Many cheating men in extramarital affairs are just like ghosts.
Why do you have to say that you have fallen in love with a mistress and have to abandon your wife and children for the mistress?
They may not have true love for mistresses, but may be affected by the suspension bridge effect . The Blue Party handled an extramarital affair case between
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The original wife Ms. Luo said that her husband had cheated on her and insisted on divorce for the mistress.
The man and mistress met at work. The mistress had just changed jobs from another company less than three months.
The career of a man who cheated on him before had problems, and the big project he led the team was not going well.
In fact, when the mistress went there, the project had reached its final stage and the situation had improved.
The mistress is also capable, and it has indeed brought some help to the cheating man.
But it was not the mistress who solved the problem, nor was it a project made by the mistress.
But cheating man puts all the credit on the mistress.
insists that mistress is his soul mate and mistress is his lucky star. Only by living with mistress can he reap happiness.
The attitude of cheating on a man is very firm, and Ms. Luo has tried to coerce and tempt.
threatens property, uses child custody rights to persuade men to cheat, and uses their parents’ connections to seduce men to cheat.
The man who cheated was unwilling to do so, Ms. Luo began to drag the man who cheated and the mistress until the relationship collapsed.
As a result, the cheating man moved directly to live with the mistress, and told Ms. Luo that she could delay for up to two years.
After two years of separation, you can file a divorce directly, so that Ms. Luo can think it out earlier and don’t delay that long.
Ms. Luo really has no choice, so she came to the Blue Party for help.
Blue told her that the reason why a cheating man thinks he likes mistress is because of the suspension bridge effect.
suspension bridge effect refers to the fact that when a person crosses the suspension bridge with fear, his heartbeat will involuntarily accelerate.
If you happen to meet another person at this time, then he will mistakenly understand the rapid heartbeat caused by this situation as a physiological reaction that makes the other party move, and thus develops love for the other party.
In this case, the career of a cheating man has passed the trough and has just improved a little. When the cheating man is in a happy mood.
The mistress appears, and he will mistakenly think that it was the mistress appearing, which made him feel better. After
, his career gradually improved, even better than before, and he would put all his credit on the mistress.
So a cheating man does not have any real feelings for the mistress,
is just affected by the suspension bridge effect. How well the mistress is with him? He has true love for the mistress.
Ms. Luo wants to solve the dilemma, what she needs to do is to break the suspension bridge effect.
The advice given to Ms. Luo is mainly two aspects.
On the one hand, it is a subjective hint to cheat on a man that the mistress is not her lucky star.
A cheating man is a little superstitious. When his career is not going well, he even prays to God and worships Buddha.
Ms. Luo also knows that he often goes to, and spent money to bribe fortune teller.
directly tells the man who suggests cheating, that the mistress’s help to his fortune is only superficial.
In fact, mistress ruins his fortune, and being with mistress will lose money.
Don’t worry, it will definitely come true, because mistresses are all for money.
A cheating man and mistress will definitely lose money when he is with his mistress. All the money goes to the mistress. How can he not lose money?
On the other hand, it is to let the colleagues of the cheating man directly break the cheating man's fantasy about the mistress from the side.
A cheating man counts all his credit on mistresses, which is very unreasonable in the workplace.
The mistress has just been in the job for three months. It is the mistress’s responsibility to do projects together, and it is not a great credit.
Compared with mistresses, those team members who have been with cheating men for half a year have made more contributions.
So Ms. Luo just finds a few employees she knows and conveys the idea of cheating on the man.
Other people who participate in the project, those subordinates who cheat on men, will naturally feel unbalanced.
What the management fears most is that their subordinates are resentful and have no intention of being on the same side as him.
career will naturally not go smoothly. Will a cheating man still think that the mistress is her lucky star?
From these two aspects, it directly breaks the "suspension bridge effect" of cheating men.
A cheating man thinks that the mistress is not only not a lucky star, but also a broom star.
Ms. Luo doesn’t need to do anything, he will stay away from the mistress himself.
Extramarital affair in the workplace, especially those of superiors and subordinates, either resigning alone and ending completely.
or two people who have had a very abnormal fight for their careers and have low contributions to the company were fired.
The second type of cheating man and mistress. The mistress was finally fired, and the man was also embarrassed.
at the end of the article Lan Fang wanted to say that in many cases of extramarital affairs, the man who cheated on him inexplicably fell in love with the mistress and was devoted to the mistress.
is affected by some psychological factors. Using psychology to analyze extramarital affairs is more conducive to finding the real cause.
You find out why a man cheats, and if you want to solve an extramarital affair, you will naturally get twice the result with half the effort.
If you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
