Author: Qing Ruxu (author of Fushu)
The father of emotional intelligence Daniel Gorman said: "A person's success has only 20% of the effect of IQ, and the remaining 80% are factors of EQ ."
has also seen this sentence: IQ determines your lower limit, and emotional intelligence determines your upper limit.
It makes sense to think about it carefully. A truly smart person is a person with high emotional intelligence.
High emotional intelligence is not a sleek and politeness, but a perfect grasp of speaking, doing things, and dealing with people, making people as comfortable as spring breeze.
The degree to which a person can feel comfortable speaking and doing things can determine the height of life.
Soft words, firm heart, and decisive things are often the beginning of a person's outstanding performance.
Spoken soft words, making people feel as if they are in spring breeze
Former US President Coolidge speaks little, but if he doesn't say it, he will be amazing.
Coolidge has a female secretary who has fair skin and beautiful appearance, but her work is constantly making mistakes.
One day, Coolidge said to her: "The clothes you wear today are so beautiful, just for a young and beautiful lady like you."
The female secretary was flattered.
Coolidge changed his mind and continued, "But don't be proud, I believe that your ability to handle work can be as beautiful as you."
As expected, since that day, the female secretary rarely made mistakes at work.
People like Coolidge who know how to retreat to advance and speak softly can make the other party accept their suggestions in a warm and emotional mood.
soft words reflect respect and consideration for others. At the same time, it also contains the wisdom of "weakness overcomes strength".
Cai Kangyong said: " The more you can speak, the happier others will be; the happier others will be, the more you will like you. "
Actor Tao Hong is such a person: able to talk and be pleasant.
In the variety show " Aspiration for Life ", everyone was chatting, Zhang Zifeng and Zhang Jingyi are on the side swing .
Everyone sighed when they saw such a beautiful picture.
Zhou Xun said, "Look at these two little girls."
Sha Yi also sighed, "The two little girls are quietly next to you!"
Tao Hong responded, "It looks so good. I always look at them secretly. They are here to beautify their lives."
Unexpectedly, the next day, Tao Hong's words became a hot search on Weibo.
Netizens are hotly discussed: Why is Teacher Tao Hong so good at speaking?
Talks softly like water, like spring breeze and rain, moistening things silently, giving people the most beautiful kindness and gentle watch.
"You can spit roses on your mouth, and you can spit terrestrial thorns ." What you say in
means what kind of person you are.
Get along with your family, speak softly, feel comfortable, and the family relationship is naturally harmonious;
Get along with your friends, speak softly, be kind to others, and interpersonal relationships will be harmonious.
People who speak softly can express real care and convey the power of wisdom with a sense of proportion, always leave face to others and cultivation to themselves.
I am confident in my heart, keep my own rhythm
More than a year ago, the movie "Bamboo" selected young actors, and 8-year-old Yu Feihong was selected.
From then on, when the actor's dream took root in her heart.
During the college entrance examination, Yu Feihong was admitted to Hangzhou Foreign Languages College. Her parents were very satisfied, but she couldn't be happy.
After finishing her freshman year, Yu Feihong decided to drop out of school and pursue his dream.
After a lot of hardships, she finally got admitted to Beijing Film Academy .
During college, she was extremely self-disciplined. When her classmates were in love, she was studying hard and learning English; when her classmates slept in, she got up early to practice martial arts and never was lazy.
Yu Feihong seems to be alternative and does not rush to integrate into other people's circles, but blooms in his own rhythm.
When she was in her sophomore year, she received an invitation from the Hollywood movie " Xifuhui " to play the leading female role.
After the movie was finished, Hollywood threw an olive branch to her, but she refused because she wanted to return to China to complete her studies.
After graduating from university, she stayed at school to teach, and her life was almost perfect, but she resigned a year later and chose to study abroad.
She has a very clear goal pursuit, calm and independent, sober and self-sustaining.
Yu Feihong returned to China after studying and was designated as the heroine of the TV series "Hands in Hands".
After reading the script, she took the initiative to play the role of "miss three" Wang Chun.
However, Yu Feihong became famous in one battle and was nominated for the 19th Feitian Award for "Best Actress".
Since then, there have been continuous film contracts.
In the martial arts drama "Little Li Fei Dao", "The Sword of the Third Young Master", " Crane Horse Xiao Xifeng ", Yu Feihong plays classic characters...
Just when the "star road" is smooth sailing, she made an amazing decision - to make a movie.
Facing a brand new challenge, everything starts from scratch.
She decided that one thing must be done even if she overcomes all difficulties. This is Yu Feihong's determination.
After 10 years, Yu Feihong's craftsmanship movie " Love to Have the Next Life " was released.
However, this drama, which invested 40 million yuan, only recovered 2 million yuan in box office.
But she said: "What others may gain is the box office, but I feel that I have gained a lot of spiritual gains. Ten years may be the best time for a woman, but I don't regret dedicating it to a movie."
Because, Yu Feihong always keeps a clear mind and knows very well what she wants.
The heart is firm and there are mountains and rivers in your heart; only by sticking to yourself can you be quiet and clear.
Once a person is determined to do something, no matter how many difficulties and difficulties encountered, no matter how fate teases others play, no matter how ridicule others, he can focus on his mind and move forward firmly.
Just as Bi Shumin said: A good heart does not have to be gorgeous, but it must be strong.
People with strong hearts always follow their own choices, keep their own rhythm, never blindly follow others, change the direction and rhythm of their lives at will, and are not enslaved by other people's opinions, and will not deliberately prove themselves through external evaluations.
decisive in doing things and solve everything by acting
My cousin was unwilling to be mediocre and decided to open a trading company in Guangdong, requiring 1 million start-up capital and still has a gap of 400,000.
Mother ignored the opposition of people around him and took out most of his life's savings to let him do it.
Only my mother supports her. My cousin is under a lot of pressure and has thought of giving up, worried about losing her mother's pension money.
Since you have chosen, you don’t want so much. Once you anchor your goal, you won’t look back; otherwise, you can only be the mediocre self.
Cousin's company made a profit after one and a half years. Not only did he pay back his mother's money, he also spent 3 years to buy a house in Guangdong, so that everyone could see each other.
My cousin told me that I thought that I could make money by doing trade, so I did it decisively. Although there were many difficulties at the beginning, it would be smooth to survive.
I remembered a sentence: Instead of missing the opportunity, it is better to take the initiative.
People who are hesitant are prone to seeking troubles, affecting themselves and others, and in the end they will achieve half the result with twice the effort.
People with firm hearts will do whatever they believe, and will not waste their time in hesitation.
A reporter asked when interviewing EDS CEO Ross Pelo, "What is the secret to your company's success?"
Ross Pelo's answer was interesting: "Prepare, launch, aim."
Everyone doesn't understand it very much. Because according to the rules, it should be prepared, aimed, and launched.
He explained this: "We never wait for a method to act, but instead seek methods in action and aim in action. If the shot is missed, it doesn't matter, correct it and launch again. The important thing is launch, it is action!"
Opportunity is like lightning, and only fast and decisive can you capture it.
People who have wonderful ideas but do not act decisively can always be left outside the door to success. " Thirty-eight Letters Leave to My Son by Rockefeller " There is a sentence like this: Action solves everything, without action, nothing will happen. Don’t be indecisive in the matters you determine ; choose the right direction and just move forward. "When you keep breaking, you will be confused." Too much thinking will consume your courage and determination, but looking forward will make you confused. A project, if you work hard for half a year, you will give up it decisively without profit; A book, if you read it for a long time, you still don’t understand the meaning, you will decisively throw it away; A person, if you always make you sad, you will let go and stay away from him; A kind of thinking, if you make your work and life have no improvement, you will decisively format it... When you break, stop loss in time, which is the style of a strong man. Only by doing things decisively and simply, your career will be smooth sailing and smooth. An old saying goes: "A gentleman is like jade, and can be warm at all your fingers." The better a person is, the more he knows how to make people feel comfortable. Getting with him is like bathing in the spring breeze, never getting tired of it. A truly powerful person is not arrogant and arrogant, but speaks as soft as water, is as hard as stone in his heart, and acts as fast as the wind. Talk as soft as water. Only by grasping the right measure will make people feel comfortable; The heart is as hard as a stone. Keep your own rhythm so that you will not be influenced by others; Behave decisively as the wind, and choose the right time to attack to increase the probability of success. From now on, I hope you will be warm, introverted, calm and steady on the road to life, and strive to live as you want. Author Profile : is so clear, Fu Shu columnist , likes to read and write, insists on writing, and uses words to convey warmth and strength. The new book "Life Good" is being sold hot, and it is upgraded with 5 million people to upgrade life awareness. This article: Fu Shu, the copyright of this article belongs to Fu Shu, and it is not allowed to be reproduced without authorization. Infringement will be pursued.
