There is a good mother-in-law first and then a good daughter-in-law. If mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can understand each other and treat each other as a family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be a difficult problem at all.
A sensible mother-in-law will criticize her son when she sees her son is not good to her daughter-in-law. But there is a kind of mother-in-law who is afraid that the couple will have a good relationship and will not be ashamed of their son and their daughter-in-law.
Such mother-in-law not only regards her daughter-in-law as an outsider, but even an enemy. She has suffered hardships before, so her daughter-in-law has to eat it, otherwise she will feel unbalanced.
Da Liu is very distressed. His wife has a bad relationship with her mother, and she is very embarrassed when she is stuck in the middle: help her wife, the mother is angry; if you don’t help, the wife is angry. If you want to blame, you can only blame yourself for being incompetent and not being able to buy a house, and you can only live with your parents.
My mother had suffered a lot before and always told him how bad my grandmother treats her. Da Liu also knew that his mother's relationship with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was tense, and even her grandmother passed away, she did not forgive her.
But people are no longer there. No matter how big the grudges are, they should be put down, and they should not affect their current life.
Mother doesn't understand this principle. After many years of hard work, she became a mother-in-law, and she unknowingly became a bad mother-in-law, living in the way she hated without knowing it.
Usually, there are always quarrels between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law about trivial matters. Da Liu knew that his mother was a little unreasonable, so he spoke to his wife, but annoyed her mother and directly scolded him for marrying his wife and forgot his mother.
The wife was in confinement. Da Liu knew that her mother would not take good care of her, so he took the time to come back to help her wife cook and take care of her children, so that her daughter-in-law would work harder during the day and wait for her to come back if she had anything to do.
The most taboo for mothers is to get angry, but the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law have conflicts, so getting angry is inevitable, which will affect the baby's food. Da Liu had to buy crucian carp and go back to stew the soup.
After work this day, my wife asked Liu to stew more soup, otherwise the child would cry if he was hungry. Da Liu went into the kitchen, took out all the fish in the refrigerator, and cooked a pot of thick, milky white soup.
At this time, my mother came to the kitchen and saw this pot of soup. She immediately got angry and asked Liu how many fish he used? He even called him a prodigal son. He didn't have fish soup before, so why would he still raise him so old? His wife is spoiled.
Liu didn't say anything and served a bowl of soup to his wife. But the mother and son's conversation was heard by the wife, and the wife was also very angry, so where could she drink it? When he pushed the bowl, he asked Liu, what does mother-in-law mean?
Mother heard the movement and rushed to the living room, picked up the bowl and fell to the ground, smashing it directly, and scolding her: I'm serving you and serving you, right? Want to be angry with you? Reverse isn't it?
Da Liu looked at the mess, his mother scolded and his wife cried, and he was almost collapsed. I really didn't know how to deal with the conflict between my mother and my daughter-in-law, so I sent it to the Internet for help.
comments
Some netizens commented that this kind of mother-in-law is not scary, at least it will be directly brought to you directly. If you encounter someone who can act, you will be even more grateful.
Some netizens also commented that stay away from this kind of mother-in-law. If you have suffered hardships, you have to let your wife eat them too. Why can’t you have some empathy and let your wife not suffer the hardships you have suffered?
There are also netizens who commented that the son can try to care more about his mother, and maybe the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be better.
Editor's opinion
Some people have suffered from mother-in-law's hardships before, so they are particularly considerate of their daughter-in-law and considerate to their daughter-in-law. If their daughter-in-law is happy, their son will be happy.
But some people don’t think so. They only know that their daughter-in-law has become a mother-in-law for many years. After finally it’s their turn to turn over, they refuse to make their wife feel comfortable. Otherwise, when she is a daughter-in-law, she is angry with her mother-in-law and wants to serve her daughter-in-law when she is a mother-in-law, she feels unbalanced.
The best solution for Liu to get in is to move out and live alone. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will reduce the chance of meeting each other, and reconcile yourself, be filial to your mother and love your daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be eased.
