Hu Shi said: "If we want to harvest good results in the future, we must work hard to plant the new causes of the present. Every seed will be harvested in a full house."
There must be a cause, and there must be a cause. Sow good causes and good results, and sow bad causes and evil results. There is no good thing about pie falling from the world. If you want to get what you want, you have to pay the corresponding cost first.
For example, as a student, if you want to get good grades, you must first study hard, get up early and go to bed late, work hard to memorize, practice questions, and study skills.
The same is true for parents. Many people still stick to traditional ideas, believing that the grace of giving birth is greater than that of heaven. They believe that as long as they have grace of giving birth to their children, they can do whatever they want to their children. Even if the demands they make are unreasonable, their children must meet them. Otherwise, they can blame their children from the commanding heights of morality, and even force their children to compromise by making trouble.
If you fail to fulfill your parents' responsibilities and only know how to oppress your children with their parents' identities, you will always scold your children for being unfilial, use public opinion, and even go to court with your children, even if you can get support, you can only get money. Your children's hearts have long been cold, and you will never need their heartfelt filial piety and care.
As there is a saying in "Yan Family Instructions": Those who are blessed with weather will move from top to bottom, and those who are first to put them on the latter. Therefore, if a father is not kind, the son is unfilial; if a brother is not friendly, the younger brother is disrespectful; if a husband is not righteous, the wife will be unhappy.
Father is kind and filial to the son, but the father is not kind and the son is not filial to the son, and before asking the children to be filial, can you ask yourself to be a qualified parent?
"After being hospitalized, none of the 10-member children and grandchildren were willing to stay and serve me, and the medical expenses were paid. My daughter told her eldest son that I was partial and gave all my love and money to the younger son, so she should go to find her younger son to support her. They had no obligation, nor did they have the energy and strength to take care of me. The younger son refused and asked me to sue them. The younger daughter-in-law turned around and left, saying that the daughter-in-law was not obliged to serve my mother-in-law. Why did I have such a miserable life?"
What's worse is that the hospital urged the aunt to pay the fee, but the aunt didn't have much money at all.
01.Daughter: As early as when she cheated me of savings from working for 7 years, my mother-daughter relationship with her was gone;
After the aunt was hospitalized, she called her daughter the first call, hoping that her daughter would come to see her. In fact, her purpose is very clear. She wants to wait for her daughter to come, and ask her to pay her medical expenses, and then serve her.
However, after receiving the call, my daughter just asked about her a few symbolic questions, and then hung up the phone on the grounds of being busy with work. She refused to come back or pay the money, which made the aunt feel furious and kept making phone calls and sending messages, accusing her daughter in the family group.
In desperation, the son-in-law persuaded his wife to go back, and the daughter and her husband rushed back and showed up. However, in the face of the aunt's unfilial accusations, the cousin's attitude was justified.
"The water splashed by the married daughter, from now on, you are someone else's family. It has nothing to do with me, and I don't need you to care about it. Don't you remember this? Mom. It doesn't matter, you don't remember it, just remember. Not only do I remember this sentence, I also remember how you deceived me into savings for my son for seven years."
After the cousin's school, my uncle and aunt stopped her from continuing to study. She first let her plant the land in her hometown for a few years, and then asked her to work in the city.
When the cousin was working, she only left the basic living expenses and sent all the other money home. The aunt told her daughter many times that she only had a small portion of the money and saved the rest to serve as a dowry for the cousin. The cousin believed her deeply and gave all the hard-earned money to the cousin, but she gave all the hard-earned money to the cousin, but it turned into her little cousin's house.
Until now, I remember the scene when my cousin asked for savings but was beaten and kicked out of the house by his parents and little brother. At that time, my mother said that she favored boys over girls and was careful of being retaliated, but she didn't care.
"As early as when you cheated me of my savings from working for 7 years, my mother and daughter's relationship would have been gone. If my husband hadn't wanted me to have a family and advised me to maintain a superficial relationship with you, I would have blocked you and asked me to ask me for money, but there was no door."
The aunt not only felt guilty after hearing her daughter's accusation, but also cursed her. The cousin who was beside her heard it, raised her fist and wanted to move her sister. She was scared away by her cousin's words, "When I face my wife, I raise her fist, don't you? I want to fight, come on, I will fulfill you."
02. The eldest daughter-in-law believed that the mother-in-law was biased and did not help her, and refused to work hard. The younger daughter-in-law insisted on the three families to share the elderly and refused to bear all of them;
The cousin and her cousin left, not only did not stay to take care of the aunt, but also did not give a penny. The aunt couldn't do anything about her daughter who had her husband's protection and had already had a hard wing, so she had to call her eldest daughter-in-law and ask her to serve her.
"Serve you? Who are you? If you don't serve me in confinement, and if you don't take care of your children, why should I serve you? Mom, ask you a question, is my husband your biological child? Where did you pick him up? How did I speak? If you were your mother's biological child, would your mother be so partial? You two brothers got married one year after another, your sister-in-law has a bride price and a wedding house, and I have nothing, why?"
"Why didn't your mother pay the medical expenses? If she didn't give her pension and house to her younger son, would she not even have the money for medical treatment? It's okay to let us share the burden. We'll share half of the money and half of the house, otherwise there's no negotiation."
"The money has been spent, and the house has been sold long ago. You can't afford to eat." The aunt called and opened the hands-free one. When the cousin on the side heard his sister-in-law's words, he turned over.
The cousin's wife was not willing to be outdone, but she ignored her cousin and aunt. She said to her cousin: "Listen, what did your brother say? Is there anything you can do to your sister-in-law like this? Let me tell you, if you dare to give your mother a penny, let's not pass it. My son and daughter belong to me. Get out of here, I will do what I say." After
, the cousin's wife hung up the phone and couldn't get through again. The aunt called her cousin, and her cousin answered and roared: "What are you doing? You really want me to divorce! The house and money are given to the younger son, so go find him, why do you want me to do? There is no money, no one, please do it!"
Seeing that her daughter and eldest son could not count on, the aunt had no choice but to give orders to her daughter-in-law: "Xiaohui goes back to rest, let your wife stay and serve me, and pay the medical expenses with some money."
didn't expect it, and kept watching. The young daughter-in-law, who was very sensible and respectful when she coaxed the aunt to take out the house and pension, turned her back: "Mom, what are you saying? You gave birth to three children and didn't give me, why should I serve you? If you want to serve your son, let your son serve you. Also, it is natural for children to support your parents. They both refuse to give you money. You sue them, why should we pay all of us?" After
, my cousin and his wife also left, and she was unwilling to take care of the aunt at all. My cousin followed her wife and left her to stay in a daze in the hospital. I didn't know what to do.
03. A bowl of water will not only not have a good life in your old age, but also the brotherly feelings between the children will disappear.
As a writer once said: The root cause of disputes among families with multiple children is not the love between brothers and sisters, but the injustice of parents.
For children, parents are the most important people, and their care, care and love are absolutely impossible for them to give to others.
If brothers and sisters live a good life through their own efforts, then at most they will envy them, take them as examples, and will not have too much resentment. However, if the reason why brothers and sisters can live well is because of their parents' partiality, and that their parents take away the resources and love that belongs to them, and let their brothers and sisters take advantage of all the advantages, how can they be willing to live well?
If there is any injustice, you will be resentful. In the end, children will not only resent brothers and sisters, but also parents.
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