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Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were originally strangers, but because the son and daughter-in-law got married, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became relatives passively. The couple walked together after falling in love, liked each other, and worked together, so they would get along well after marriage.
But the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have not experienced running-in, and they may not necessarily like each other, so it is easy for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law living under the same roof. Some mother-in-law are very harsh on their daughter-in-law and always think that this is not good and that is not good. When the daughter-in-law resists, the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law breaks out.
people must put their hearts in mind. Only when the mother-in-law is good to her daughter-in-law, can the daughter-in-law be filial to her mother-in-law. Otherwise, why should the daughter-in-law be good to her mother-in-law? She didn't grow up after eating her mother-in-law's meal. When the daughter-in-law first got married into the mother-in-law's house, she was outside. The mother-in-law had to open her arms to accept her daughter-in-law so that she could feel belonging and love her mother-in-law.
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Mother-in-law always looks down on her daughter-in-law and picks on her daughter-in-law’s faults everywhere. After the daughter-in-law gave birth to the child, the mother-in-law was unwilling to help her take care of the child, but she ran to her daughter's house to take care of the second child. When my mother-in-law was taking care of her second child, she accidentally fell and injured her leg and wanted to go home and ask her daughter-in-law to take care of her.
This happened at Mei Ruixiang's house. She rejected her mother-in-law in one go. Her mother-in-law was very angry and called her unfilial. She said to her mother-in-law: I don't have this obligation. Let’s listen to their family’s stories.
Self-reporter: Mei Ruixiang
Age: 31 years old
Occupation: Full-time mother
City: Kunshan
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My husband and I met when we were working in another place. Because we were fellow villagers, we got closer and fell in love slowly. My family is not in good condition. My father is always sick and can’t work. My mother has to take care of him and can’t work well. So my brother and I didn’t read many books, so we went out to work and make a living.
I am alone in a foreign land, so I naturally encounter many difficulties. Since I met my husband, he has taken care of me everywhere. One night after get off work, I met two little hooligans on the way back to the rental house. Fortunately, my husband happened to pass by, so he helped me beat the two little hooligans away.
Later, he picked me up and dropped me off to work every day, and then we lived together. He said that this would not only protect me, but also save rent. After we lived together, he took me back to my hometown to meet his parents. We went to get married sincerely.
But my mother-in-law disagreed. She thought my parents' conditions were too poor, and she also thought I had lived with her son, saying that I was an indecent woman. My husband quarreled with his mother-in-law, saying that he wanted to live together, so I can't blame me, and I can't say that I'm an indecent woman.
My husband and mother-in-law fought for more than a year, and finally my husband insisted on taking me to get the marriage certificate , and I took one to take action first and then report. After seeing our marriage certificate, my mother-in-law had no choice but to hold a wedding for us.
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After marriage, my husband and I stopped working in other places. We found a job in our hometown and lived with our in-laws. In order to please my mother-in-law, I actively do housework, but my mother-in-law always thinks that this is not good and that is not good. Anyway, in her eyes, there is nothing good.
The old man comforted me and told me to bear it for the time being. After saving enough money, we would go buy a house and move out to order. For this reason, my husband worked hard and he was determined to buy a house as soon as possible. For my husband's sake, I didn't care about my mother-in-law and endured everything.
Maybe it was because I endured it, my mother-in-law became more and more overbearing when she saw that I was easy to bully. I was really wronged. My husband and I originally wanted to not have children for the time being, but after half a year of marriage, I got pregnant unexpectedly. Since you are pregnant, of course you have to stay. You can't get rid of it!
After someone’s daughter-in-law became pregnant, her mother-in-law always took special care of her daughter-in-law, but my mother-in-law didn’t take it seriously at all. When she saw me having morning sickness, she even said that I was pretentious. After three months of pregnancy, my elder sister-in-law became pregnant with her second child, and my mother-in-law went to visit her elder sister-in-law every three days and gave her this and that.
I really don’t understand why my mother-in-law is like this. She doesn’t like me, and I can still understand it, but I am pregnant with her son’s child in my belly! Why didn't she think about this child?
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The husband said that it was because he did not listen to his mother-in-law since he was a child, and he always fought with his mother-in-law, and when he married his wife, so his mother-in-law is like this. I can only explain this way if I think about it. We neither please my mother-in-law, and even our children are not welcomed.
After ten months of pregnancy, I gave birth to a daughter. Although my mother-in-law didn't say anything, her expression was obviously very disappointed. Only then did I realize that she wanted a grandson, but I gave birth to a granddaughter, which made her dissatisfied. She felt unhappy with my husband and I, so she didn't like our family of three anymore.
After I was discharged from the hospital, I thought my mother-in-law would take care of me during confinement, but my mother-in-law ignored me and the child at all. My husband was angry with my mother-in-law again and went to hire an aunt. The villagers naturally criticized her mother-in-law, saying that she would not take care of her daughter-in-law during confinement, so that her son would hire a nanny. The mother-in-law was so angry.
A month later, I asked my husband to quit the aunt. First, I felt that I could take care of the child; second, it would cost a lot of money to hire an aunt, but we didn’t have this condition; third, if you use an aunt, your relationship with your mother-in-law will be worse, so you still don’t need an aunt.
After the aunt left, I thought my mother-in-law should help us take care of the children! After the maternity leave is over, will I still have to go to work? But my mother-in-law didn't care about us or the children. She said she would care who gave birth to her.
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Because my mother-in-law is unwilling to help us take care of the children, I can only be a full-time mother. My husband went to find another part-time job as a rider, and he went out early and came back late every day, which was very hard. In fact, the husband and mother-in-law have very similar personalities. Both of them are stubborn and strong, so they will not surrender to each other.
Three months later, my elder sister-in-law gave birth to a second child and was a boy. My mother-in-law was very happy and went to take care of her elder sister-in-law and the child immediately, which was completely different from treating me. My elder sister-in-law had a bad relationship with her mother-in-law and was unwilling to let her mother-in-law take care of the children, so my mother-in-law stayed at my elder sister-in-law's house to help.
In a blink of an eye, my mother-in-law has been taking care of the child at my elder sister-in-law's house for two years. One day when she went to chase her grandson, she accidentally fell and broke her leg. The elder sister-in-law and his wife had to go to work and could not take care of their mother-in-law, so the mother-in-law proposed to send her home and send the child to the elder sister-in-law's house, and the matter was resolved.
After my mother-in-law came back, because my husband and father-in-law had to go to work, I was the only one who took care of the children at home, so my mother-in-law naturally asked me to take care of her. I thought that since I first arrived at her house, she had never given me a good look and had never done anything for me, so I refused.
My mother-in-law was so angry that she called me unfilial, and said: I don’t have this obligation. She told me to get out and said that the house belonged to her and the old man, so I would not let me live there. My husband was very angry when he found out, so he insisted on sending his mother-in-law to his aunt's house to let them take responsibility, and then took me and the child out to rent a house.
Conclusion:
The child is too big to help his mother. The love between parents and children is gradually separated. Mei Ruixiang's mother-in-law cannot accept her son leaving her emotionally in her bones. She also wanted to control her son like she did when she was a child, and her son listened to her everything.
But my son is also a very personal person and sticks to his own ideas, so there is a conflict between the mother and the son. When the son was looking for a partner, he found a daughter-in-law who his mother-in-law didn't like, which disappointed her. Therefore, the mother-in-law doesn’t like the daughter-in-law and picks on the faults of the daughter-in-law everywhere, which leads to the dissonance of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law’s relationship.
Later, the mother-in-law did not help her son take care of the children, but went to help her daughter take care of the second child. The son and daughter-in-law must have an objection. So when the mother-in-law fell and injured her leg and wanted her daughter-in-law to take care of her, the daughter-in-law refused.
People's hearts are full of flesh, and they must put their hearts in mind. What does the mother-in-law do for her daughter-in-law? Why should she let her daughter-in-law take care of her mother-in-law? I looked at my mother-in-law in the first ten years, and in the next ten years, if my mother-in-law wants to make my daughter-in-law filial, I must be kind to my daughter-in-law first. If I can help my son and daughter-in-law, I will do my best to help my son and daughter-in-law.
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