In the consultations we have received in the past, we have found many intriguing questions: "Why are men so easy to be fickle?", "Does men not know how to cherish the people in front of them?", "After dating me, I feel that he is becoming more and more indifferent?"... There are many problems like
, which has troubled many girls, and they are tasteless and unable to sleep at night. Because men and women have different ways of thinking, there are great differences in the perspectives of both parties in viewing the problem.
Women care about problems mostly emotional understanding, while men care more about problems in ways to solve problems, which will lead to sometimes women not being able to understand what men’s motivations and ideas are.
So now let’s analyze the way men view emotions from a psychological perspective, and see why men become indifferent after they get the person they love.
Unknown sense
Unknown things are very attractive and curious to men. This unknown thing will prompt them to actively find more directions about it in order to understand its ins and outs.
especially for a woman who likes but is mysterious. This unknown and mysterious desire will amplify the man's desire to explore everything and guide him to approach the woman he likes. When the relationship between the two parties is not confirmed, this desire for exploration will be full of strong emotions. At this time, the man is always nervous and impatient about the process of this exploration.
When a man pursues a woman, everything he shows is full of care and meticulousness, and she will tolerate everything she likes.
This is not because he likes her, but because a man has a strong desire to explore women. Even if he encounters some ups and downs in the process, as long as he feels he can do it, he will keep working hard to do his best.
However, a man's state will not last for a long time. Instead, when a man's desire to explore gradually disappears, such tolerance and enthusiasm will gradually decrease, but this will not affect the further continuation of the relationship between the two parties.
After getting it
When both parties have a relationship, the girl will develop a strong emotional dependence on the boy. This is an emotional tendency to recognize from the bottom of her heart that she belongs to the other party, similar to the sense of dependence between relatives and friends. This sense of dependence will make the girl trust the other party more and will involuntarily listen to the other party’s opinions in many aspects that need to make choices.
But what men get in this regard is different. After a man gets a woman, the desire to pursue becomes a sense of satisfaction. When this desire is satisfied, the desire to possess will slowly decrease, and instead be the way he gets along before pursuing the other person.
This kind of emotional attitude will make a woman feel less passionate than she had in love, and then her attitude towards the man will change, thinking that his feelings for him are not as deep as before.
But in fact, this is just the difference between the response between men and not getting the two stages. This is just the illusion caused by the difference in the way of thinking of women and men.
From passionate love to gradually fading
Hot love period Most of the relationship can only last for three to four months in many relationships. During this period, the relationship between the two parties will reach the peak of love. I wish I could get along with each other every day, but maintaining this kind of emotion is very difficult.
Because while both parties have a good impression of each other, the other's shortcomings will also be revealed bit by bit. Such exposure will cause the favorability generated during a passionate relationship to gradually decrease for both parties.
As the love period becomes longer and longer, the two parties spend more and more time together, and the other party's image will gradually collapse. In order not to let both parties in the love period feel the other party's affection, loving actions are very necessary.
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Author: Yan Lingsheng
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