives and want to take one foot from both ends. This "scumbag" behavior of stepping on two boats just proves the man's shrewdness and reality.
Men do not judge their lovers and wives by the same standards. Research scholars call these two different concepts of mate selection-short-term mate selection strategies and long-term mate selection strategies.
A man who is a good husband and a good father at home may also be looking for fun outside. Such a man who does not divorce but is still wandering outside. Their approach is precisely full of interests. As Honey wrote in his book "Love Psychology":
can be seen. Even if he becomes a lover, it does not mean that this man must love this woman deeply. At least, if he loves her deeply, he must want to give her enough sense of security, rather than letting her be criticized and abused by the world under the name of a third party.
Summary
From this we can see how unreliable this man who is married but still expects to have sex with his ex-girlfriend!
And his move was just a catch of the girl, and his incorrect view of this matter in his heart - he has an old love for me and a memory of the past.
So he stepped on the girl's life gate that she had for so accurate and reasonableness, and made such a ridiculous request - not only hurt his wife, but also hurt his ex-girlfriend, which shows how irresponsible and selfish!
Therefore, women who see through these two points should not only see through them, but also be alert to this unreasonable request. They must not take a wrong step, do stupid things, hurt themselves, and hurt another innocent woman.
And this kind of scumbag is thrown away early, which is actually a blessing!
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